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couples walking through shops holding hands

317 replies

DosDuchas · 06/06/2015 16:46

Has anyone ever BARGED through the barrier they create and shouted STOP HOLDING HANDS FGS YOU ANNOYING PEOPLE?
( or perhaps something snappier?)

marks and spencer today - it was like british bloody bulldog, especially when the man LEADS the woman through the shops, swerving past racks of clothes, creating a four foot wide barrier

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DancingDinosaur · 07/06/2015 19:07

No, you shouldn't. I thought that's where common sense came in, but never mind.

Alright dear. If you say so Smile

BastardGoDarkly · 07/06/2015 19:07

I remember I had a boyfriend as a teenager, he used to put his arm around my neck when walking. I dumped the annoying twat.

Holding hands is fine, if you're not being inconsiderate about it.

Same goes for massive umbrellas, dogs on leads, kids on scooters and everything else, just be considerate of others.

completelydisappear · 07/06/2015 19:09

The only time it has seriously pissed me off was when a couple holding hands decided to suddenly stop right in front of me (so I almost crashed into them) just so they could have a quick kiss.

debbriana · 07/06/2015 19:15

Sounds like the op has issues

DosDuchas · 07/06/2015 19:46

EVERYONE rowing about this and only I have anger issues Grin

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DancingDinosaur · 07/06/2015 19:48

The beauty of mn op Wink

CrohnicallyInflexible · 07/06/2015 20:15

fiveacres let me spell this out for you.

tinkly has said she needs to hold hands, but does not look frail or disabled.

You have said you expect people, except for elderly or disabled people, to step round you because your need to keep your 14 month old safe trumps their right to hold hands because they are a couple.

So the problem comes when you meet tinkly and her DH in the street. You look at her, and assume "Neither of them look frail or disabled. They must be holding hands because they're all loved up. Why should their right to hold hands trump my right to keep DD safe?"

tinkly looks at you and thinks "why doesn't that woman pick up her toddler to let us pass? I can't let go of DH else I'll fall"

So tinkly can't give way to you, and you won't give way to her. See the problem now?

For what it's worth- if I'm holding DD's hand but it gets a little crowded or the path gets narrow and people can't get past, I tuck in behind her and hold her hood, or rest my hands on her shoulders to steer her, or stand against the wall/hedge side of the path sideways on while people pass. No need to let her go, no need to walk in the road, no need for any fuss or drama!

LarrytheCucumber · 07/06/2015 20:32

DH and I have been married 41 years and we often hold hands. We are in our 60s. Do we qualify as cute old people yet?
We drop hands if someone needs to get past, or walk one behind the other if there isn't room. I didn't know it annoyed people.
Sometimes we do it for moral support, like the many times we were called in to DC 3's school.

completelydisappear · 07/06/2015 20:38

I will gently push through you rather than walk on the road, though, but I'll be feeling a bit sorry for you rather than angry

Such a typical MN thing.

If I was in such a rush I couldn't slow my pace down or walk around them (despite you seemingly not being able to walk on the road for 5 seconds without getting hit by a car).

Could you not just say excuse me??

Most people would move to the side or stop holding hands. Theres no need to "gently" push through anyone.

I remember a thread where someone said if a car was stuck on a red light and was accidentally blocking a crossing then they would walk over the car Confused

Why do people on here have to be so bloody extreme?

Yes things happen every day that are annoying but just deal with it like a normal sane person.

GlitzAndGigglesx · 07/06/2015 20:39

Larry the majority of us have complained about people not giving way rather than the act of holding hands itself but people only hear what they want to hear so suggest everyone else is a miserable twat with anger issues Grin

Artandco · 07/06/2015 20:40

Not as if I have ever done this, but surely paths are public places, people could actually just sit down in the middle and had a picnic if they like, there's no reason they couldn't do this

SiobhanSharpe · 07/06/2015 20:50

Card DH actually sent me.... we are not hand holders but I do link arms with him walking down the street as I'm a bit of a liability WRT trips and slips these days. I can usually manage to get round M&S on my own, though.

couples walking through shops holding hands
MythicalKings · 07/06/2015 20:57

I don't need to walk into the road and risk getting hit by a car, you need to learn civility. You see me approach on a narrow pathway, you drop hands and walk in single file and we pass each other.

If you didn't course I'd say, "Excuse me," but if you didn't separate and let me pass then I would push through. If you have no manners, don't expect manners in return.

DancingDinosaur · 07/06/2015 21:02

remember a thread where someone said if a car was stuck on a red light and was accidentally blocking a crossing then they would walk over the car

Grin hell, why not, if the damn car is in the way.

MythicalKings · 07/06/2015 21:09

**

You take a run up at it.

DancingDinosaur · 07/06/2015 21:12

Run at it Shock I'd probably trip and fall flat on my face. And end up as road kill. I'd probably be better off with a harness and ropes to drag myself over.

MythicalKings · 07/06/2015 21:15

Trampoline?

Keep a collapsible one in your handbag.

SiobhanSharpe · 07/06/2015 21:16

You could do the Starsky and Hutch thing and slide aross the bonnet. (Derails thread even further)

DancingDinosaur · 07/06/2015 21:18

A trampoline is a superb idea. I've got a big handbag. Not so sure about starsky and hutch though, I might hurt myself

completelydisappear · 07/06/2015 21:22

I don't need to walk into the road and risk getting hit by a car

Well somehow I managed to get around 3 adult women blocking the pavement and walking slow by walking on the road.

It's crazy how I was able to see that no cars were coming and I managed not to lose my life by walking around them for 10 whole seconds. Must be a skill only I have Hmm

fiveacres · 07/06/2015 21:29

Chronically

I can read.

I however do not accept my local town is crammed full of people who are disabled but don't look it and as they saunter down the street barging my one year old out of the way they are actually clinging for dear life onto their other halves,

Yes?

MythicalKings · 07/06/2015 21:29

Must be. In these parts we walk on pavements and move out of people's way.

MythicalKings · 07/06/2015 21:30

My reply was in answer to Completely.

completelydisappear · 07/06/2015 21:33

If that's what happens then why are you pushing through people?

fiveacres · 07/06/2015 21:34

Come stand with me in the road kings