To take medicine DH doesn't want me to?

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Quickly a I have to go out in 5 mins.

Have hay fever, constant dripping nose, wanting to scratch out eyes, itchy throat. Mentioned to d.h that as no longer pg/be can get hay fever medicine again. He said he didn't want me to as it makes me sleepy (not sure it is true, although it does have an effect on sex). I have four tablets left (out of date, from last year). I called yesterday to ask if I can just pick up a prescription and there is one waiting for me.

DH believes it is all a fuss over nothing. Hay fever is an outlook on life, if I just exposed myself more to the pollen etc then my body would get used it it.

Also have to pay for medicines where I am.

Aibu to pick up the prescription and get myself some drugs?

Hay fever is an outlook on life

Personally I couldn't be with an arsehole with this outlook on my life. I've had hayfever all my life and it is crippling. Why are you with him again?

Your husband sounds like a right wanker to me TBH. What sort of husband would want to see his wife suffer because the medication makes her too sleepy to have sex?!?!

If you are looking for a good hayfever treatment which is non drowsy Boots sells a nasal spray with an active ingredient calledFluticasone Propionate (ask at the pharmacy counter). It's non drowsy and it's very effective!

OP has said she can't take OTC medications.

He did what now? What a controlling,dangerously misguided arse.

What about "in sickness and in health"? Did he just lie at that part in the vows?

Jesus, you do know he could have KILLED your DD, don't you? I'm amazed he didn't!

My ex was like this - and no, he wouldn't take anything for a headache either - he'd just go to bed for two days leaving everyone else to pick up the pieces. He implied I was some kind of junkie for having to take paracetamol regularly due to severe SPD. If he'd repeatedly and knowingly fed my child something they were allergic to, I'd be ringing the police frankly!

Is this because he wants you to be available for sex? It is very controlling.

Take your medication. He sounds really cold hearted.

Can you thank your DH - wow he's cured my hayfever

Now back in the real world . . . . .

you are presumably an adult.
so go and get advice for medicine that will make you feel better.
even if that has an effect on your libido, hours vs minutes of misery is no contest, really.

Jesus. Take the medicine and then tell him to fuck off.

A very long way away.

Wow your husband is an arse. I have hayfever and it is the pits. I too have to pay for a doctor's appointment but it is worth every penny. Get to the doctor, have a chat about what's on offer I take and swear by fexofenadine it is a non drowsy drug, I also have steroid nasal spray and beclomethasime inhaler and eye drops. My kitchen looks like a pharmacy but the alternative is 3 months a year stuck in the house! There are lots of options now for half ever sufferers and you should not have to struggle needlessly. Also how can you possibly feel like having sex with a drippy nose and burning eyes. His reasoning sounds extremely flawed.

Wow just wow what a knob, he could have killed your dd. Take the medication and leave him.

Oh your poor DD

YANBU, get the drugs and take them. Been exposing myself to pollen for 34 years and I haven't been "cured", in fact my allergies have worsened over the years.

I don't understand how you can possibly be with a man who deliberately harmed your child. You are an adult and can make medical choices. Your child was force fed something that he knew she had an allergic reaction to- you're lucky she is still alive, many people become more severely allergic with repeated exposure . For heaven's sake don't let him near anybody else's child.

What an arse, I don't even understand why you'd even discuss this with him, if it was me I'd just buy/take the medicine, it's not something I'd even discuss with DH!

Is he controlling in other ways? It's not normal behaviour

I bet this twat thinks labour pains are an "outlook on life" too

what on earth is wrong with him ?

What a completely daft man. You can buy most antihistamines cheaper than can be prescribed. What do you take. He is wrong hayfever is enough of a reason to be let off national service in some countries that that have it

Get the prescription.

Your H is a selfish dick and can shove his ill-informed opinions up his arse.

As for trying to kill your DD by feeding her nuts when she clearly had some kind of allergy to them, well words fail me. He is LUCKY she didn't have a hyper-reaction, rather than becoming used to them, LUCKY. And if she had ended up in hospital, he could have been charged with assault (and should have been).

I really hope you got your meds and take them when you need them - fucking knobend that your H is!

So sad for you, OP, that you have to live like this.

Your body is still being exposed to pollen if you take antihistamines. It is surpressing your reaction to them. If that worked then hayfever would long be gone

Bloody hell - you think you've heard everything on Mumsnet and then you read something like this ....................... I can't ever even recall discussing with my DH what medication either of us wants/needs to take.

Is your DH controlling in other ways?

Hang on wait what???

Op this shouldn't be about some fucking hay fever meds. He put your daughter at risk of immense harm and even death. That's what you should have been focussing on. What the hell.

He's got some pretty extreme views there... what is his background? It just reminds me of a very sad story I read of a cult in the states where many died because they were told it was wrong to seek medical treatment as God would heal them. The hay fever/paracetamol thing is weird if applied to himself, and massively controlling when he makes you follow it. But the situation with your daughter means he is a dangerous man. I'm really sorry.

If you do go and pick up the meds, what will he do?