To ask how often you and your DH/DP fall out

[downthekingsway]

Mine seems to be at least twice a week and then he sulks after so unless I sort it out it seems like we are always fallen out :(

We bicker and have regular exchanges of views, but they never last more than a few minutes and we always make up. DS sees us bicker, disagree, start to laugh at ourselves/each other, apologise and make up very frequently. Having grown up with an unpredictable, explosive father and an enabling, conciliatory mother I am very keen not to repeat the pattern.

Very very rarely. We have daft arguments over football (support rival teams) but that's about it really.

I'm not an argumentative person, and will tend to leave a situation if I feel something brewing. I don't remember ever raising my voice and refuse to engage with anyone who raises their voice to me.

Maybe 5 times in 8 years. We always resolved though, we never sulk/ignore each other or leave, even if resolving it means staying up talking for 5 hours.

The only time we have ever fallen out was when I was pregnant. I fell out with him for about 10 days. It was bizarre and I can't explain it. I was just awful. He hadn't actually done anything wrong and I just was so pissed off with him. He was so upset. I feel terrible now.

Apart from that we bicker, get a bit irritated at times but always talk about it. If it is something important the talking might go on a few days but we don't fall out and have huffs.

Daily.
No sulking though.

Ah crikey. At least once a week. But he's properly laid back, and I'm quite traditionally 'male' in my approach to falling out (once it's done, it's done - no sulking), so it's done quickly. We've only ever really properly fallen out twice in 14 years. That wasn't good. :(

About once a month, coinciding with my PMT. and if we both get really hungry we can have a proper nasty fight, then as soon as we've eaten, well it's like night and day.

Proper rows not triggered by hormones or hunger, one. I dwell, he moves on v quickly.

I'm gonna sound like I'm making everything look Rosy in the garden but we've never actually had a fall out. But and it's a big but, we don't live together and only see each other a few times a week. It suits us both and works and the pain factor is we're happy. I Mean please do not get me wrong if we lived together we'd probably be killing one another all the time.

Bicker about small thing maybe once a week if that? But normally end up laughing about it. Very rarely have a real argument And thats usually just a build up of a lot of little non important things!

What is everyone bickering about? Is it small stuff or big stuff?

I have had only a handful of arguments with DH in 30 years. I can't imagine bickering every day, it sounds exhausting.

No bickering, ever, but we are both pretty easy-going. Maybe five or six drunken weepy misunderstandings over the ten years we've been together, but they've always been resolved before the sun came up. I don't like wasting passion on arguing, and I really take issue with the idea that some people seem to have that fighting=excitement.

We've never had arguments in the past seven years. When we have disagreements we tend to retreat from each other a bit, and resolve things when we've calmed down. It's not really sulking where we're concerned, just having time out on our own. He is very laid back, I can be a bit...um, hormonal. But neither of us are shouty.

You moved in with someone who sulks for weeks? I don't get why people make decisions like this!

Very very rarely indeed. About once a month or so we might have a little niggle or bicker about something minor but it's over in a matter of moments and no-one sulks for long. Actual arguments are extremely rare, we can go years without arguing. Massive rows or those 'crunch times' when you question whether you want to be in the relationship have only happened about three times in 25 years.

Very rarely. Last big argument was in 1997.
Had a smaller one, when I thought he was being very selfish in 1999.

We are both tetchy so if one of us is annoyed they say so. Then the other one responds. Sometimes it lasts five minutes back and forth.

Ten minutes later it's forgotten. Neither of us are sulkers. We rarely argue about personal stuff - mostly it's disagreements about politics and such.

Occasionally bicker about housework and his 'stuff' all over the house. Other than that, once only, horrible time. Been together 22 years.

When I said bicker I meant minor points of irritation- not a row. For example, me saying 'DH could you please put your bloody shoes somewhere out of the way when you take them off.They are like boats and I've just nearly tripped carrying DS'

DH 'I did, I put them in the hall'
Me' In the middle of the hall though!'

That is a bicker in our house - said and forgotten about and he takes no notice at all and we have the same bicker next time

'That is a bicker in our house - said and forgotten about'

Agreed, I've had more little arguments with my children when they were teenagers in a month that with OH in a year.

We hardly ever argue - maybe once a year. We don't really bicker either. It used to be more frequent when the DC were little though. If we do fall out, I'm the fiery one and he's the sulker.

We bicker and snipe if we're tired etc...but I can count on one hand the number of 'big' actual arguements we've had in over 11 years.

Is anyone going to admit to huge arguments over years and years?

LOL I was just thinking the same thing Love! Given how many people post about endless arguments and stress and strife in their relationship and yet don't leave it, you'd think there would be at least one by now wouldn't you!

My upstairs neighbours, young couple, only moved into flat in January, fight about fuck knows what on average 3/4 times a week. It can go on for hours.

She seems like the aggressor in starting the fights, to the point that I've come to dread the very sound of her voice.

We have never had a big falling out. We have been married for nearly 27 years now and both had very volatile marriages before.
If we ever have minor disagreements (very very rare maybe twice a year) one of us always stops at once and says sorry. We have become very good at stepping in one another's shoes for a time. The latest was when he was upset because I was ignoring him because I was immersed in a book and not really listening to what he was saying. He had cooked breakfast and was just asking me if I wanted toast and I didn't respond. He just walked into the other room and when he came back he looked really down. I asked why, he eventually told me, I saw he was right to be upset and apologised. I made tea and toast and put the book down and we had a hug.
Thats about as bad as it gets here.