To think this lady should have asked if it was OK?

[Marmiteandjamislush]

Hi,

I was at the gym this afternoon, (vv. small council run place, no family room) anyway I finished my session and went to get changed. I don't do a full strip and shower (wait til I get home) but I do like to change clothes so I can run errands on the way back. Anyway, gym has children's trampolining class this afternoon, I was in the changing room getting ready and a lady came in with her daughter (4 yo at most) to get ready. She saw me in there and then I heard her say 'Yes you come in too [son's name]. Son, would say 7/8yo comes in and has a real gawp at my bra as he walks past and I could feel him watching me from the corner of the room. I changed and left and booked a class at reception. A few minutes later Mum and DC emerge and sit at a table, waiting for the class to begin (I think this is important because it shows there was no rush) I go out to the car, as I'm getting in the car (small car park) Dad arrives to take Son home.

AIBU to think the mother could have said, 'Sorry, but I've no one with me to watch him, do you mind if I bring him in?' this would have at least allowed me to be fling my t-shirt on before he came in?

FYI - Have two DSs 4 & 6 yo and know how hard it can be and wouldn't have minded, I just think it was rude not ask.

Seven years old?? You mean, a small child? YABU.

He's 7 not 11 fgs - grow up!

It is interesting actually that it always seems to be this way round though - ie it's ok to take boys into women's changing rooms but seems less ok to take girls into men's changing rooms. I assume the fact it's a women-focused site means we get more stories of the former, but has anyone seen it happening in reverse? Or does anyone's DH/DP take DDs into the male changing rooms with them?

Boy in ladies changing room: either ok or he's a little weirdo looking at bras (depending on who you ask)
Girl in mens: changing room: Either ok (less often) or she's at risk from seeing men without clothes which will be bad for her.
It's part of the slant against boys which is endemic.

I think my DH has taken my DD into the men's changing rooms and she has survived ok.

"*A 7/8 NT child is quit ecapable of waiting outside a changing room for his mother for ten minutes."

FFS. My DS is 7 and I wouldn't leave him anywhere unsupervised, especially in a public place. This is a ridiculous statement to make.

OP I think YABU. It's a bra, you weren't naked and he was hardly checking you out as a 7 year old boy. They are just curious (mine thinks 'bamboos',as he calls them, are just funny, it's really not a big deal).

My DS who is asd and I wouldn't leave him out side, for the simple reason he would leg it and go off into his own world. He needs to be watched.

This means he has my phone and sits in a cubicle with me outside so he can't see nothing.

i can not see the issue

7/8 year old girls are curious too so what is the difference

what do you think he was thinking

Tendonqueen I disagree. Mothers tend to do more of the after school activities than dads because they are around more after school, that's all.

I take DS swimming and change him in the ladies'. DH takes DD to swimming, always has. She used the men's until her 8th birthday. There were loads of dads on the Saturday morning swim run changing their girls in the men's. Now she is 8, she uses the ladies' by herself.

Possibly men are less likely to go on forums complaining about 7 year old girls gawping at them.

He might have been a tall five year old.

Irrespective of his age he should not be allowed to gawp.

the slant against boys??

What do you mean?