Is it wrong that we were disgusted by this?

[WayneRooneysHair]

I fully expect to be shot down in flames...

Myself and my wife were walking to the bus stop this morning, ahead of us down the street a mother and her young girl in a pushchair exited a house and walked in the same direction before disappearing round the corner. As we turned the corner we saw the girl standing at the bus stop with her mum, the girl was standing with her trousers and nappy down and was weeing all over the pavement. The mum clocked us and as the girl finished very hurriedly dressed the girl before putting her back in the pushchair and walking off.

I know that when a kid needs to go it's pretty urgent but this was a busy path was alongside a busy main road and they'd only left the house three minutes ago. My wife works in childcare and even she couldn't believe it, is this acceptable or should we have said something?

It's really odd that you're bothered by this. So odd.

YANBU

I feel as if some posters haven't read the first post properly maybe? Mum is taking child to park, child needs to pee about 30 seconds, you think, from house? You say they only had time to walk around a corner before you saw the girl peeing? YANBU, they should have gone back to the house. It's possible that the child couldn't hold it and it sounds like mum didn't want her soiling her pull up in case she needed to go at the park...in which case, yes, mum should have let her use that, if she couldn't wait, and then gone back to the house, 30 seconds away, to change.

But I can see from the "nappy in lounge" thread that I also have different views than most.

Well, well done for sticking with your thread OP, and remaining civil :)

However ... (sorry) ... but i too am surprised that anyone who has a job with anything to do with little kids and their families would be surprised or shocked by this. Honestly.

Weeing on the street is not something i personally would be comfortable letting my kid do if i had a choice, but i know full well that a) not everyone has the same idea of what's ok and what's not, and b) they may not have had a choice that day.

If the majority of parents do this then there would be a lot more kids pissing on the street than there are. It's not something I would have done with mine if we were that close to the house. When they were at the stage where they absolutely have to wee NOW, with no warning, then they wore pull-ups as a back-up while we found the nearest toilet. That in itself is a pain but it's part of potty training If you ask me. It's how they learn to hold it in till they can get to a toilet. doesnt very parent go through that stage of planning ahead before they leave the house, finding out where the nearest toilet is going to be once they get to where they're going? The amount of times I've nipped into Maccies or a cafe toilet or M&S when they were potty training.

Didn't take long before they realised that if they didn't learn to hold it in a bit they would do it in their pull ups and they would e uncomfortable until we got to toilet and sorted them out with some clean ones. They learned that they would still have to go to the toilet anyway so they may as well try and keep dry till they got there.

I don't actually think it's helpful to let kids go the minute they want to, wherever they are, even if it means the middle of the street.

That said, while I would have been surprised to see the kid pissing in the street I would have assumed that the kid had a bladder problem (not just potty training) or medical issue, if I knew they'd only just left the house. Otherwise the other possibility is that the parent just couldn't be arsed with the faff of going back to the house once they'd left, and I think that most parents actually aren't that lazy and would hae gone back. So yes, I would have been surprised but assumed a great need rather than laziness and just carried on walking.

Waynerooneyshair - yanbu! The people on here interogating you and putting words into your mouth are...welcome to threads in AIBU!

Another example of Broken Britain.

"Myself" should be used for when you are doing something to yourself. You mean "My wife and I". Apart from being incorrect, your use of "myself" sounds pompous.

Oh come on people some of these comments bashing op are ridiculous!

Spilly op and his wife are the ridiculous ones.
Perhaps she does work in childcare but I'm gobsmacked if she's never encountered a small child in desperate need of the loo before, when there aren't any easily accessible.
But as you say op, you have never toilet trained a small person. And therein lies the sheer idiocy of the post.
So wind your neck in and save your disgust for thing that deserve it, and things you have experience of yourself and know you can do so much better eh?

YANBU. That is gross.

I have toilet trained a small person, who was bloody hard work to toilet train. I've had to take him for an emergency wee behind a tree in our big rambling local park once or twice, but amazingly enough we've managed without pissing in the middle of the street thus far.

Yanbu, under the circumstances you described that was an innapropriate thing to do.

My DD once did this on the way home from school Nursery age 4, had told me she needed a wee, had to cross a busy road to get home (home was less than 20ft away) I told her to wait and just as we were about to cross she let go of my hand and pulled her trousers down and went on the pavement as she didn't want to wet her trousers.

I was mortified, nothing I could do but there you go it happens.

Right well it is disgusting but sometimes --frequently in my house- children do things which are disgusting. If I was that mum I'd either have run back home or run to the park (whichever was closest) to let her pee. Or at least got her to pee in a discreet corner rather than be so flagrant about it.

However that said, the fact that you came on here to post about whether you should have said something to the mum makes me have to say YABU. Say what?!? And why?!? What could you saying something possibly add to the situation?! Especially if coupled with a patronising "my wife works in childcare don't you know". . Either it was a desperate situation and the mum was mortified or she couldn't give a shiny shit. You saying anything wouldn't have affected either of those and would quite probably have earned you a well-deserved Fuck Off.

No it's not great. Sometimes ds2 needs a wee when out and there's no toilet, I always find the nearest bit of long grass for him. Wouldn't let him wee on thr pavement but I see plenty of dogs pissing all over the street and to be honest I find toddler wee less disgusting than that.

I sound pompous? Thanks

And we were not gawping at the mother and child either so like I said yesterday stop assuming.

I'm just wondering what you think you might have said if you had called out to her from the bus?

I've already posted what I wanted to say to her.

In the rush to defend the mother and child quite a few posters have made assumptions and even called me creepy, I have quite thick skin but I do not appreciate being called creepy because a toddler pissing on the pavement weirded me out.

It's understandable if I stop responding now which is what I'm going to do, I've remained civil in the face of some hostile posters.