To think this is a weird thing to do. And there is nothing I can do about it

[meganorks]

This might be more of a WWYD. Although I don't think there is anything I can.
Today I got a letter through the post containing a poem about my child. Basically saying I am a rubbish mother and she has caused pain and grief to others and that I don't care about her behavior. That's the summary. I have attached a photo so you can read for yourself. I don't know who has written it or what if anything I can do about it. I'm pretty sure the the implied accusations are not true. I should add that my daughter is nearly 4 not a teenager or something! So she is pretty much with me apart from when she is at nursery. I haven't been informed about any incident that might result in such an anonymous letter. So I wonder if it is just aimed at me? Although I didn't realise I had such enemies either.
So just wondered what other people would do if they got something like this? I thought I might report it to the police just in case it is something random that other people have been getting. Seems like a long shot, but it was addressed to me in my maiden name (got married less than a year ago) so wondered if it was maybe someone at a children's centre or something sending out horrible letters to people.

Definitely sounds like the playgroup. Report to the police, I think they may well be able to track down the culprit with that information. I think you definitely have done the right thing reporting the playgroup, whoever wrote that letter should not be entrusted with the care of children.

Yep I think you've maybe solved it. Blimey though!!

Has she been subject to investigation and found wanting I wonder?

OMG I cannot believe someone would do this. It definitely fits the playgroup situation. That is hideous. Good luck Mega I truly hope you get to the bottom of this

Well it certainly fits in well with the nursery thats for sure.

That's really creepy! When read in light of the playgroup incident it makes sense as it talks of far reaching consequences and being gone. However surely if you reported the incident to Ofstead and they investigated they would have been in touch with you so you would know about it. Also it wouldn't take them 18 months to check would it?

What struck me was that it was definitely from an old person with the talk of the child of today.

I would report to the police!

Playgroup seems to be the best fit, can you search the Ofsted website to see if they have been closed down or new administration etc?

"The repercussions for sisters and brothers" - have you or your dh got any siblings? Or is she talking about your dd's siblings?

Really odd, and creepy.

That's a really sinister poem. I'm trying to imagine the mindset of the author (other than just "weird"); they're very bitter about something and they blame your daughter. Creepy. Worth letting the police know I think.

I would assume 'brothers and sisters' refers to the other children at the nursery. Which is also v old fashioned def an old person.

[shocked] how odd!

really, really creepy and sinister and I would certainly be sending it to the police. it's not even quickly scribbled out poison pen stuff - it's carefully thought about poetry! (shit though..) how on earth could a 4yo wind anyone up that much???!

My bet is its the playgroup woman - shame on her if so >:(

Dd is 3, not 4 people...

The op writes nearly four.

I think you've cracked it with the playgroup lady! It has been some time since the incident and as you said maybe ofsted only just got round to doing something, or my other thought was she has had a health decline - beginnings of dementia/alzheimer's when people remember most things but start to act oddly and more extreme - this happened to a relative of mine and for months before diagnosis she was incredibly rude and out spoken (out of character) and would get really irrationally angry over almost nothing. Or the writer could be suffering a mental health issue, as the behaviour does seem odd and irrational. The time it would take to write a poem suggests an element of fixation. This wasn't done on a whim.
I think as she has your address it needs to be reported to police by calling 101.

Bloody hell. That's utterly unhinged. She should be had up for crimes against the English language for starters..

I would be very distressed if this note was put through my door. I would not mention it to anyone if it were me so the person who wrote it didn't get the satisfaction of knowing it was bothering me.

People should always report poison pen letters to the police

Please. Don't think you are wasting their time, or that you are making a mountain out of a molehill, or any of that. Without going into too much detail, I was involved in the periphery of a poison pen situation early this year. The police said to always report and after seeing what happened in this particular case I understand why. Sorry to be so cryptic.

OP

OP I'm really sorry. This is an awful thing to receive. I would be talking to the police since this person has your address. Hope you are ok.

I was thinking it must be a neighbour fed up with the noisebut it ended on too sinister a note.

It must be the lady from playgroup and knowing she was harbouring a grudge for a year I would strongly consider the police.

That's such an odd thing to do.

The 'repercussions for sisters and brothers' and 'caused us all to be gone' does seem to fit with the group scenario, although have they closed down? (and even if they did, it's very unlikely to be just or even mainly because of that incident, particularly given the time that has passed etc, so that would make me think that is is is from them, that others may also be being blamed by this person and received similar poison poems.

If it's not that, has anyone close (neighbour or family perhaps) that has children moved away or distanced themselves in recent times?

Call the poetry police, now.

Seriously, I've been involved in a nasty notes scenario where the author had stopped taking their meds and thought people were out to get them. It ended up with a physical, potentially violent, confrontation. Not good for anyone involved but in hindsight the police could have prevented it getting that far so I'd call them.

OP, in truth, I would ask MN to remove this thread.
In case it outs you, in case this disturbed person is stalking you online.
I am sure the police will help and offer sound advice.
Good luck.

I would report it to the Police. It's harassment and a very nasty, spiteful and cowardly action.

That gave me goosebumps. Definitely creepy. Phone 101 for advice ASAP. Don't ignore such bizarre/crazy behaviour xxx