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Mn jury. lovely proud mum post or bragbook

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devon004 · 12/05/2015 22:16

So it is Sats week for year 6. Facebook has bern full of I wish my dd or ds well in them etc etc. All fine. However, today I saw one post from a mum at ds's school which made me think.
It announced how proud she was of her clever boy who is taking all level 6 papers.
So is this type of post ok or ott in your opinion. I have liked it btw.
Thank you jury

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Tootaboo · 13/05/2015 09:38

I would still say it's bragging Soup.

oddfodd · 13/05/2015 09:45

Why would you though Soup? Like I said, I've got lots of friends with extremely clever children but only two of them feel the need to post their every achievement on facebook.

I really genuinely don't understand why people do it. I feel embarrassed for them.

SoupDragon · 13/05/2015 09:47

I would still say it's bragging Soup.

What a very sad world you live in then. There is something very wrong when we are only allowed to be publicly annoyed with our children or have to play down their achievements.

Mintyy · 13/05/2015 09:48

Oh tosh!

SoupDragon · 13/05/2015 09:48

I feel embarrassed for them.

I feel embarrassed for the people who whine about "bragging"

TheRealMaryMillington · 13/05/2015 09:49

Well, he hasn't passed them yet….
och, it matters not.

SoupDragon · 13/05/2015 09:49

Oh tosh!

Oh bollocks.

SomewhereovertheRainbow02 · 13/05/2015 09:50

Some people use Facebook as a timeline that they can look back on in years to come. Which I think is a good idea. I don't do it myself personally and I would never wish my daughter a happy birthday on there as she isn't on Facebook to read it. I do find some people just brag and brag and brag but its their Facebook. They can write what the hell they want as can I!
Don't like it...Don't look! Simple!

oddfodd · 13/05/2015 09:51

If you're one of my friends, I've hidden your feed Soup Wink

DeeWe · 13/05/2015 09:54

I don't see it as braging particularly. Perhaps she knows how hard he's worked to get there. perhaps he got 1s at KS1 and she's amazed at how much he's come on. She may know he's unlikely to get the level 6s, but wants him to know that she is proud of him for tackling the papers, so saying she should wait until he's got them is not likely to happen.

I can celebrate with my friends when they're pleased because their 11yo managed to write their own name for the first time, or when their 8yo want for the first dry night, or when their 18yo got their GCSE in maths at E grade. No one would bregrudge that they're happy and celebrate for their achievements. Why should someone whose child is achieving well not be allowed to celebrate?

Mrsjayy · 13/05/2015 09:58

I dont understand whats worthy of a status anymore its so confusing what people can and cant put on facebook Hmm

TheOriginalSteamingNit · 13/05/2015 09:58

Well it's definitely bragging, I don't see how there could be any question.

Only those who know her will know whether they feel it's justified for reasons like those deewe suggests above, or whether they're inclined to let her off!

Toughasoldboots · 13/05/2015 10:00

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Mrsjayy · 13/05/2015 10:01

My friends 5year old got star pupil last week is that bragging?

Mrsjayy · 13/05/2015 10:02

Why is it tacky?

teeththief · 13/05/2015 10:12

Nothing wrong with people being proud of their kids. But I do see a difference between someone posting, say, that their kid has passed their grade 5 violin or got their 100m swimming badge and posting that their kid is doing level 6 Sats. Not sure why, but I think it's the direct competition with other children - most of whom won't be doing level 6

Why's there a difference though? This really pisses me off. My children are high achievers academically and I occasionally post on FB if they've done something I'm proud of. Why is that different to someone saying ' So proud of x scoring 4 goals/winning a gold in gymnastics today' or ' well done to x for passing their grade 6 in piano/swimming'.

Why are academic achievements different to sporting or musical ones?

Toughasoldboots · 13/05/2015 10:14

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Tootaboo · 13/05/2015 10:15

I don't think I live in a sad world Soup, I consider it as bragging when you publicly state on facebook about how proud you are of your child no matter what level they achieve, I also said I understand it to a point. The bit that confuses me is I don't always understand who they are doing it for, is it for the child who has pressure to then achieve said results as parents have announced it to everyone. Or is it for the parents benefit, so everyone can applaud them on their childs excellence. Everyone is proud of their child, I'm proud of mine, close family will ask how he is doing and I will share in person or over the phone I'm not saying we shouldn't give children praise or recognise their achievements. I would never be publicly annoyed or down play his achievements either.

My DS struggles to cope with pressures of sats he has dyspraxia and hasn't slept properly in weeks. We are taking him to London for the weekend as a surprise, I wouldn't rush to put something on facebook because that would be bragging, my child won't have any better or worse time by me not announcing it. Lots of my friends and family do brag on facebook and I always comment and like I just don't always see the need.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 13/05/2015 10:41

I think it is bragging. She could easily post good luck to everyone doing their SAT's and leave it at that. Why does she feel the need to show off to everyone? I wonder if its more about bolstering her own ego through the medium of her child.

MrsFrisbyMouse · 13/05/2015 10:45

doesn't matter. smile, like, nod, move on and be happy and content in your own parenting choices.

differentnameforthis · 13/05/2015 11:50

So if you visited her at home & she said "Bobby is doing all the level 6 papers, I am so proud of my clever boy"

Would you
1] care whether it was ok or not
2] post about it here?

It is not inappropriate to say it, yes, it may be bragging, but fucking hell...what is the world coming to when a proud parent can't brag?

If my mother bragged about me, instead of putting me down, it may have inspired me to work harder at school.

Her facebook page is a place YOU have been invited into. If you don't like what you see/read, you scroll past or hide it.

It isn't up to you to garner opinion as to whether her post is "ok" because it sounds like you want us all to slate her.

differentnameforthis · 13/05/2015 11:50

What a very sad world you live in then. There is something very wrong when we are only allowed to be publicly annoyed with our children or have to play down their achievements. YY!

TheWordFactory · 13/05/2015 11:57

I don't do FB because I think it encourages people to present themselves in an inauthentic manner.

But I would think of a post like that, similar to all the posts on MN of DC who are 'predicted all A*s' at GCSE.'

Floggingmolly · 13/05/2015 11:58

Not sad at all; not to need your pride validated by all 30,000 of your FB "friends"...

gofuckyourself · 13/05/2015 12:13

The only person who needs to know I'm proud of him whatever is my son and he does know because I tell him every day not a bunch of people on faceless social media.