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Original poster

To be shocked that he has a kid?

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WanderWomble · 14/06/2015 21:30

A friend of a friend is a professional racing driver. I've followed his career on and off and even been to watch him race a few times.

I found out yesterday that he has a kid (a son). He's never mentioned having a son in the four or five years I've known him and it's blowing my mind. I think it's wonderful- I bet he's a great dad and his son has a wonderful life.

I just can't wrap my head around the fact and I feel kinda silly. Brain keeps going 'he has a kid?! It's just so weird to me because I've never seen him as a Dad before now. AIBU?

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Original poster
WanderWomble · 14/06/2015 22:56

(I have however been on the vino, so may be overthinking this.)

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WorraLiberty · 14/06/2015 22:58

< Sigh >

OP, can you please say whether the kid lives with the friend of a friend?

BIWI · 14/06/2015 22:59

Yes, people normally talk about their children! So someone who doesn't talk about them - surely you would wonder just what kind of parent they really are?

Original poster
WanderWomble · 14/06/2015 22:59

I honestly don't know, sorry. I know that he has a son and that's it. (Weirdly enough, two people mentioned it in one day.)

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pinkyredrose · 14/06/2015 23:01

You find out someone you don't know that we'll has a kid. And? Wtf do you want us to say?

WorraLiberty · 14/06/2015 23:01

So don't know if his kid lives with him? If he ever sees him? If he pays maintenance? If he has any involvement at all in his life?

And yet you reckon he's probably a great and fantastic dad?

Bonkers....completely barking.

Glitoris · 14/06/2015 23:03

Oh Lordie,you just don't see how your op made you come across,do you?

Yes,we would all find it strange to know someone for 5 years without them every mentioning they had a child.

However,we find it even stranger that you gush about how you bet he's a great Dad,the child has a great life etc etc.

I think the word that sums your excitement about this has been already mentioned.......Cringey

QuintShhhhhh · 14/06/2015 23:04

Why does it matter that he is a racing driver?

Would it be any different if he was a lorry driver? Or rode a scooter to work?

BrilliantineMortality · 14/06/2015 23:08

Did he keep the son a secret from everyone in the "tight group" or did everyone else know?

Gabilan · 14/06/2015 23:10

Perhaps he's just used to keeping his family out of the limelight. Not unreasonable given how the media react although of course it does depend on how well known this "professional racing driver" is.

longlistofexlovers · 14/06/2015 23:11

You fancy him!

SurlyCue · 14/06/2015 23:14

Yes CRINGE totally sums up this thread.

He's never mentioned having a son in the four or five years I've known him and it's blowing my mind.

are you high? Blowing your mind? Hmm

I feel kinda silly.

theres a reason for that.

It's just so weird to me because I've never seen him as a Dad before now.

youre investing a lot of time thinking about this guy. Have you talked to your husband about how your mind was blown by this revelation?

Weebirdie · 14/06/2015 23:14

Dear Ginger Spice,

Maybe he didn't tell you because he's scared you'd have asked if his son could be a page boy at your wedding. He can probably see how star struck you are.

Patapouf · 14/06/2015 23:14

I too suspect you fancy him!

BlueBananas · 14/06/2015 23:18

You soooooo fancy him!!

msgrinch · 14/06/2015 23:19

This is odd. You have a serious crush on this guy. It's cringey.

Glitoris · 14/06/2015 23:20

You do sound a tad orgasmic,Op.

TheFairyCaravan · 14/06/2015 23:20

Someone really wants a friend of a friend to be more than half a friend.

This is the cringiest, weirdest thread there has been in a long term.

GrannyWW · 14/06/2015 23:21

I think he just likes to keep his personal life private from slightly strange groupies?

BlessedAndGr8fulNoInLaws4Xmas · 14/06/2015 23:23

Grin O lord iv had such a shite day --thankyou for starting this thread OP because Worra's response just made my whole insides chuckle with laughter.

Scoopmuckdizzy · 14/06/2015 23:25

I felt really uncomfortable reading most of the replies on here, some are just nasty, even what is said is meant to be a joke.

Fabellini · 14/06/2015 23:29

This is all a little odd...but the thing that strikes me is the ops immediate supposition that her friend must be a great dad.
If I'd known someone for a couple of years and they'd never mentioned a child, not once, my initial reaction would be that they were probably an absent parent who doesn't really bother.

ReginaBlitz · 14/06/2015 23:39

Unfortunately he doesn't class you as a friend else you would know! Also does sound like you want to shag him and you are jealous or something

Original poster
WanderWomble · 14/06/2015 23:43

Maybe I'm just giving him the benefit of the doubt? I've seen him interact with kids at various events and he's good with them.

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Weebirdie · 14/06/2015 23:57

Wander, what did you want out of this thread because for the life of me I cannot even begin to think what it was.

And sad to say I really do think you've totally got your level of friendship with the man wrong.

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