To wonder what kind of woman puts a man before her children?

[ElectricTurnip]

If one of your children expressed an opinion that they hated your partner, and the partner was also unpleasant to the child you wouldn't pick the partner over the child would you? Well this is exactly what a girl I know has done, despite her filling Facebook with decelerations of how much she apparently loves her kids. If she really loved her kids she'd put their needs before everything wouldn't she?

I'm absolutey appalled and genuinely concerned for the child involved. There is already social service involvement with the family, surely you'd think that would make her buck her ideas up?

Selfish bitch!

My father married a woman when I was 11 and my little sister was 7. From the very first day we ever met, she had clearly decided I was too old to bother with but she would try to "win" my sister's affection. So the very first time we all met - I didn't even know she was OW at the time, but actually my mother knew that my father was leaving - she brought a hamper of toys and sweets for my sister and nothing to me. She used to buy my sister toys, clothes, books, take her to the cinema etc, cuddle her, buy all her favourite foods, take her sides in arguments..

As we were in Ireland, they didn't get married until I was 19 after divorce was legalised. At her HEN which my father insisted I was invited on, she paid for everyone's meal except mine. So I ate a starter with the money my mother had given me to go.

This woman systematically excluded me from every possible family event over many, many years. I never ONCE, in all those years, so much as said one cross word to her. Now that my father is old and dying she refuses, again and again, to let me know when he is unwell. He has had a) a cardiac arrest; b) a serious road traffic accident that necessitated him being airlifted home from holidays under morphine and c) recently, he fell into a diabetic coma. Never ONCE has she contacted me but when we visited him in the hospital, she told my sister that she was her favourite and always had been. No shit!

Living with someone treating you like this is just so hard to accommodate as a young teen. I will never understand her behaviour, but I will never forgive my father for allowing it.