Hi,
I have a dilemma with my daughter's mother, and I wish for honest opinions on the subject so either I can see the light, or the mum.
To cut a long story short, I wish to take my 5yo abroad, preferably somewhere hot where we can both enjoy. I can only afford one holiday a year, and would love to take her at the same time. However, her mum won't allow it.
She's given various reasons as to why, ie she would be too far away if something happens (bare in mind she has gone on her own holiday and left my daughter with me before) and it would be too hot for her, my daughter can't stand the heat. I must admit, my daughter has been known to be a right grump when it gets hot here, but where I plan to take her there are swimming pools and air con - . And theres' so much more to do to take her mind off the heat.
Now the mother will let me take her on holiday in the UK, and she allows me to see her every weekend - this is probably the only topic we have been at loggerheads about.
I don't think it's fair on both my daughter and me that because of the mums insecurities, we cannot have the experience of going away every summer. If its important ive never missed a maintenance payment, I do see her regularly and my names on the birth certificate. Basically, I feel I have earnt my right to go 50/50 on all things like this.
Please, am I right to be upset that I cannot take my own daughter abroad on holiday, or should I just pipe down as the mum is quite within her right to refuse this?
Many thanks in advance, Adam