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Swimming lessons in a school pool. Male and female changing rooms
No family rooms no cubicles
DD2 is 8 and very self conscious.
Arrive tonight to find a adult male with his maybe 5/6 yr old daughter in the
ladies changing.
DD2 mortified and refused to change till he had left.
As this is a school there are no other adults or kids here other than lessons.
I think he should have taken her in the men's, but am prepared to be told IABU?

Adult men should not be in female changing rooms and adult women should not be in male changing rooms.

It's really not hard to understand, is it? At the pools we use its very common for little boys to change in the women's changing room, or little girls to change in the mens but adults stick to their own.

And lots of 8 year old girls would be shy in front of a strange man. I wouldn't have wanted to change into a costume at 8 in front of a man who was not my dad.

Maman that's a lovely sentiment but some people (inc children) are naturally private about their bodies. One of my sons is like this, and he certainly didn't get it from us. I think I have to respect his preferences even if I don't share them.

Adult men should not be in the women's changing rooms under any circumstances.

He should have changed her in the loos.

In some cases locally the accessible toilet is within the ladies

Now that's rotten design. Older buildings often don't have an accessible loo and there may be no reasonable option to provide one, that's the legacy of history. But to build an accessible loo where half the population and 100% of fathers can't get to it is bizarre.

I was in the ladies loo at a sports centre the other week when a mother send her 9/10 year old boy in, by himself, yelling she'd wait outside.

Why couldn't she have sent him in the mens and waited outside?

I am getting pissed off at the attitude these days of bringer older boys into female spaces. When I get my DD changed for swimming there are more boys running around unsupervised, waving willies and staring at teenage girls, than there are females.

Personally, I don't care who sees my bits. But I do care that some people think any male over 8 is entitled to use a female only space.

Do women really think mens changing rooms are stuffed with peeeedo's?

I agree that if someone can manage to use the toilets by themselves then they should be in the correct toilets. So 10 year old boys shouldn't be on their own in ladies toilets. A fully chaperoned 10 year old boy may in a few cases have to use the ladies and this should be seen as reasonable. Changing rooms are different.

Of course, the solution I suggested for the OP would work equally well for a dad taking his young daughter swimming, and not sure where to get her changed.

Costume on under clothes - easy to change for swimming. Afterwards, towel off over costume, put minimum of clothes on over damp cossie, shower, dry and dress at home.

I have various swim classes for mini-CSI's during the week. Only one private swimming pool, closed to members etc for school children swim lessons, has 8 notices up warning that during swim classes, fathers were permitted to use the women's wet change room. It's flagged everywhere but TBF, the dad's stems to use the family or men's change rooms instead. All other pools insist that men use men or women use the ladies for swim changing when accompanying their children. As people have said before, it's a no brainer.

I rang my club this morning posing as a potential new member with an SN eleven who could not cope alone, could I take her with me through the men's side?

No.Please bring her with her costume under her day-clothes. But they will arrange, discreetly, for me to take her to the life-guard's room to change into her dry clothes afterwards. However, if she cannot cope alone in the women's showers she cannot have a shower - a man may want to use the men's showers at any point and they cannot close them off for her.

Which all sounded fair enough to me.