Is it wrong that we were disgusted by this?

[WayneRooneysHair]

I fully expect to be shot down in flames...

Myself and my wife were walking to the bus stop this morning, ahead of us down the street a mother and her young girl in a pushchair exited a house and walked in the same direction before disappearing round the corner. As we turned the corner we saw the girl standing at the bus stop with her mum, the girl was standing with her trousers and nappy down and was weeing all over the pavement. The mum clocked us and as the girl finished very hurriedly dressed the girl before putting her back in the pushchair and walking off.

I know that when a kid needs to go it's pretty urgent but this was a busy path was alongside a busy main road and they'd only left the house three minutes ago. My wife works in childcare and even she couldn't believe it, is this acceptable or should we have said something?

Okay. Just to add some perspective. My DD is 8 and has openly weed in the street before. Not because she or I want her too
, but because she suffers from incontinence.

It doesn't really make much difference if she goes to the loo before we go out or by, as her bladder function is damaged and it can't empty properly. She also has no idea when she needs to go as her brain doesn't get the signals.
(this may or may not be related to her ASD)

She has or started wearing pull-ups during the day (which she hates) now that we know what we are dealing with but in the past, she would just 'go' with no warning.

We are waiting for a specialist appt now to try and treat her, but
I'm sure in the past people have thought we were disgusting too.

Just trying to make the point that we never really know what we are looking at, and her actions may not have been as 'sod you, social convention!' as you think.

So, there we are then. The whole thread is based on bollox!

I'm fully aware that the child might have a bladder problem etc, I was a bit taken aback that's all.

Like I said, I've accepted that I'm in the wrong.

How exactly is the thread bollocks Fairy? Does it really make a difference whether it was nappies or pants bearing in mind that they'd left home three minutes before?

130+ posts because a toddler did a wee on a pavement.

I fucking love Mumsnet!

I think Outraged of Tunbridge Wells here makes an interesting point though

It's more socially acceptable for a man to wee up a tree in public than for a woman to squat in a bush as I've done occasionally

Not sure why but the popular view is it its more disgusting if a female does it.

I'm embarrassed now Worra

You know that moment when you hover your finger over 'post message' and you think 'should I?'

StillStayingClassySanDiego I'm going to hesitate in future

You weren't just 'a bit taken aback', you were so appalled it has being playing on your mind since, so you thought you'd get on Mumsnet to gather opinions on your disgust.

Presumably you've seen thousands of dogs cocking their legs on every vertical surface in your neighbourhood and not thought to share the details with the nation. Why the horror at a kid caught short?

As I've already said it's because they left the house three minutes beforehand.

So no-one on this thread has done a wee in the street when drunk and walking home? Oh okay....
I'll get my coat

And I wonder how many times the child was put on the loo and told to have a wee before they left the house, but 'didn't need one'...

It's standard stuff for a child learning to control their bladder. You really don't need to keep thinking about it.

I'm always suspicious of anyone who says "myself and...".

Maybe it is a reverse?

It's not a reverse and it was definately my wife who witnessed it too.

OP I think the reason you are getting a hard time is because you are 'disgusted' by a small child weeing. Very young children often need a wee urgently even if they have just left home, which common sense should tell you. And what if there weren't any 'bushes' handy? Should she have wet herself? You are making yourself sound utterly ridiculous I'm afraid.

I'm surprised your wife was surprised and shocked tbh!

YABU! Potty training is hard work!!

I find it strange that it bothers you tbh.

Not ideal but she could be in the early stages of potty training. They always have to go about 2 mins after you leave the house and when it's urgent it's urgent at that stage. Yabu

Well you'd have loved us last weekend! Out for a walk in the woods. DD said she needed a wee so I held her behind a bush and she did the biggest poo ever! We had nothing to pick it up with so DH tried to bury it with a stick!!

Ask your wife "who works in childcare" - let's pretend it's a nursery for example - what she would have done if she and her colleagues had taken out a group of children of the same age and one child needed a wee. But if your wife took the child back to the nursery then there wouldn't be enough adults left with the group. Would the whole group have to return for one child to wee? Or?

Children are very unreliable when using the loo. My son will swear he doesn't need the loo then kick up a fuss two minutes down the road. It's not nice but can't be helped sometimes.

Grown men seem to do this all the time here in London, and I think I can assume that they are not in the process of being potty trained.