To treat my family out of a lottery win.

[Songlark]

I haven't won yet, probably never will but DH and I were discussing who we would treat if we won a few million. He wants to treat all his large family(6 siblings) fair enough even though 2 of them have never really been part of our lives (they'd snub you if they saw you in the street. So I said "and of course I'd treat my brother" (who's loaded but wouldn't snub you in the street, but disinterested in our family) DH thinks my DB shouldn't be treated because he's rich. But I don't see how you can pick and choose. I say just treat the lot of them and then it's fair. Which got me thinking. Who would you all treat or not treat if you won the lottery?

We talk about this too (DP was once aquainted with a local Lottery winner and seems to think that this luck is also due to him). We agreed we'd take a quarter each to spend how we choose on family/friends so as not to cause arguments about which side of the family gets what (my dsis and db1 would get something although both financially, stable, but my db2 would get fuck all - but that's a whole other thread - and I reckon DP would go overboard with his family with his share). The remaining shared half would be spent on getting a house with a garden, a couple of nice cars, regular family holidays and a sizeable donation to a charity of our choice.

Hmm... To avoid all complications of having to explain anything, we'd have to give equal amounts to family members we are close to. It'd be nice to anonymously put a lump sum in each person's account, make sure the banks knew who it was from and that it was definitely theirs to keep, and then pretend we were one of the receivers of the mysterious benefactor too.

Obviously they would instantly work out it was me as I can't keep a straight face to save my life, but in my fantasy, I am an amazing liar.

Trust funds for dcs and nephews and nieces. Pay off debts, and then carry on as we are really. I love my home, maybe update it a bit. I don't need a new car. Amazing holidays would be nice, and being able to work because you want to and not because you have to, would be amazing too.

I'd want to live sensibly off the interest rather than buy anything big. I'm quite boring really.

I would definitely have a cleaner, a cook, and a gardener :o

These kind of dilemmas make me think I'd rather not tell anyone!

I'd get DM a car and a caravan. She doesn't need anything else.

We'd probably go on a big extended family trip to Orlando.

DP is estranged from some of his family. I don't know what'd happen there.

We'd buy his DM a house.

Tbh I don't think there's anyway to give things away without someone feeling hard done by.

I love spending imaginary money. First thing I'd do is bring all my family on a fabulous holiday.
I'd pay off my siblings mortgages and I'd buy houses for those who don't have houses yet. And buy them all new cars.
I'd put some by for my nieces and nephews, for their educations.
I'd love to set up some kind of charity to work in.
I'd buys lots of new clothes and shoes and handbags and spend loads of money beautifying myself.
I'd need squiilions to do all that. I don't even do the lottery

I think my life would become complicated by a lottery win and I don't play anyway.

But if I did I would upgrade to a slightly better area but still keep this house.
I would buy houses/pay off debts for parents/siblings.
Put a lump sum aside for my kids education and go on holiday.
Give some to charity lock the rest away for five years & then reconsider my position again.

I wouldn't treat or tell anyone! haha I'm a bitch. Even though DH family are quite poor and my mums not I would prob now I'm thinking about it as I'm writing give my mum back the money she's given usso we could buy our house etc seems only fair.

Well i don't need to help out my family as we don't speak, so it'd all be mine and my kids.

If we won a few million we'd tithe 10% to our Church then we'd probably give £100k to each set of parents, they've all paid off their mortgages so they could have some fun with it. Neither set of parents are on the bread-line so this would be extra money for them, rather than to live on.

I'd give £50k to my aunt as no other family than my dad and she works really hard to make ends meet. We'd probably pay off her mortgage too if it was going to eat into the £50k too much. My aunt doesn't go on holiday, runs a hand-me-down car from my dad and generally doesn't have that many treats.

Probably between £25k-£50k to my bro and the same DH's bro. It's a helping hand, a decent amount for a renovation or similar. Not life changing but they're both young. We wouldn't be paying off their mortgages or anything like that.

We'd then spend more out on Christmas and birthday presents, that sort of thing, not major but at the moment we have to budget carefully. Plus we'd probably set up Trust funds for nieces and nephews.

We'd also support a few charities that we volunteer with or have very close ties to.

The rest, we'd spend on us. We'd put DD & DS through private secondary school and we'd have the renovation work done on our house we can't afford yet. We'd probably pay for a two-week holiday in France with our friends, all expenses paid for, maybe a driver so we can all sit in the back and natter. Really nice villa, heated pool etc. We'd love to go back to France with them and have been chatting about it, would be fab to do so in style. I'd like to invest a load so DH only has to work for fun.

However we don't play

If we won a large amount we would give to his Mum and my Mum (our Dads are bothdead) and our siblings (we only have 3 between us.) We'd also give some to a few close friends if we won a lot, perhaps pay off their mortgages.

Pay off mortgage, gift a sum to each of our parents (both divorced), and to my two brothers. DH doesn't have any other family beyond his parents. I'd also give some to my cousin whose unborn daughter is very ill, to help them with costs. We'd extend our house and convert the loft, and I'd also invest some for each of the kids. I think DH would like a home cinema...but I'd like a pig :)

I wouldn't give a damn penny to anyone. Id pay off all debts, set up a trust fund for my son and any subsequent children buy a house outright and then invest the rest in property to rent out for an income.

I wouldn't tell anyone either

I'd only tell my DGPs and they would get whatever they wanted (my DN would probably tell me not to though!). As they have no mortgage and are not keen on going abroad, I have no idea what it would be And it probably wouldn't cost much or anywhere near the amount I'd like to treat them. I think they may like a caravan so I'd do that and pay the ground rent.

Kids would be sorted, private school, uni, flat.

Me and DH would have a decent size house but not a mansion, wouldn't know what to do with the rooms. I'd have a few super cars and a sensible family car. Holidays abroad and we'd travel around America with the DCs.

I'd find what to give family awkward as I don't see them all the same unfortunately. My dad would get a little house with a garage as he's always messing about with cars. My brothers would get a lump sum depending on what we won, 1 sister would get her mortgage paid off and DNs would get a trust fund. Other sister wouldn't get much. She's pretty self centred and will pay attention to any children except her actual niece and nephew so I'm not really arsed with her. ILs would get fuck all. We've asked MIL for help twice, neither was a big thing and something she could easily do but she wasn't interested so she would reap what she sowed there. SIL doesn't bother and will pay more attention to a cat than even acknowledge our DCs so wouldn't bother with her either.

Some would go to particular charities and the rest would be saved in case it all goes tits up.

I suspect we would have a massive argument about a lottery win because DH would want to give some to his parents and I wouldn't want them to get a penny.

In my defence, I have been NC with them for a few years now and if they won big, I wouldn't want to take a penny off them either, they'd think they had me bought and paid for if I did.

Depending on the amount we won, I would want to share some out between various other friends and relatives though. My parents, my brother and his wife, DH's sister, certain aunts and uncles, all the nieces and nephews, some cousins and their children. Some of our friends, a few customers from work who I'd like to do something nice for.

DS would obviously get a large amount put away for his future and after that all I'd really like is to buy a reasonably sized house with a bit of land (field and woodland) and take in a few rescue dogs and donkeys. We could potter about in the fields and woodland together.

And I would buy a nice holiday home or two, somewhere warm and lovely, that I would use to provide free holidays for bereaved families who had lost a child and for the use by the charity that gives holidays to the children from Chernobyl.

Somewhere by the beach and the sea, maybe with a lemon tree or two, and a pool, and a small wooden boat that wouldn't actually go out to sea but would be a nice place to sit and read in the sun.

We'd give some money to ALL our family and friends. We've discussed it. We've never considered giving his side less because they're well off.

In that case agree a portion to be retained within your family unit, split the rest 50/50 to each do with as you choose.

We'd help all our family because they're all so lovely not sure we'd tell them exactly how much we'd won...actually yeah we probably would...

I wouldn't tell a soul, I'd just do secretly nice things without them knowing and giggle to myself as they'd think it was fairies knowing my crazy family

For me, reading about how other people plan to spend hypothetical money is on a par with looking at other people's holiday photos.

I'm hoping for some stories where people did win big money and CFs came out of the woodwork sniffing around for money.

The trick is not to tell a soul!

go to same places you’d go on hols, maybe venture further but up the spec. keep the details to yourself, like business class over cattle.

the minute people get wind, things change for the worst

if you think family are a bit shit now, imagine when they’re all over you like a rash for the money

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This reminds me of a silly not really argument I had with my mum once. My brother was living in my flat as I had moved in with a partner. Mum said if she won the lottery she would give me the money for my flat so my brother could keep it.

When I asked her what she would give me she kept saying "the money for your flat" and couldn't see that it was just a gift for my brother as it was my flat anyway and I could get the money for it any time I wanted by selling it.

We have decided to split any win 3 ways - one for us, and one each. Out of our individual pot, we can treat friends and family as we see fit.
Now just need to win 😅