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aibu to complain about the tesco delivery man

40 replies

zara020 · 16/05/2015 18:13

I answered the door to take in my shopping delivery wearing loungewear I.e full length pj bottoms and a vest top and he commented "have you just got up?" with a smirk. it was 5pm. but even if I had just got up, is it any of his bloody business? ! as much as I make small talk on the doorstep to these perfect strangers, thought that strayed into into non of his business and just abit rude.
I just said 'no actually' without a smile. think he got the message. what an arse. aibu to complain or am.i just in a mood?

OP posts:
Pooka · 16/05/2015 18:15

YABU to complain formally.

Sounds like small talk.

SpringBreaker · 16/05/2015 18:16

Well you sound a bundle of laughs .. You would seriously complain about this??? Maybe you need more sleep!

Madamecastafiore · 16/05/2015 18:16

Grip

Sirzy · 16/05/2015 18:16

He was making conversation. Ywbu to complain

FarFromAnyRoad · 16/05/2015 18:16

You sound a bit mardy to me. Would it have cost you anything or altered the course of your life to just smile at the guy? He can't help being a bit of a dick with limited social conversational skills but you, presumably, can?

KingJoffreyFanciesDarylDixon · 16/05/2015 18:17

I've had this with Tesco. I work nights and answered the door at 2pm in pajamas.

"Are you having a lazy day?"

Well, if working from 8pm to 8am, coming home, sorting out school stuff, hanging out some washing and then having a few hours kip on the sofa counts as lazy...

Hmm
AdeleDazeem · 16/05/2015 18:18

Bloody rude. For all he knows you work the nightshift 3am to 3pm and were actually in bed.

DoTheDuckFace · 16/05/2015 18:18

Did you just get out of the wrong side of the beg?

DoTheDuckFace · 16/05/2015 18:19

Have you Just got out of the wrong side of the bed?
Yabu.

usualsuspect333 · 16/05/2015 18:20

YABU to use the word' loungewear'

You had your pyjamas on. Seems a perfectly reasonable assumption on his part.

Hadron21 · 16/05/2015 18:20

It's tesco not Fortnum and Mason!

LondonRocks · 16/05/2015 18:20

It is a bit rude actually...

Koalafications · 16/05/2015 18:23

Yes, it's a bit rude but to complain would be ridiculous. Maybe he was making a lighthearted joke and misread your mood.

LotusLight · 16/05/2015 18:27

They are on the minimum wage. Just cut them some slack,

Marynary · 16/05/2015 18:27

I think it was a bit rude but is it really bad enough to complain and potentially put his job at risk. Does it really matter if they suggest you have just got up/are having a day off etc etc. Why do you care?

BlackTrivet · 16/05/2015 18:28

It was an ill-judged comment but definitely not worthy of a formal complaint. YABU.

Original poster
zara020 · 16/05/2015 18:28

Point taken, I won't complain and ruin his day. But I do think they need to be careful with what they say, it was a it misjudged but not malicious. For the record, I have had quite a lazy day after a long week, maybe I'm feeling guilty for not being v productive todayBlush

OP posts:
Bearbehind · 16/05/2015 18:30

How could it possibly be rude?

You were wearing pyjamas at 5pm so it isn't unreasonable to ask if you'd just got up when making small talk?

Blueberrymuffint0p · 16/05/2015 18:31

Lotus-what's the minimum wage got to do with it?

Cabrinha · 16/05/2015 18:31

In what world would you complain and cause trouble at work for someone?!

"Yes - night shift Smile"
"No, these are my comfy clothes Smile"
"Yes - awesome, right?! Grin"

It's just small talk Confused

Koalafications · 16/05/2015 18:37

I know that the Ocado and Morrisons delivery men in my area are on £23-25k, not minimum wage.

usualsuspect333 · 16/05/2015 18:40

Tesco pay their staff more than minimum wage.

IHaveBrilloHair · 16/05/2015 18:46

Grip needed.

LittleMissRayofHope · 16/05/2015 19:05

Even if it was minimum wage, which it isn't, does this give the right to say anything they like then?

I missed out on years and years of blatant rudeness when I was on minimum wage as I didn't know this weird rule....

Think it was just small talk. Maybe he was surprised to see someone in pj's that late in the day.
I wear pj's or joggers around the house but if I know I have a delivery booked I change for that hour. Just how I'm comfortable.
Don't think he was rude. YWBU to complain

Themrmen · 16/05/2015 19:24

Fgs, stop being ridiculous. I think half the time people are looking to be offended by something. You were in pjs not rude and even if you had done a night shift, so what, you order thd delivery for that time, not like he's cold calling with bags of shopping.