couples walking through shops holding hands

[DosDuchas]

Has anyone ever BARGED through the barrier they create and shouted STOP HOLDING HANDS FGS YOU ANNOYING PEOPLE?
( or perhaps something snappier?)

marks and spencer today - it was like british bloody bulldog, especially when the man LEADS the woman through the shops, swerving past racks of clothes, creating a four foot wide barrier

I am sure some one will find a way to turn my affectionate relationship with my husband into a sign that I am an insecure pavement hogging bitch.

Sometimes we leave our village, ( not often admittedly!) and we encounter pavements. I do sometimes have the sheer nerve to take all my children and a few animals out with me. We would all walk in single line holding hands but those bastard non hand holding people get in our way. That was a joke because I am flamed.

I once stood next to a particularly amorous couple in an airport security line. The man had his arm protectively around the woman almost as a warning in case anyone came too close (yes we were stood a QUEUE) and it was endless kissing, hair stroking, cuddling, nuzzling...bit vomit-inducing but obviously not doing any harm.

Every minute or so a few more people would be directed to join the queue and stand behind behind them, as it was so busy the security guard then opened up a barrier allowing the last few in the queue access to another shorter line but by the time this couple rose for air and made a dash to get to the shorter line they guard had closed it off again. This happened three times in a row - us being the third lot re-directed to the shorter queue and as we passed the security guard said to me (in a loud voice so the couple could hear) "You see people kissing and hugging when they are saying goodbye at the front of the airport not whilst going through security, I don't understand it" - it was a little cruel but still quite funny!!

"Better than being stuck behind corpulent, slow people. Stay in bed with your pies!"

When I am allowed back out in public again, I might hold dh's hand, just so people know I am not too corpulent to find love.

I have my own email address, and he's got a work one, but we have a joint one too - it just seemed easier at the time.

My xh used to hold my hand I public unless he happened to spot one of his OW then my hand was dropped immediately (not that I realized at the time).

If you want to hold hands that's your prerogative just be considerate and don't abuse people who are sharing the pavement with you

I personally don't have an issue with holding hands, but the op and others are saying there IS an issue with refusing to be parted and thus getting in people's way!

My Dad used to do this with his partner (interestingly, he never did it with my mum as dad as I can remember) and I used to think it was rude as they would not be prised apart for a moment, forcing people to step off the pavement and into the road, or, to cite an earlier example, it means people walking towards you also in pairs have to be parted which isn't ideal when it's a parent and small child. I have knocked into people when I have DD with me for this reason: not on purpose but I am not releasing a 14 month old because you won't release a 40 year old

It's the oblivion to those around you that irritates me. Feel the same about people on buses and trains who think their shopping needs a seat.

• never did it with my mum as far as I can remember, that should read.

in public obviously dratted phone

I find it a bit bizarre when adult couples hold hands. I love Dh, but have never want to be phtsically attacged to him all the time. We have a sufficiently strong mental connection.

Creating an obstruction of any kind in narrow places is rude if it can be reasonably avoided.

Phil if you want to hold hands with your husband go ahead. You don't live in Central London and you've made it clear that you'd move apart to make way for others.
I've already said that if it doesn't impede others each to their own. I do have an issue with a family of four stretching across the pavement when a parent could take a child each. I don't see why other pedestrians should be impeded because someone won't take up that simple courteous solution.

All you miseries would love me, holding hands with DP and walking very, very slowly. I am fairly likely to fall over though, if he lets go of me.

Unfortunately using my scooter seems to piss people off even more.

And how would you feel Tinkly if as a person with a disability you fell or were knocked into the road because people wouldn't move? I am probably being a grumpy cow here, but I'm a bit sick of the oh-so-clever comments that cunningly describe extreme situations that we who dislike the hand holders 'want' to happen because we don't like being forced off the pavement!

There are good reasons why someone may need the security of holding onto someone else - adult with a disability, child, elderly person lacking confidence - but these are clearly NOT the situations being discussed.

Oh for goodness sake. Most people don't have an issue with two people holding hands, much less offering support. They have an issue with people deliberately impeding others and refusing to be separated at all just to indulge themselves. In my case I don't much care about two people as I said. I do object to whole families hogging the pavement.

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I don't like the implication that those who find some behaviour rude are unsupportive of those with disabilities or want children to be run over. It's fucking offensive.

We have narrow pavements around here and the number of people who think it is acceptable to keep marching forwards, clinging onto one another for dear life, knocking into me who is visibly pregnant and /or knocking over my one year old, is really making this a sore point for me.

It's sheer oblivion to the fact that other people are around, and to behave considerately accordingly. My eight year old knows to move to one side to let people pass: I wonder why some adults haven't learned that lesson.

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not to mention people who behave in this way are MORE likely to cause children and people with disabilities harm.

Yet when we point out it is rude and anti social, we 'want' people with disabilities and children to never go out / be run over / be lost.

Yeah. Course.

I am merely pointing out to the miseries on this thread that things are not always what they seem. I have had plenty of friends and acquaintances jibe at us, "Oh you are so loved up, always holding hands". On many ocaisons it is hold hands or fall over.

I have had plenty of people push past us as we walk slowly down the pavement, making nasty comments. Not all disabilities are obvious.

Yes some people are simply tosssers. But not always. And you can't always tell.

Not all disabilities are obvious

Anyone who doesn't realise that is indeed a tosser. I doubt if you take up the whole pavement either. My issue is with those who allow their whole family to do so or indulge in PDA with no thought for others.

I don't like the lumping together of people as miseries and the implication that those who object to selfish behaviour are uncaring.

And how would you feel Tinkly if as a person with a disability you fell or were knocked into the road because people wouldn't move?

In reality how often does that happen though? I have never been forced onto the road because of a couple holding hands, even when living in London.

I don't think anybody is disagreeing that it is selfish to block the pavement deliberately and then refuse to move. But many of the posts here seem to be rather bitter accusations about controlling behaviour, vulgarity, unfaithfulness and insecurity. Only on MN do people look at a couple holding hands and jump to those conclusions.

I have never been forced onto the road because of a couple holding hands

I have!

I have just returned from walking down the middle of the road with one husband, three children, two dogs and one horse. Some of us held hands.

I never have but then I have never seen most of the things that people talk about on MN. I suspect I am the person you are all moaning about and I am too dense to realise.

Well I have had one particularly horrid incident of walking up some steep steps from the beach. No handrail so DH had me firmly in one hand and youngest DC in the other.

Young woman came skipping down the steps, and before we managed to shuffle to one side, barged blithely through me and DH's hands without looking back. No doubt she saw nothing but an annoying loved up couple taking the whole width of the steps. Fortunately the guy behind me pretty much caught me, but I'd have been down the whole flight if he hadn't.

Five - surely the other way also works. How do you know a couple holding hands don't have disabilities and one is helping the other?

I have never seems anyone make a 14 month old walk in the road..

I don't know. But it is fair to make the assumption that the majority of the hand holders don't.

i have never seen anyone make a 14 month old walk in the road

I daresay. I also doubt the people who did make her walk in the road would concede they had. They just weren't looking at the people around them. And that's my gripe.