To ask if you've ever known anyone who has never been in a relationship?

[peachblossoms]

And if you did, what were they like as a person? Were they quite peculiar?

What a nasty question to ask, and a really nasty assumption to make. Being in a relationship does not make you immune from being odd, and does not make you a better person.

I don't think it is nasty if you are worried about yourself.

My uncle's in his early 50s. He's lovely but never been in a relationship. He's massively underconfident.

He now drinks too much and eats to little, partly down to sadness I think. A shame and a waste.

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I know one- me. Don't think I'm strange. Boring yes. Weird not really. I am presuming that by relationship you mean something that's longer than a one night stand. I've just never been interested in being tied down to someone.

Peach I wasn't in one until I was 40. A combination of pretty major life stuff to deal with and not being willing to settle for second best.

10 days before I turned 40 I walked down a plane, looked at a guy and thought "that's the man I'm going to marry." We've been married three years and have a DS.

I was sure it would never happen, too!

It's okay, I assume that poster thought I was talking about someone else.

I am worried to be honest especially as I want kids.

I know two people.

Both blokes, both have "issues" and both have addictions [One with alcohol and the other with cocaine] Both early 40's, both have casual sexual flings one all the time, the other occasionally but both have never had a proper relationship.

I am asexual, so have never been in love, or ever had a serious relationship, although I did try relationships out when I was younger before I knew the category asexual existed.

As soon as I heard the word I recognised myself.

Some of my best friends call me "slightly eccentric"! but I am also thought of mostly as a very decent kind person, and have many good friends.

( I am quite straight forward though, I'm never insincere)

Of course, there is an active asexual community, and so I know many others, many of whom never have , nor ever will have relationships.

They are totally normal people, very few are "peculiar", certainly no more likely to be peculiar than gay, straight or bisexual people. You really wouldn't know with most of them,

many are single. ( some are in celibate marriages with other asexuals)

Some wear the black ring, right hand, middle finger.

My wonderful aunt who died over 30 years ago. She was one of 7 and looked after my granny and lived with a bachelor uncle. She was very creative and made wonderful tapestries and needlework. I visited her when I was fed up at home. She had a very wicked sense of humour. I miss her to this day.

We have a lovely friend, be in his 60s now, never been with anyone significant, funnily enough his older brother is the same.
My 24 year old son, but he is cripplingly shy.

I have a male friend aged nearly 60 who I've known for about 20 years, and in all that time I've never known him to have a girlfriend (or boyfriend for that matter). I think it's unusual but he doesn't seem odd.

I know 2, one is my brother, he's nearly 40 and AFAIK has never expressed any interest in having a relationship. He still lives at home in his childhood bedroom which he keeps in it's teenage state (clothes and rubbish all over the floor). In other respects he's a responsible adult, holds down a decent job, good with kids, etc he just doesn't want a relationship.

The other one is my 30 yo friend who says she wants a relationship but has never done any more than casual dating. She refuses to do anything other than go out in town in order to meet someone, and won't even go and talk to men when she's out, they have to make the first move. She has a good job and is buying a house on her own, not odd at all.

My 2 great aunts both died having never had relationships. They lived together and worked together until they died and seemed very happy, but I suspect that they didn't get married was the lack of eligible men after the war

3 people. One in his 50's (he lies about his age so I can't be more precise). He is quite happy without romance in his life, he is ok looking he just is very devoted to life being on his terms, cannot bear to share his house, wealth or compromise on his many interests. He has "tried sex" I've never asked the circumstances, I know he's never felt attracted to people male or female though.
One is 39. He is quite miserable actually. He is ASD, gay and has struggled to connect with anyone in a romantic way. He is reasonable looking. He socialises (akwardly) and tries so very hard.
One is 34 she is determined to be single for life. Much like the first she feels a relationship would compromise her independence, she is sensitive about a hip deformity she has (boys rejected her as a teen over it), but realises as an adult this is far less likely to put people off, but in the meantime she has decided no relationships for her. She is very attractive, sociable, caring.

Yes, I have a friend who really really wants to be in a relationship but hasn't found one. She lost her virginity at 28 but none of the men she has been with has wanted to go on a second date. She's absolutely gorgeous looking, but she is the most negative person I have ever met and is very passive aggressive. She has asked me why I think she has not had a relationship and I have told her I think she maybe is slightly negative. Then she stopped speaking to me for a couple of months. She is not ready to hear it.

Yes, my younger brother. He's 34 and still lives with my parents. He shows many signs of Aspergers but people who don't know this just take the piss and think he's weird.

His work 'friends' (wankers, but he can't see it) are trying to persuade him to apply for The Undatables on C4 because they think it's funny.

He's fucking lonely and will always live with my parents until they're gone, at which point I will offer to take him in.

Some posters here probably think he's fucking hilarious and odd

Not digging at you OP. However you could, and should, have disclosed you were talking about yourself in your OP because a lot of people will only read your OP and that comes across as 'ooooh, aren't some people weird

A couple. One is a family member in his forties and is lovely but extremely shy and unconfident. The other is a friend of the family and is a little odd but actually I don't think this is why she never had a relationship as it seems that she ended up as 'caretaker' for her parents and younger siblings and never had the freedom to explore a relationship of her own.

Yes, one girl who actually I think might be transgender but I dont want to ask. a good friend of dh is handsome and successful but has never clicked with anyone.

She is in her 60's now.

What do you mean by relationship? A kiss? A one night stand? That's not what I call a relationship.

I think you'd be surprised. How many normal women long for a boyfriend/partner, for years. I barely had any sort of relationship, definitely not long term, before marrying Dh.

I was 23 when I had my first (and current!) and felt so behind everyone but now realise that it is very young still. But most people do have teen relationships so it felt like I was the last to the party! I was asked out by people I was attracted to but didn't feel confident enough about my body to have sex so always stopped it in its tracks

The only person I know now is a 30 year old man who I know wants one but isn't very confident at all due to a facial disfigurement. But the older he gets the harder it gets as he still lives with his parents, goes on holiday with them, doesn't want to learn to drive, same shelf stacking job he had at 18 etc so hasn't developed his life. I feel for him as he does want to be with someone but does nothing to change it or improve his confidence.

Me I have never been in one, I am independent and my own person. One day I hope I meet someone to spend my life with, if not I'm fine with that. I don't think I'm peculiar no.

Three or four people, and no, they aren't weird. More just shy, petrified of rejection, and so lacking in confidence that they never pick up the signals when someone is interested in them. Sadly I think the fact that relationship status is considered so important, and the tendency for others to think it's "weird" compounds the problem.

On the other hand, I know dozens of people who are all kinds of weird, offensive, undesirable and downright horrible who've been with someone else for years, or who sail from one relationship to the next with no trouble at all. Life isn't fair, sometimes.

Whisk, my brother is much as you mention.

No need to be so aggressive.

I do find it strange neither of us have had a relationship

I have two very close friends who (to the best of my knowledge) have never had a boyfriend or partner. They're both almost 40. They're both lovely and very normal. I suspect they just haven't met or been asked out by any nice guys.

My best friend is in her early 50's and has never had a relationship of any kind.
She's a lovely, lovely person but was bullied mercilessly at school for being fat and plain and as a result is quite shy and has never had the confidence to try dating. Interestingly both her sisters would be considered fatter and plainer but are much more outgoing and are both married with kids.