To think this is a weird thing to do. And there is nothing I can do about it

[meganorks]

This might be more of a WWYD. Although I don't think there is anything I can.
Today I got a letter through the post containing a poem about my child. Basically saying I am a rubbish mother and she has caused pain and grief to others and that I don't care about her behavior. That's the summary. I have attached a photo so you can read for yourself. I don't know who has written it or what if anything I can do about it. I'm pretty sure the the implied accusations are not true. I should add that my daughter is nearly 4 not a teenager or something! So she is pretty much with me apart from when she is at nursery. I haven't been informed about any incident that might result in such an anonymous letter. So I wonder if it is just aimed at me? Although I didn't realise I had such enemies either.
So just wondered what other people would do if they got something like this? I thought I might report it to the police just in case it is something random that other people have been getting. Seems like a long shot, but it was addressed to me in my maiden name (got married less than a year ago) so wondered if it was maybe someone at a children's centre or something sending out horrible letters to people.

Elderly neighbour annoyed by kid play noise?

Do you think that the "child" referred to in the poem may be you rather than your DD? It would make more "sense" if it is the aggrieved relative, if you see what I mean.

I would ask nursery first. Is the nursery over subscribed? Could it be a generic to those who got places over their child. In which case there will be others received one. How they would of found you I don't know but disgruntled people can be very resourceful.

Husband's relative sounds like a good bet OP!!

OP was it adressed to you with first name and surname or just miss surname? And does your mum have the same first name as you? Did you grow up in the same place you live now?

How odd. What a weird thing to do. Hopefully random. Fgs your dd is a baby.

To be honest I was going to say this sounds like a relative, and your description of your husband fits what I was thinking. In fact that you don't see her makes me think it is her even more. We are all gone because of her bit. It sounds like some one you don't see rather than you do.

Is your DD your husbands, I had presumed she was because just cis you only got married a year ago doesn't mean you weren't together before, but either she thinks you and your child have taken her relative away and as your daughters no blood she thinks she can blame her, or that she just hasn't seen you all and it's since your daughters been born, and she's jealous. I know we don't know it is your husbands relative.

It's seriously not a normal thing to do but your husbands relative and who ever sent this seem a bit weird

I also wonder if this is aimed at you as the child. The whole 'thinking they are brave' part disturbs me most.

I would phone the police. You've got a small child, and the person who wrote that has definitely got something up with them.

I'd take it to the police and avoid handling it in case they can fingerprint it.

Yes the "thinking thy are brave" is not how you would talk about a 4 year old is it?

You would be mad to own up to writing that. It's dreadful.
The person who sent this to you is nuts. And has committed a crime against poetry.

I do hope you get to the bottom of this, what a horrid thing to get

It sounds like its from some sort of playgroup or something and the person was sacked. Did you make a complaint about someone?

Fucking Nora that's an awful thing to do/receive. It's creepy-ville and I'd probably inform the police. I'm usually the last one to say that but whoever sent that is clearly deranged.

My daughter is pretty brave and fearless and that is something she might say about herself. But this relative doesn't see her enough to know that! It wasn't someone my husband saw ever before we got married either. I'm not sure it is her at all, just the poem side of things made me think of her.
I was addressed to my first and last name, but maiden name with no title. I don't live near where I used to or have the same name or initial even as my mum.
It was meant for me. If not the relative then someone who knows me well and wants to upset me. Because I know my daughter is no angel but if she does anything she shouldn't I always take measures and would never ignore something if I thought she had upset someone.

I think the brave part is only there to rhyme with behave. They don't actually mean brave, but rather 'thinking they are so good'. Unless this person is a native speaker of German...

I think you should go and have a word with the Police about it. How can your child have done anything too upset anyone? The person who sent it sounds like a crackpot and I think it is quite possible that they are sending other letters too. What does your husband say? Can you or he do a bit of investigation yourself, via his family?

That's awful! And very odd!

Could it be a neighbour?

Its not particularly personal, just someone sounding rather upset and feels you had a hand to play in their sacking. They are obviously not the full ticket though and it might be worthwhile running it in to your local police station. I'd not call them out or anything though.

Your daughter might not be an angel but she can't be that bad - she is 4!!

I'd talk to 101, too, particularly as the object of hate seems to be a young child.

FGS, don't start down the road of wondering if the crackpot author may have a point! No, they haven't!! It's some nutcase who's built up a weird & scary story in their head for reasons unknown.

That is an awful poem in just about every way possible. The writer is clearly a little deluded as they seem to believe that you will know who they are when you clearly don't, not to mention laying all this (clearly unwarranted) blame at your door as though your husband has no say in the matter at all! What an odd thing for someone to do...

Ok not aunt.

So someone who knew you before marrige but with your daughter. Possibly in a group setting. I would guess either nursery and something has happened recently that nursery havent told you about or mother/toddler, soft play, sure start, play centre or similar.

Crustsaway, you might have it!! Maybe it was from a playgroup. I took my daughter to one when she was 2 1/2. It was one where you leave them to play. On her first session I went along and everyone told me it was fine to leave her as she was getting on so well. So I did. I returned to collect her and she ran out into the street in front of me! No staff followed just a confused mum. I abandoned the pushchair and legged it after her. At that point the manager stuck her head out the door.
She did not in any way admit any kind of resonsibility and tried to blame my child saying 'she doesn't listen to instruction very well does she'. I was pretty gobsmacked over the whole thing to be honest and reported it to Ofstead. Maybe they have finally pulled their finger out and done something about it!
I registered in my maiden name. She thought my daughter was naughty and to blame for escaping. And she was old. Bingo!!!
I wrote about it on here in fact but I forgot.
Police here I come....
(actually off out, so won't be on for a while...)

Really odd op.
I hope you find out who it is otherwise it'll bug you forever.

I had an anonymous letter a couple of years ago, well not I, DH did. The day before our wedding it arrived, with a story of how I've been having an affair with X - somebody I used to work with. Completely untrue.
I still to this day have no idea who sent it (I had been with DH for 7 years at this point and we met at 16 so he's the only person I've been with, no ex's). But they had access to my FB account as knew I was friends with the colleague on there. It's frustrating I still don't know who it was!
Sorry for rambling but I really hope you find out!