to tell DH I will feed myself

[DrHarleenFrancesQuinzel]

DH does the cooking in our house. He plans (with a bit of help) and cooks our evening meals.

I, however would like to lose some weight. While I realise that its down to me what goes in my mouth. DH doesnt exactly encourage or support me. When I tell him I want to eat less or cut out certain foods he reacts with a comment along the lines of not having fun. Tonight when I said I need to stop eating crap like bicuits, ice cream, chocolate his reaction was about eating boring.

Im considering the only way I am going to be able to succeed in losing weight is to sort my own food out with what I want rather than what he wants to cook. I dont want high carbs every night. I dont want a massive amount of calories. But I kind of feel like I have to eat what he cooks. Tonight it was jacket potato with cheese and beans, tomorrow it is burgers and mash with beans. We also have sausage and chips on Thursday.

Im thinking of 5:2 with a little bit of low carbing. If I continue to let DH cook for me, I have no chance of sticking to my plans.

OP do you or your OH work? Full time? Part time? I just wonder why your OH does all the cooking?

Why don't you cook at least part of the time?

OP, apologies, I hope my post just above didn't sound patronising - it wasn't meant to at all. I think it's great you're starting to get aware of this and you are clearly getting more switched on about the issue - I really hope you start getting your DH to see sense.

Why doesn't the OP cook?

OP works he is a SAHD and she doesn't enjoy cooking whereas he does .

Enjoying cooking doesn't come into it.

Part of being a good parent is providing healthy food.

I don't particularly enjoy washing clothes but it has to be done.

Does the OP work full time?

OP has said she works and her DH is the SAHD. Many, many SAHMs do all the cooking. Why shouldn't a SAHD do the same?

Now I agree with PPs that if the menu items the OP listed are representative of a typical week, they aren't terribly healthy choices for anyone. And it does sound as though the DH is not particularly supportive of the OP. But what I don't understand is why she would allow him to control the amount of food/type of food she eats. Why not just tell him she will help herself to what she wants? Surely he doesn't need to plate up a meal for her as though she were a child.

We don't know if the OP works full time- she says she doesn't like cooking.

Does she not cook because of time constraints?
Both OH and I work full time, but I do the bulk of the cooking for various reasons.

Just quickly saying I work FT dh stays at home. He enjoys cooking. I don't.

Will read replies properly later. I'm in the car about to set off home.

Do people really only eat "one or two" chips?

What on earth is the point?

I do Mintyy -to be fair they're the enormous chunky ones so not much smaller than half a jacket potato.
To the OP- do stock up on mustards pickles etc. They fill your plate and make a more more interesting for few calories.

He may be cooking, but he's cooking a whole load of crap.

If I were you, I'd have the protein component at push and just add lots of salad and or veg. And I would suggest that he looks into preparing healthier meals for all of you.

*Do people really only eat "one or two" chips?

What on earth is the point?*

Yup. (As seriously says, large chunky ones so a bit like having 1 potato instead of 4) And there was a time when I would have shared your horror. The same time when I would have been horrified that these days I stick to only one small glass of wine. I've learned to get pleasure from a smaller amount – I enjoy the taste, I eat more slowly, I don't feel cheated if I don't have lots.

I'm not anorexic or skinny btw, and I have no food issues – I'm just getting older, put on weight much more easily, and I'm moving more towards healthier eating so lots of veg and salad, lean protein and fewer carbs and refined/processed food (though not an outright ban, I'll still have chocolate or an ice cream if I fancy it, etc.).

I would onlyeat 3 or 4 chips (normal sized). I do cook them for my family and serve regular portions, but If I ate a load od chips I would feel bloated and sluggish. I feel better on small amounts of carbohydrates.

He doesn't enjoy cooking. He likes to throw some crap on a baking tray in 30 seconds flat.

It's not good for any of you and really bad for your children to be eating that way. If adults choose to eat shite all the time, fair enough, but your children need vegetables and a more varied type of diet for nutrition, and to develop a more rounded attitude to food.