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to be annoyed about the state my toilet was left in...

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Lillamyy1 · 01/06/2015 06:18

I spent quite a while cleaning the bathroom yesterday morning, which made me even more annoyed, although I always keep the toilet clean...
A friend came round for a few hours and when her DP came to pick her up he went to use the bathroom and was there quite a while. When I went up there 10 or so minutes later I was hit by the most godawful stench, although to be fair to him we haven't any air freshened and he had opened the window, but oh my god the state of the toilet bowl! Skidder central. It was absolutely rank.
Surely it's common curtesy to flush a couple more times and pour some bleach down to try and get rid of the evidence if you've had a massive skiddy shit at someone else's house (and in fact your own house!) We have one of those toilet duck brushes with disposable heads which is in the cupboard so he couldn't have known it was there but the bleach is right next to the bloody loo!

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 03/06/2015 12:13

TwiceHmm

CrystalMcPistol · 03/06/2015 12:24

songlark not everyone agrees with your crazy notion that other people's toilets aren't for urinating or defecating in. It would never in a million years occur to me to cross my legs and wait till I got in if there was another toilet available.

MN really is a glimpse into a whole other weird world sometimes.

ItsRainingInBaltimore · 03/06/2015 12:34

song you do realise that you are revealing yourself to be the living embodiment of the phrase 'anally retentive' don't you?

And that's not really a good thing to be, in both the physical and the psychological sense. When people are really 'anal' about something it means they are uptight and controlling to an unhealthy degree.

YankieDandle · 03/06/2015 12:37

So you're anally retentive because you prefer a random to go home and stink and mess up his own toilet? Yep that's me then too

CrystalMcPistol · 03/06/2015 12:43

And that's why having access to a toilet brush would have been so handy........

ItsRainingInBaltimore · 03/06/2015 12:45

Yes, basically.

YankieDandle · 03/06/2015 12:48

So when people don't agree with you, we start labelling. Nice attitude. I assume you are professionally trained to make such a diagnosise?

Icimoi · 03/06/2015 12:49

Yankie, you're anally retentive if you think that no-one should ever use someone else's loo even if they don't leave a mess - which seems to be songlark's position.

Songlark, I really don't understand why you cannot acknowledge the concept that it is entirely possible to have a bowel problem temporarily and unexpectedly. If last night's chilli suddenly catches up with you and you're at someone else's house, would you seriously try to wait till you got home?

Songlark · 03/06/2015 12:54

Haha yes YankeeDandle new one on me, anally retentive. Wow, and all because I dont want some dirty random bloke leaving my toilet (that my children and grandchildren use) in a shitty mess.
As is usual though on MN things get twisted and deliberately misconstrued.
If, I had guests round and someone wanted to use the toilet, of course I wouldn't object (who would?), I would obviously expect them to leave the toilet in a clean state. What I do object to is someone who just calls to pick his DO up and suddenly decides he needs a shit in your toilet. Unless he has bowel problems this isn't acceptable. If he had bowel problems I'm sure he'd have some kind of routine for cleaning up. But obviously as ananally receptive person (only on mumsnet) I don't know what I'm talking about.
Btw I'm probably the most uncontrolling person I know. Do we have a word to describe the nasty posters on here.

Songlark · 03/06/2015 12:57

Oh stop making excuses for the dirty sod Icimol . The odds are quite remote of that and you know it.

TedAndLola · 03/06/2015 12:57

Unless he has bowel problems this isn't acceptable.

Almost everyone would agree it IS acceptable...

CrystalMcPistol · 03/06/2015 12:59

What I do object to is someone who just calls to pick his DO up and suddenly decides he needs a shit in your toilet. Unless he has bowel problems this isn't acceptable.

And that's why you sound weird. Becasue for you he didn't fulfil the acceptable toilet going criteria. Do you need to see someone's family tree/bank balance/CV before allowing them access to your bathroom?

Honestly, all this rage will make you constipated.

YankieDandle · 03/06/2015 13:06

What's with the insults because people have differing opinions?

And Tedandlola you say almost everyone would agree, how do you know this?

TedAndLola · 03/06/2015 13:07

Read the thread.

ItsRainingInBaltimore · 03/06/2015 13:07

Song/Yankie

I don't have bowel problems, and most of the time I can hold the urge if I have to, (ie. when there is no loo about) but there comes a point where if you need to go, you need to go. Sometimes depending on what you've eaten/drunk that day something might go right through you with an unexpected ferocity and if there is a loo available why on earth would you put yourself through the kind of madness and discomfort that is trying to hold it in, rather than risk using someone else's loo? That's just nuts.

And he wasn't 'some dirty random bloke', he was the OP's friend's husband and for all we know he may have been sat in traffic absolutely desperate to go, for the last hour. The OP admitted she had no air freshener, no loo brush, no means of him clearing up after himself, but he did open the window - what else was the poor bloke to do? Confused

I realise it can't have been terribly pleasant walking into the loo afterwards, but I am sure it wasn't very nice for him either, knowing that he had little choice but leave it like that.

YankieDandle · 03/06/2015 13:10

Ted because that's representative of the wider world...got it now.

Funny thing is, i would say the thread was evenly split, but you go ahead with your sweeping statements

TedAndLola · 03/06/2015 13:13

Evenly split? Can you point out the people besides you and song who think you should never use someone else's toilet?

ItsRainingInBaltimore · 03/06/2015 13:15

I think most people would far rather shit in the privacy of their own bathroom, where they are free from judgement, embarrassment and humiliation, but it's not always possible.

I think most people would rather other people didn't shit in their loo, but given the above, that's not always possible either. The least you can do is get down off your hoity high horse about it, and buy a fucking loo brush and some air freshener and get over yourselves.

YankieDandle · 03/06/2015 13:16

i never said people should never use another's toilet. Granted i'd prefer they didn't shit and mess up my bathroom, what i object to is this person's behaviour. If i had to use the toilet and there was no brush, i would figure out a way to clean that toilet rather than disrespect the host by expecting then to do it.

YankieDandle · 03/06/2015 13:20

Raining you need to get over yourself and stop being so rude.

It's a thread on mn about poo, you think the bloke did nothing wrong, i do.

We will have to agree to disagree.

ps i don't have air freshers, bad for the environment don't you know.

Songlark · 03/06/2015 13:20

I know Yankee, the only ones with rage are the ones who think everyone should have the same opinion as them. Why are they getting so wound up?

TedAndLola · 03/06/2015 13:21

Okay, then it's even less of an "even split". Can you point out the people besides song who think you should never use someone else's toilet?

YankieDandle · 03/06/2015 13:24

i know song, i was quite enjoying this little diversion....then you have the party poooopers!

Songlark · 03/06/2015 13:28

Tedandlola
Nobody has said that. Stop deliberately twisting words. It makes you look a bit foolish.

Songlark · 03/06/2015 13:30

MN really is a glimpse into a whole other weird world sometimes.
Totally agree.