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To ask how often you and your DH/DP fall out

107 replies

downthekingsway · 07/06/2015 21:39

Mine seems to be at least twice a week and then he sulks after so unless I sort it out it seems like we are always fallen out :(

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bippityboppitypoo · 07/06/2015 21:43

We bicker a lot but we both hate tension, if it's something big we find it better to just have it out and then get on with it

TheRainInTheWoods · 07/06/2015 21:45

We bicker loads as well. We properly fall out once in a blue moon though. And if we do, we never, ever sleep on it.

Soduthen116 · 07/06/2015 21:47

Rarely. I grew up in a house of warring parents and it was horrible.

Wouldn't do that to my kids so if we are annoyed we go elsewhere for a while to cool off. Them we chat.

Hate sulkers. Pathetic.

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downthekingsway · 07/06/2015 21:48

We've not long moved in together.. shouldn't be this way. I mean I knew he was moody beforehand and he would sulk for WEEKS!! I thought living together he couldn't do it for weeks and we would make up sooner... hmmm!

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ilikebaking · 07/06/2015 21:49

Oh we fight every damn day, and love it.
We bicker, quarrel, row, debate, shout.... everything. Like a family (or mine, does).
We always make up and make sure our ds sees and knows this. I also don't tolerate language or real raised voices around him.
We are fiery people and I am difficult and he is deranged ha ha. But we muddle along and care for each other deeply.

ollieplimsoles · 07/06/2015 21:49

I'm the sulker in our relationship. I blame pregnancy hormones.

My DH and I rarely have a serious argument. But he is so docile I sometimes pick a little fight with him when I'm frustrated. We always say sorry to each other afterwards. As long as you don't go to bed on an argument.

PeppermintCrayon · 07/06/2015 21:50

We don't really. Both quite good at talking stuff out.

wtfisgoingonhere · 07/06/2015 21:51

We don't really. . . Might disagree on things but can honestly say in the 8 years we've been together we haven't actually had a single argument

TheOddity · 07/06/2015 21:52

We have some kind of disagreement every day, but only a bicker. Can't remember having a full on row and sulking session in 8 years. It blows over in half an hour.

googoodolly · 07/06/2015 21:52

We bicker regularly, but never about anything important.

meandjulio · 07/06/2015 21:53

Depends what you mean by falling out. We never argue but do annoy each other. When that happens we might snap, and then feel really bad and apologise . we don't cope with conflict which is not ideal but for both of us we would forgive anything rather than quarrel so it does work, sort of.

BettyCatKitten · 07/06/2015 21:53

Very rarely fall out but we bicker regularly!

Writerwannabe83 · 07/06/2015 21:56

Prior to DS arriving we hardly ever, ever fell out.

Since DS's arrival we probably have an argument every few days which leads to us huffing and puffing and stropping with each other. It's always forgotten by the next day but it's never too long before our next bickering episode begins....

Soduthen116 · 07/06/2015 21:56

i am difficult and he is deranged Grin

BertrandRussell · 07/06/2015 21:57

About 3 times in 30 years.

Fairylea · 07/06/2015 21:57

I came on to post maybe once every few weeks and thought that would be a lot! We tend to argue for a couple of days and then make up again. We hide it well from the kids though and it's never anything huge.

Candlefairy101 · 07/06/2015 21:58

I kick mine out at least twice a month ??

Last time tho he just walked in the door, and I said 'what you doing???' and he said oh babe I'm starving what's for dinner ?? I just said ' dinners in the side' lol and that was the end of the fight ??

rhetorician · 07/06/2015 21:58

almost never before the kids, but there's usually some little irksome thing - rarely escalates and we are both very good at apologising Grin

WorraLiberty · 07/06/2015 21:58

Hardly ever fall out but bicker every now and then...not that regularly though.

arethereanyleftatall · 07/06/2015 22:00

Never before dc, and we were together ten years, now with two young dc, about once every two months. Always about the breakfast dishes.

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HazleNutt · 07/06/2015 22:02

Haven't yet in 7 years, we both hate fights and can simply discuss what's bothering us. I could not live with someone who sulks for weeks.

MamaLazarou · 07/06/2015 22:03

Hardly ever. We disgree sometimes but never shout, quarrel or snipe.

TheFirstOfHerName · 07/06/2015 22:03

A few times a year: we stop communicating sensibly, then sulk separately for about half an hour, then decide to grow up, apologise to each other and start communicating again.

We don't fall out to the extent of raised voices or hurtful comments.

We have been together for twenty years.

Love51 · 07/06/2015 22:05

Once properly. It was horrible. About every month we will have a difference of opinion we cant resolve in one sitting but we can 'park' it and get on fine til we have a chance to get some figures together and discuss in.detail. We are a bit businesslike and always have been. We want to be fair to the other one but still get our own way!
We do bicker like children (less so since having children!) But we have been together since teens - its more about being funny than right and we arent hurtful.