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To think there are a lot of misconceptions about terminating a pregnancy

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fiveacres · 29/05/2015 18:17

Obviously, about abortion, which is a contentious issue for some.

I am approaching the third due date of the pregnancy I terminated in the autumn of 2011 at 9 weeks.

I was a very pious sort once, who believed that abortions were morally wrong. i admit that freely. I still do feel that the best option is not to be in that position in the first place.

However, although I do sometimes think about it, I don't regret it. I've been pregnant twice since so it hasn't affected my fertility.

I paid privately. I did not have any counselling - I was undecided when I went for the initial appointment but I have to say it was very much 'assumed' that I wanted to terminate. The record of the abortion is not in my medical file.

You don't have to give a reason, although they did press me to have the implant, which I refused. They did do a scan, which was a bit upsetting.

It did not hurt. I was warned I would bleed a lot but I didn't. My periods came back in 6 weeks.

You are in a room with a LOT of other women after the procedure, which is upsetting.

Other than that, I felt good after having it done, relieved, happy, mainly relieved.

I do have the odd flash of guilt. I wouldn't do it again.

But, I was reading another thread and it crossed my mind a lot of people do not really seem to know what having a termination is like. My experience may be typical or it may not be, I don't know, but it would be interesting to see what the experiences of others are to try to dispel or to address some of the myths that surround this difficult but sometimes necessary issue.

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leedy · 05/06/2015 14:44

Also I see YET AGAIN we have been derailed into discussing abortions at term or whatever, because bumbley is obsessed with picking logical holes in the pro-choice position of supporting women's choices and has decided that "not believing in legal time limits" is a good weak point to keep prodding at.

It's not as if she supports abortion before 24 weeks either, like.

GeorgeYeatsAutomaticWriter · 05/06/2015 14:49

Careful, leedy, bumbley has already rounded on flippinada for having the temerity to suggest that she doesn't give straight answers.

It's a false accusation, doncha know.

microferret · 05/06/2015 15:12

I don't think bumbley will be changing her mind any time soon. Rather than engaging her in a pointless debate, I think we should all just be glad that her view is not currently the prevailing one in British society.

leedy · 05/06/2015 15:14

Though sadly it's a view that's resulted in the current legal situation in Ireland, where I am (and several other posters on this thread).

microferret · 05/06/2015 15:27

That's true leedy, my apologies. Though with the recent leaps forward with equal marriage perhaps people are starting to reject Catholic dogma.. Fingers crossed Thanks

WinterOfOurDiscountTents15 · 05/06/2015 16:17

So do you support euthanasia of babies/children who face a "life of suffering"

I do, yes. Suck on that one.

Tonberry · 05/06/2015 17:05

The more I read your posts bumbly the more I'm convinced you're a male politician.

I'm convinced she's Nadine Dorries Confused

WinterOfOurDiscountTents15 · 05/06/2015 17:32

Nah, its Breda O'Brien for sure....

lastuseraccount123 · 05/06/2015 17:44

had to look those names up.

OT but what is it with conservative religious thinktanks having to make up science to back their claims? It's hilarious

samsam123 · 05/06/2015 19:15

It's murder

WinterOfOurDiscountTents15 · 05/06/2015 19:22

Thanks for the eloquent contribution. Much appreciated Hmm

Tonberry · 05/06/2015 19:23

Care to elaborate samsam? If you mean abortion is murder, I think you'll find that the law does not define it as such. Please also be considerate to the fact that many of the ladies on this thread have had abortions for various reasons and the point of the thread was to discuss these experiences, not to fling around inflammatory remarks.

A little sensitivity goes a long way Smile

LucyBabs · 05/06/2015 19:33

Yes thanks samsam for clearing that up. I am actually typing this from my prison cell. I had two abortions does that make me a serial killer Hmm

NeedsAsockamnesty · 05/06/2015 20:09

In all fairness that is one of the myths.

No it's not HTH

flippinada · 05/06/2015 20:40

This thread has been much on my mind today and some of the comments have got me wondering whether pro life advocates are trained to 'debate' in a certain way. Apparently there is an organisation that does just that, called the Life Training Institute (I won't link, it's easily found by googling anyway). It makes for some interesting reading, to say the least.

flippinada · 05/06/2015 20:41

I'd also like to say that, despite the thread ending up how it did, I'm glad the fiveacres started it, and that people have felt able to share their experiences on here.

bumbleymummy · 05/06/2015 20:43

leedy, no I wouldn't because my position is that a foetus has a right to life and aborting/inducing prematurely would take away that right. The early induction suggestion was made as a possible alternative for people who have said that they think a woman should have the right to choose abortion to term (Which she can't currently do) in order to allow her bodily autonomy. However, (as I have pointed out several times) bodily autonomy can be achieved without termination at this stage and no one has actually explained why they think only abortion is good enough. It's very strange. "Abortion or nothing!"

I think it's 'very wrong' to judge a life's worth on someone else's opinion and whether or not they 'want' it.

Lucy, I'm not sure what you expect me to say. You know I don't agree with abortion - do you think I haven't thought this through?

" think that people should be allowed to make decisions about what happens to their own bodies "

"Despite the fact that giving birth is still something that you do with your body..."

You know how late term abortions are carried out - right?

"Also I see YET AGAIN we have been derailed into discussing abortions at term"

And AGAIN let me remind you that this came up again because TONBERRY brought it up in one of her posts.

micro, not everyone is pro-life for religious reasons. I'm not religious.

GeorgeYeatsAutomaticWriter · 05/06/2015 20:43
bumbleymummy · 05/06/2015 20:45

My only 'training' has come from MN. I was actually more of a 'casual' pro-lifer when I joined. These types of threads made me think more and my opinions grew from there. So you can thank MN for that!

GeorgeYeatsAutomaticWriter · 05/06/2015 20:47

Actually, not true bumbley (if I were you, I'd possibly call that a FALSE ACCUSATION or a LIE) - Tonberry was responding to your post below:

bumbleymummy Sat 30-May-15 15:56:01
Why abortion specifically post 24 weeks rather than early induction?

bumbleymummy · 05/06/2015 20:47

Sorry but at Winter posting this: "Thanks for the eloquent contribution."

After she posted:

"I do, yes. Suck on that one."

Grin
bumbleymummy · 05/06/2015 20:49

You're posting a quote from last saturday? Confused Yes, we were discussing it earlier in the thread. My point was that she was the one who brought it up again.

flippinada · 05/06/2015 20:50

Yes George, interesting isn't it?

Tonberry · 05/06/2015 20:50

And AGAIN let me remind you that this came up again because TONBERRY brought it up in one of her posts.

Yes, blame it on me, that'll distract them all from the way you twist posts to suit your own agenda Hmm

I did mention abortion up until term in the context that I wholly support a woman's right to choose. Her body, her terms, her choice. I then said in a subsequent post that I was stepping away from the issue of abortions at term, you however wouldn't let it go and kept blathering on about it even when posters (including me) attempted to move the thread back on track.

And it's rude to use capitals on the Internet. Rude. Rude. RUDE.

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