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Mn jury. lovely proud mum post or bragbook

91 replies

devon004 · 12/05/2015 22:16

So it is Sats week for year 6. Facebook has bern full of I wish my dd or ds well in them etc etc. All fine. However, today I saw one post from a mum at ds's school which made me think.
It announced how proud she was of her clever boy who is taking all level 6 papers.
So is this type of post ok or ott in your opinion. I have liked it btw.
Thank you jury

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HoldMeCloserTonyDanza · 12/05/2015 22:19

I always think people who need to brag about the academic achievements of primary school children probably aren't intellectual heavyweights in their own right.

Always classier to keep it to yourself.

CaptainAnkles · 12/05/2015 22:22

I'd leave a comment saying 'Good for him, he must have worked really hard' or something.

SaucyJack · 12/05/2015 22:22

I'd find it a little dull, but hardly AIBU worthy for chrissakes.

devon004 · 12/05/2015 22:27

Just intrigued and bored really as people often have strong opinions on what is acceptable facebook wise.

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kissmethere · 12/05/2015 22:27

It's a bit braggy, she is bursting with pride and the whole world must know. We all know one .

AuntyMag10 · 12/05/2015 22:29

Hardly worthy of a post on here. She's proud of her son what's your issue with that?

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 12/05/2015 22:30

Braggy and boastful. We're all proud of our children. Not just her.

mumofthemonsters808 · 12/05/2015 22:30

I can't see the point of bragging about being put in for level 6 papers. Maybe if the kid managed to achieve a level 6 and you are that way inclined to tell everyone, then I can understand it. My Dd sat the Level 6 paper in Reading, I knew nothing about this until she casually mentioned how hard she found it. I did not tell anyone, good job because she did not get it.

I've not seen too many good luck messages for SATS they are all GCSE ones. I can't understand this either, I'd just speak to my daughter about it, but I'm not a big Facebook poster.

todayisayesterdaystomorrow · 12/05/2015 22:30

Yabu. Let her have a moment.

Kampeki · 12/05/2015 22:31

OTT. Boasts should be reserved for grandparents in my view.

ragged · 12/05/2015 22:34

It's about her life nobody else's. Some kids do work really hard to get ready for the tests. I'd 'like' if I like the child & ignore otherwise.

Floggingmolly · 12/05/2015 22:37

Of course it's bragging. She shoehorned the level 6 in there for the sole purpose of impressing everyone; otherwise "I'm so proud of little X" would have done perfectly well on it's own.
He hasn't actually sat (or passed) them yet??

PeachyPants · 12/05/2015 22:41

I think it's inappropriate. I also feel sorry for her DS advertising that he's doing the papers, it's setting them up for a fall if he doesn't actually get all level sixes. I agree that it's often parents who have achieved nothing much to shout about themselves in terms of academia who boast about their primary school DC levels. IME they tend to go quiet when their DC get to GCSE level and it becomes more transparent who the really bright ones are.

pieceofpurplesky · 12/05/2015 22:47

No she is a bragging mum. Will she brag when her DC is one if the 80% that failed maths and 98% that passed literacy? All kids work hard whether level 2 or 6

EugenesAxe · 12/05/2015 22:48

Agree with floggingmolly on the whole - would be better to post after he got them. For all I know the school may try out all children with half a chance at a certain level, even if they think they'll probably only see results from a certain number.

thehumanjam · 12/05/2015 22:49

I think it's bragging and a little premature as he might flunk them all. If I'm having a proud mum moment I change my settings so only family can see my post.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 12/05/2015 22:51

ragged not all children are academic. It doesn't mean they've tried any less harder than this particular child.

oddfodd · 12/05/2015 22:53

It's bragging and it's ill-mannered. I know lots of people with clever children but most of them wouldn't dream of telling everyone else about it. Who else cares, really, except for their granny?

DoJo · 12/05/2015 23:15

Is this a mum you are friends with or one whose post you have seen because it is on the school's FB page?

ragged · 13/05/2015 07:17

Very true, Ilive! It's reasonable for anyone to post something about how proud they are of their child working hard or much their child is looking forward to any challenge, especially if they hard worked for it. In this case the child's challenge happens to be L6 tests. Just being mentally up for it is an achievement.

NerrSnerr · 13/05/2015 07:23

It's bragging, and why is she wishing someone luck who is clearly too young for FB? Wouldn't it be better to wish him luck to his face? It's like people who write on Facebook 'happy birthday to my gorgeous Ellie-Mae. Mummy's little princess is 1!'. Ellie-Mae can't read that, so tell her and not us!

chiefbrody · 13/05/2015 07:57

Just like it and move on...

I do not consider it bragging it is just her life.

Is it bragging if someone puts up photos of their holiday [ when others cannot afford one]

Or bragging when you put up a pic of a restaurant you intend to visit [when others cant afford to]

Or a picture of you in your garden [ when others live in a flat]

She is happy ... why are you not happy for her. [if she is your friend]

chiefbrody · 13/05/2015 07:58

nerrserr.... your a little ray of sunshine.

TravelinColour · 13/05/2015 08:02

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SoupDragon · 13/05/2015 08:05

Of course it's bragging. You should know that you are not allowed to say anything remotely positive about your children whatsoever, you must only ever complain.

People who have bright children should just shut the fuck up.

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