To be offended by the insinuations nursery were making.

[OliviaJ]

Basically my ds age 4 attends a nursery attached to a school although come September he'll e starting reception at a completely different school. Yesterday my ds's one to one practically throws a form in my hand telling me i must fill it in and return it ASAP. I asked her what it was regarding (didn't have the chance to look as ds was throwing a huge tantrum) and she said oh it's just to do with some funding the school can claim for some children.

So I get home and have a look at it and it's regarding this supsedly new early years premium that the government are allowing schools to claim. It asked for the usual, ie name address, but then went on to ask for mine and dh's national insurance number and then if our income was below £16000 and if so, did we claim JSA/IS/ESA etc etc.

Well to be fair I was a bit taken a back as to how intrusive it was and why Infact school wanted to kneel this information especially since in a few short weeks my ds will no longer be there. The form then goes on to mention that it is a proven that chidlren who are eligible for free school meals tend to be significantly behind educationally and my claiming this finding the school intends to close the gap between more affluent children.

Well for starters my children do not get free school meals, not have they ever done and me and dh do not get those types of benefits. I mean we get CB and CTC of £107 per month but that's about it. At first I was fuming actually that nursey dared to assume that we were firstly eligible for these benefits when they know us as a family (eldest two chidlren attended the school previously) and they know that dh works and secondly I'm annoyed at the insinuation that even if we did lain these benefits that my son would automatically be behind academically when in our family at least that would not happen as me and dh are very hands on with all of our children's educations. So today I asked the TA why she had given me this form when me and my dh don't claim benefits and our kfks are my on FSM and she became all awkward and just kind of shrugged it off! So AIBU to be a bit annoyed?

but its a moot point as the op has swooned at the very suggestion she is on "those" sort of benefits. She is a fully paid up middle class, houmous eating lentil weaver don't ya know

OliviaJ have you perhaps considered home ed? You clearly have so much to offer, it would be a shame to inadvertently disadvantage your children by allowing them to be educated alongside all those undeserving children of the poor.

BarbarianMum ^^
This

If parents ho think like you refuse to fill it in at the school your ds is moving to then there'll be less money in the pot for that school next year.
seriously, get over yourself.

Everyone has been given one. I was given one at dds preschool also. Manager said I may not want to fill it out as it requires sensitive info but that if we weren't eligible not to bother anyways!

Not much to say that hasn't already been said

YABU

Oh dear! I do not normally get involved in threads like this but I have been absolutely captivated by the OP's post.

OP your attitude is unbelievable and you must incite a lot of outrage. Can't believe you are like this in real life. Your kids might suffer if you are.

Is it half term for some areas yet? I don't believe anyone is this thick.

Oh, this is sad. I thought she was a genuine crashing snob. Now I see she's morphed into a genuine crashing Goady fucker.

Yawn.

There's still room for a Tory to eat a baby...

Cunningly disguised as a huff over a form though. Kudos for that.

I can understand how having gotten nowhere with his paperwork for his Sen having this put through quickly is annoying - but that doesn't sound like it is down to the nursery as they have provided support out of their own funding in the absence of the actual funding they would have received.

In our preschool all dc got the form.

As for the targeting of fsm based funding - this is just based on a statistic and while you have relatives who are on benefits with well brought up dc and relatives on benefits at the other side of the good parenting spectrum and I do agree that being on benefits does not automatically mean poor parenting however statistically if you plotted student attainment against family circumstances then those in the fsm group will have on average lower attainment - which due to the nature of humans will vary massively on the reasons for this happening as well as those who do not follow the trend. But you have to d aw a line somewhere and target what money there is at the groups most likely to be impacted. It isn't done to disapprove of those rightly claiming benefits to which they are entitled.

My dad would have probably been in the fsm category if it had existed in his youth - but my dgm parented well with my dad and uncle both achieving well at uni - uncle is a professor and dad a dentist.

But the money isn't for September
The money is for now, for this term
It might be how they are paying for your sons extra support if he hasn't been able to claim the sen funding

OurGlass not sure about half term but our local school is on study leave for exams at the moment so lots of teens around who may not have an exam now for nearly 3 weeks not thinking of my own dc at all

Our nursery made sure everyone completed the form by having all parents sign to say they had received it then sign again to say they had returned it.

Op how would you feel if I looked down on you for claiming tax credits and child benefit when I'm not even entitled to cb.

You are very unreasonable
You know you are but you just keep on going
£300 is A LOT to a school so please just fill in the forms and stop benefit bashing (even though you are on benefits)

Oh my it's just clicked for me I am so slow at times

You're berating people for being on benefits but you are on benefits too

But you do claim child tax credits so I don't see the problem

We don't often get a unanimous YABU. Congrats OliviaJ.

ourglass
Don't you realise?
olivia has tried so hard to looklikes she isn't!

Yes we claim it, the first thing we have ever been entitled to and like I said this was only due to me having to go part time. Our eldest is turning 16 this year and we have never claimed a penny for her or for our middle child. My son has a disability so I have no problem claiming money that we are told we are entitled to claim, if he didn't have the problems he does then I'd still be working full time and still be entitled to bugger all and that would of been fine with me.

So it's okay for you to get what you're entitled to, but not those who aren't as well off as you.

Bless.

£300 is not a lot of money, obviously not to you.
Get real please and bring yourself back to an earth level!

Goady cunt alert
Don't feed the troll

I have no problem at all with people claiming benefits or top ups if they genuinely need them. And for me and for a lot of other people having a disability is more deserving than say a woman who has a child every four/five years in order to stay at home on income support for as long as possible and not work.

If you were that utterly mahvellous dahling you'd know that 'would of' is incorrect grammar. I predict a dire future for your children.

Oh dear, my poor children being entitled to FSM and obviously having a lazy lay about mum who doesn't do anything to help them academically.

It must be awful for you to be mistaken for such a terrible parent like me.