AIBU about this man in children's park

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To set the scene:

Park is quite big, has some open grassy areas (which is for general use - dog walking, people sitting down on grass etc..) a football pitch and a children's park which is fully fenced off and gated. Kids park has several slides, 10 swings, water fountains in summer, picnic tables - so is quite a size in itself.

It's not an overly busy park and on some days (colder weather, term time) it has been just me and DS. It's also quite isolated if no-one is in the football pitch. There is a warden but he takes care of the whole park so often isn't in the hut which is located inside the children's park.

Popped in today {as we do most days} and all was fine. It was actually quiet considering it was nice weather and a Sunday.

I let toddler have a run around and was feeding baby on bench when toddler shoots off and as I turn round to call after toddler I see some bloke has settled himself behind me and is unclothed bar a pair of shorts but even they are rolled up... They are rolled up the way people roll up clothes to catch the sun, so we're talking short shorts.

He was all happily settled on a blanket, earphones in and I am not suggesting for a second he was peeking at me feeding baby, he probably couldn't even tell that I was.

But AIBU to think it's just to the most appropriate place to sunbathe?

I toyed with reporting him but we left soon after. Should I have found the warden and let him know?

It was before Midday, not even that hot and he had the rest of the park to sunbathe in

Or an I being hysterical?

if you felt uneasy about him, you go with your gut instincts op.
AIBU is an absolute wind up agree

Reminds me of the news story from Australia where that woman posted that picture of that man on FB thinking he was taking pictures her children when he was actually taking a selfie. She just assumed he was up to no good.

chocolatelife are you really trying to imply that MN is a place for paedophiles to meet online or something? That OP should talk to real life people about this because of the responses she's getting?

Maybe he was waiting for his child/ren. Yabu. Everyone's telling you yabu yet you choose to ignore and say the whole sites a wind up. because we don't agree with you. Ok dear.

chocolatelife are you really trying to imply that MN is a place for paedophiles to meet online or something? That OP should talk to real life people about this because of the responses she's getting?

there are some weird posts sometimes Twinkle
and AIBU often tends to be sheep like
And quite often RL people tend to be more reasonable in their responses.

You sound unhinged and need help. Ffs you were going to report someone over this. Unbelievable.

It wasn't the most appropriate place, shrieking children, suspicious mummies, getting trampled on...
But report him? Really? He was clothed, not starkers.
Perhaps he was part of a psychology experiment testing paranoia amongst parents of under 12s .

chocolatelife are you really trying to imply that MN is a place for paedophiles to meet online or something? That OP should talk to real life people about this because of the responses she's getting?

there are some weird posts sometimes Twinkie
and AIBU often tends to be sheep like
And quite often RL people tend to be more reasonable in their responses.

YANBU. Most children's play areas have a sign that says NO ADULTS, unless accompanied by a child. Would have freaked me out too.

There are loads of pervs in parks. That's one of the places they really like to hang out. So whilst he may or may not be a perv, but he wasn't actually doing anything at that time so you shouldn't do anything.

Yuk tho who wants to see short shorts

YANBU. Most children's play areas have a sign that says NO ADULTS, unless accompanied by a child. Would have freaked me out too.

YANBU. Most children's play areas have a sign that says NO ADULTS, unless accompanied by a child. Would have freaked me out too.

Why do people post a topic in AIBU then get annoyed when they are told they are unreasonable?

msgrinch, it's not that people aren't agreeing with me.

It's the level of rudeness.

I appreciate that I was being completely OTT / Stupid / Paranoid / Ridiculous etc..

chocolatelife True, but I highly doubt the majority of posters here are paedophiles or sheep. I suspect they are just people who are sick to their back teeth of people seeing a paedophile around every corner. Particularly when people doing perfectly innocent things are treated with such suspicion.

Hysteria - and rather nasty at that.

op did not do anything, other than walk away.

people should be aware that is all.
and OP herself suggested gauging RL answers

I would have assumed he wanted to sunbathe somewhere he wouldn't be harassed by dogs, tbh.

Fair enough if you felt uncomfortable OP. I do think you should follow your instinct.

Reporting him would be an overreaction though. He wasn't actually doing anything wrong.

OP YANBU at all. I've seen PCSOs move on a similar sunbather from the childrens playground in a park in my town.

I think it's a bit weird. Even without the shorts hanging out on your own in a play park is odd. It doesn't really sound like he was waiting to meet his kids - and even if he was I'd find it weird that he was topless.

I think you're getting a hard time OP.

I think that if one feels uncomfortable about something, there is often a reason.

I would have found it odd/disconcerting

OFGS be NORMAL everyone!

OP has said the following.

He had chosen the small, fenced off area with play equipment to sit in

There was a large, grassy park beyond

He still chose the part with swings, slides etc.

Why?

I think that's odd.

To set the scene -

My son a daughter have brownies and beavers on the same night. It's not worth me popping home after I have dropped off DS so I park outside the church where brownies meet and read a book for half an hour.

AIBU to not wanting to be thought of as some sort of depraved adult hanging around outside a children's activity on my own just because I don't have a sign on the top of my car saying "waiting for my children"?

Totally hysterical. Poor man.