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To be shocked that he has a kid?

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WanderWomble · 14/06/2015 21:30

A friend of a friend is a professional racing driver. I've followed his career on and off and even been to watch him race a few times.

I found out yesterday that he has a kid (a son). He's never mentioned having a son in the four or five years I've known him and it's blowing my mind. I think it's wonderful- I bet he's a great dad and his son has a wonderful life.

I just can't wrap my head around the fact and I feel kinda silly. Brain keeps going 'he has a kid?! It's just so weird to me because I've never seen him as a Dad before now. AIBU?

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arethereanyleftatall · 14/06/2015 22:01

Midirichan - I think you've said the exact thing it seems the op was hoping someone would say.

Haffdonga · 14/06/2015 22:01

Aaah! So he's famous and it's a secret child. Yes?

mrsruffallo · 14/06/2015 22:02

Is it lewis Hamilton? He's never mentioned a son to me, but then I don't know him.

PrincessShcherbatskaya · 14/06/2015 22:02

Well yes it is strange that your friend never mentioned he had a child. But it's also strange that you then assume he'd be a wonderful father.. After all most wonderful fathers don't usually withhold the fact they have children from the people they know like some kind of secret.

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WanderWomble · 14/06/2015 22:03

Because otherwise saying I've followed his career might sound a bit weird? You might all think he was a postman or something and I've been stalking him on his rounds. :)

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WorraLiberty · 14/06/2015 22:03

You wouldn't find it strange that someone you've known for a while has a child and has never mentioned the fact?

Does the child live with him?

If not, then no I wouldn't find it that strange tbh.

If you were his best mate then I probably would.

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WanderWomble · 14/06/2015 22:08

He's not a F1 driver, I promise.

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ahbollocks · 14/06/2015 22:11

You sooooo fancy him Grin

WorraLiberty · 14/06/2015 22:14

Does his child live with him?

If you've only just found out he has a son, why have you said twice that you think he's bound to be a 'great dad' and a 'fantastic dad'?

What are you basing that on, or do you assume every parent with a child is great and fantastic?

Momagain1 · 14/06/2015 22:17

If child and ex don't even live with him, there may be an element of out of sight, out of mind that dates right back to when they were dating and when she was pregnant, and is why she is an ex and the child lives with her. None of which is your business, even now.

If he is sort of semi-famous, (with the possibility of further fame if he wins big one season) it may be in the child's best interest NOT to mention him unless absolutely necessary, like to a girlfriend if the relationship is moving beyond just a few dates. Being the child of someone the redtops have the least bit of interest in, is a nightmare, so the fewer people who know of the child or anything about the child's mother, the fewer can feed gossip or cell phone pics to those hounds.

arethereanyleftatall · 14/06/2015 22:19

I don't really understand the point of this thread.
I get this as an aibu 'is it wierd for friend to not mention son?'.
But I can't fathom why it's of any interest to anyone whether or not this stranger would be a good dad, or his career, or the fact you follow his career etc etc

cleanmyhouse · 14/06/2015 22:22

Cringe.

Patapouf · 14/06/2015 22:23

Eh? Why do you even care?

firesidechat · 14/06/2015 22:27

Cringe

Yep, me too.

A friend of a friend isn't a friend.

Pancakeflipper · 14/06/2015 22:31

Well he either:

Doesn't rate you as part of the circle of friends so has no need to tell you his personal details.

Is intensely private.

There's issues regarding his relationship with his son and doesn't want to refer to it.

BIWI · 14/06/2015 22:33

If he's never mentioned his child, then why would you think he's a great dad?

This is a seriously weird thread

cleanmyhouse · 14/06/2015 22:36

this is a seriously weird thread

WorraLiberty · 14/06/2015 22:37

I have a friend of a friend who works in Lidls.

I've kind of followed his career on and off I suppose because I've taken my shopping trolley to his till sometimes.

Anyway, I was absolutely shocked to find he has a granddaughter! Shock

It's blowing my mind. I think it's wonderful and I bet he's a fantastic granddad.

I just can't wrap my head around the fact and I feel kinda silly. Brain keeps going 'he has a grandkid?! It's just so weird to me because I've never seen him as a granddad before now. AIBU?

SpendSpendSpend · 14/06/2015 22:40

I have a feeling he doesnt see his child and thats why he doesnt tell people he has one

Unexpected · 14/06/2015 22:45

Why would you start a thread about a friend of a friend having a child and you think he would be a wonderful dad? On what basis do you think he would be a great dad - the fact that he has never mentioned his child to you?! You may not mean to, but you do come across as star-struck and having a crush on the guy. Why should he have mentioned his child to you - maybe he likes to keep his private life private?

younggifted · 14/06/2015 22:51

U wot luv

ashtrayheart · 14/06/2015 22:52

Oddest thread ever Grin

DawnOfTheDoggers · 14/06/2015 22:52

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BrilliantineMortality · 14/06/2015 22:54

Anyone seen the Peep Show episode when Super Hans reveals he has twins?

"What do you mean I never mention the twins? I talk about them all the time... they were funf zwei years ago... pair of eighters".

Sorry to derail, but I find that scene so funny.

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WanderWomble · 14/06/2015 22:55

Really folks? You wouldn't be surprised to find out that someone you'd known for a while had a child who he'd never mentioned?

I do think 'shocked' was the wrong word to use, so I'm sorry for that. No need to take the piss out of me though. In my experience, people generally mention their kids, even just in passing.

I don't have a crush on the dude, nor am I star struck.

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