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Mn jury. lovely proud mum post or bragbook

91 replies

devon004 · 12/05/2015 22:16

So it is Sats week for year 6. Facebook has bern full of I wish my dd or ds well in them etc etc. All fine. However, today I saw one post from a mum at ds's school which made me think.
It announced how proud she was of her clever boy who is taking all level 6 papers.
So is this type of post ok or ott in your opinion. I have liked it btw.
Thank you jury

OP posts:
NRomanoff · 13/05/2015 08:08

I am pretty sure at least 70% of stuff on fb can be considered bragging. Does anyone expect people to consider those that can't afford a holiday and not post holiday pictures

She is proud of something that's going in in her dc life and by extension it effects her. So she posted it. No different to checking in at a nice restaurant, or posting you went somewhere or you bought something.

trice · 13/05/2015 08:15

I am trying to change my initial reaction to this kind of thing, which would be to think it was boasting in an unbecoming way. we should be more keen to celebrate the success of others. Especially our friends. So well done that boy!

HamishBamish · 13/05/2015 08:16

Personally, I don't like Facebook and think posts like that are bragging. I celebrate my children's achievements within our family, but don't see the need to announce them to all our friends too.

However, I understand that other people do things differently and if they want to make a big deal about their children's achievements on Facebook then that's their business. I take pleasure in friend's children as well as my own and am happy to hear how well they are doing.

DrankSangriaInThePark · 13/05/2015 08:17

Of course it's bragging.

As is an update from a 5 star hotel/restaurant as opposed to a KFC at Butlins.

I see it as thoughtless insecurity tbh. Any parent who feels the need to publish grades and shit on social media probably a) wasn't expecting it b) wouldn't have managed it themselves c) has too much time on their hands

When I see this sort of post (and yes, on my FB, they tend to be from people who are all of the above) I like and move on, wondering for a nanosecond if I am a bad parent for not doing it. I also wonder about other friends of ours whose children are never going to do well at school for various reasons and ask myself if the bragathon posters ever consider their feelings.

WhoNickedMyName · 13/05/2015 08:22

it's distasteful.

as is your 'liking' her status then starting thread about it.

lightgreenglass · 13/05/2015 08:26

My reaction wouldn't be its boastful but I bloody well hope that kid gets level 6 in their stats otherwise that's awkward...

AnnoyedParent22 · 13/05/2015 08:34

Yes, people can post what they want and be proud of their children's achievements or holidays abroad or dinner in a Michelin starred restaurant yadda, yadda, yadda...

But if I'm really really honest I find it a bit pathetic and attention seeking.

And it always seems to be the same people that post this crap. So it loses any sort of interest value. Because they require constant validation that their holidays, or their children/partner, or their lives are wonderful.

I usually like or comment to be nice but I do roll my eyes a little.

Unkind...maybe... but it's how I feel when I see these posts again and again...

AnnoyedParent22 · 13/05/2015 08:38

I guess though that facebook is just the modern equivalent of the beloved Christmas round robin letter.

However with the RR you only received that once a year whereas facebook is every sodding day!

Only1scoop · 13/05/2015 08:40

So glad I'm not on FB

It must be exhausting to have to update every little thing your dc does.

SumThucker · 13/05/2015 08:59

I've seen a potty filled with a baby's first shit on it, with daddy (who was in work) tagged in it, so a bit of bragging about SATS doesn't surprise me.

HoldMeCloserTonyDanza · 13/05/2015 08:59

This isn't Facebook's fault.

Tequilashotsfor1 · 13/05/2015 09:01

It's bragging.

There is a new trend to post pics of mountains of toys and Easter eggs (with no kids in them ) and the same on birthdays and Christmas . It really gets on my tits as showing how much they have spent and puts pressure on other families .

Rant over Smile

Dublinlass · 13/05/2015 09:04

Thats why I left fb. Couldn't handle all those mad updates about beautiful kind funny children and these are from people I actually like. So rather than lose respect for them I left and now back to having normal conversations where my friends don't talk like that face to face. Definately should be called fakebook

SoupDragon · 13/05/2015 09:09

I see it as thoughtless insecurity tbh.

That's pretty much what I think about the people who complain that it's bragging.

5madthings · 13/05/2015 09:10

Heaven forbid people are proud of their kids.

I posted wishing good luck to my 15 yr old taking gcses and to all parents who have teens doing exams, I also said I was thinking of my teacher friends dealing with it all as well and said much alcohol may be needed.

Threads like this seem mean spirited imo, should we not mention achievements? I use fb to keep in touch with family and friends spread all over the place, they are interested in how the kids are doing, whether that be Ds1 diing gcses, a good swimming lesson fir Ds4, ds3 doing his bikeability, or dds latest funny comment.

The joy of fb is if you don't like it you can just ignore and scroll on by. You don't have to respond.

5madthings · 13/05/2015 09:10

And what soup said.

WorraLiberty · 13/05/2015 09:14

Yeah I agree with Soup too.

I also think too many people on MN are obsessed with moaning about that website.

TenerifeSea · 13/05/2015 09:16

I did a degree as a mature student and I was a fully fledged adult with a child of my own at the time. When I graduated, my mum was very proud and told everyone she knew about her genius (ha!) daughter. I suspect if FB was her thing, she'd have posted on there too.

hackmum · 13/05/2015 09:17

Bragging!

Nothing wrong with people being proud of their kids. But I do see a difference between someone posting, say, that their kid has passed their grade 5 violin or got their 100m swimming badge and posting that their kid is doing level 6 Sats. Not sure why, but I think it's the direct competition with other children - most of whom won't be doing level 6.

ragged · 13/05/2015 09:23

It's really easy to stay FB friends but block people from your newsfeed if you don't want to know about good things in their lives.

Tootaboo · 13/05/2015 09:25

It is bragging but they are proud so I can understand it to a point.

There's a parent in our playground at the minute driving everyone mad as she when her child comes out this week she asks at the top of her voice 'oh darling how did your level 6 Sats paper go today? I'm so proud of you for doing so well' the child looks massively uncomfortable and it seems she is doing it because she wants everyone to know how clever she is. I just ignore it, I'm massively proud of my DS who if he is lucky will get a level 4, he's not academic but tries bloody hard and I hate seeing his wee face crumple when he feels not good enough because he's not one of the amazing level 6 children. So much pressure on children, it's sad.

SoupDragon · 13/05/2015 09:31

If you have a non-academic child and you post "I'm SO proud of DC as they got all 4s in their SATS!" Is that bragging?

Mrsjayy · 13/05/2015 09:32

Meh she is proud of her son and showing off how clever he is isnt that what facebook is for ? we dont have stats in Scotland im assuming level 6 is the highest they can go

FresherThanYou · 13/05/2015 09:32

I have an cv friend like this, she posts all her children's levels etc as well Grin what really made me laugh was one time she photographed her dd report and put it on fb. No word of a lie it was word for word the same as my ds (apart from him/her etc) GrinGrin
I find it very cringeworthy but each to their own and agree as a pp said maybe not too intellectual themselves

Mintyy · 13/05/2015 09:34

Hah! SumThucker - that is really gross/funny at the same time Grin.

Of course the poster described by op is bragging. Cringeful.

And what subjects do you think are worthy of posting in Aibu AuntyMag ? Just so we all know for the future.