To start a thread for grumpy old ladies who think things aren't what they used to be

[susanstryingterm]

I'm probably a bit older than the average age on here, and totally emphasised with someone who said, in slightly despairing tones on a thread yesterday 'I sometimes think nobody knows how to behave anymore'.

So:

I think children should stand up for older (60+) people on public transport.
I think weddings should be a 'cut your cloth to suit your measure' exercise.
I think children should be called in by 9pm at latest during the Summer, so that neighbours can get some consideration.

The point was that many people were hurt by words.
But they weren't allowed to.

You used the expression 'oh FFS' Lwegi. How is that any less offensive that dryshite?

It's in the rules.
We can swear, but we can't offend other people. Which is nice. :)

It was actually bloody useful though for growing up and getting the proverbial grip. I received plenty of insults and bullying myself. I'm still here and don't regret having to toughen up.

Or is this a case of 'do what I say, and not what I do'?

You seem to be dodging the question and hiding behind 'the rules' Lwegi.

How is responding to a poster with FFS, not offending them?

I think I said FFS, ballet .

Sorry that you were insulted and bullied when younger. You shouldn't have been.
Not sure that toughens up anyone.

And I'm on the side of the thread!

I didn't call them a fucker. It's a general expression and not making any comments on the person. Unlike the post that was removed.

Everyone was Lweji, apart from a handful. That was my point. You learnt to give it back and they left you alone.

Filpflops

I don't actually object to FFS and have probably used it myself.

I object to silly hypocritical behaviour by silly hypocritical posters.

But I'm not referring to any poster in particular, just making a general expression.

Not sure how that excuses directly offending people, particularly initiating the name calling.

So Lweji do you always report posts where someone has been called an idiot or a cow or whatever?

If I read them, actually, yes.

Gosh, you must be permanently pressing the report button.

I'm Irish. Dryshite is a perfectly normal expression over here, and no more offensive than calling someone po faced or 'deadly serious'.

Lweji obviously mis-judged the post and reported it unfairly. But should perhaps admit she got it wrong, now that it's been explained by several posters.

I've never heard of 'Dryshite' in all my life but I can't believe anyone would think it so offensive as to report the post.

Just puts me in mind of that white crumbly dog shit you'd see everywhere in the 80's.

Aaaahhh the good old days...

I should live on this thread.

The emphasis on rights but not on responsibilities.

The ridiculous emphasis on language changes when what matters is not the terminology but whether you are actually being racist, sexist or some other ist.

The lack of good manners, some people no longer seem to have any consideration for others or even to recognise what that is - for example not trying to cast a downer on a light hearted thread to show off your pc credentials. I always want to quote Queen Gertrude from Hamlet!

The over emphasis on protecting children. Some people who previously provided great services for children are considered "unsuitable" while paedophiles are missed. Children aren't allowed to take even the smaallest of risks because of the fear of litigtion.

The complete spoiling of children.

The materialism, which doesn't seem to be making people any happier. Wedding are just one subset of that, along with designer handbags, designer jeans and even designer coffees.

Having rtft I can only come to the conclusion that some posters spend their whole time looking for things to get arsey about and this thread has been completely derailed by a few.

Shame. It seems that no matter what thread you go on, however light hearted it is, some one will come along and start having a good attempt at wrecking it.

Well done.

O tempora! O mores!

How have I missed this thread. I have found my spiritual home.

So much about today is better than it used to be but there's nothing wrong with a bit of nostalgia for the good or fun things that don't exist any more. And a moan about things we don't like.

Text speak anywhere other than in texts. Just awful and ignorant. We have a wonderful language, let's use it properly. And don't use it if you are texting me. Spelling and punctuation do matter, even though you don't think so. Apostrophes are becoming an endangered species.

Play dates. No. Calling for, going round for tea and playing out are the things I remember with affection. Not organised fun. That's dull.

Extravagant weddings that stress out the bride and groom. Use the money as a deposit for a house if you're hard up. If you can afford it then do it but stop going on and on about for the 12 months before.

Stag and hen weekends that cost more than many invitees can afford but they feel unable to say no.

It's invitation not invite (while I think about it).

Parents who think their child is the most important one in the class and everything has to revolve around that child. Your child is only entitled to the same amount of my time as every other child.

Parents who moan about activities run by volunteers. You don't like it? Do it yourself then. My parents always made sure they thanked the volunteers on a regular basis. If something happened that I didn't like they told me "tough".

I miss rock and pop concerts in small venues. At pocket money prices. I saw all the bands I wanted to see in the 60s and early 70s and paid for it out of my Saturday job earnings. Big arena shows are out of the price range of so many young people