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To think changing your tampon in a gym change room is a bit foul?

249 replies

Sansarya · 05/05/2015 20:26

I was at the gym earlier today, getting changed after my shower in the change room while chatting to a friend. A woman came out of the showers wrapped in her towel. Before my friend and I knew what was happening, she had whipped out her tampon and put it in the bin!

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 05/05/2015 21:13

Sorry - that was to Bogeyface.

Carpinteria · 05/05/2015 21:13

Really? I find it hard to believe - it is that skanky.

Mind you, I saw a woman strip off and go to the showers after leaving her sweaty gym gear on a changing room bench. Nothing too unpleasant there - except she had left her running tights gusset side up with copious, obvious amounts of discharge on show. Yuk.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 05/05/2015 21:13

I won't name on the thread for dear of deletionGrin but I will answer PM's. She loved period dramas too as she didn't wash her hair for weeks to get into the character. Also very stinky. Blerk!!

Bogeyface · 05/05/2015 21:14

to confirm, it wasnt me btw, my periods are far to horrible to manage in public even if I wanted to, which I dont and I cant explain that either!

Bogeyface · 05/05/2015 21:16

SDT that is a good reason to do it in the loo, a very good reason. But that doesnt explain the Yuck Factor of seeing her do it does it? The OP doesnt mention the hand washing and if she had just been in the shower then her hands where already clean before hand and perhaps she washed them afterwards.

I am just trying to find a reason for the group horror at this!

hidingfromthem · 05/05/2015 21:16

oh PM me Dame, please!!!

Bogeyface · 05/05/2015 21:17

PM me dame!!

How do you know about this?

NoArmaniNoPunani · 05/05/2015 21:17

This kind of filth doesn't go on at the country club.

Molotov · 05/05/2015 21:18

Bogey, for me it isn't particularly about menstruation/defecation/bodily fluids, etc. It's about boundaries (social boundaries more specifically).

Whipping out your tampon in full public view just isn't the done thing. It's too private.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 05/05/2015 21:19

I suppose it is something that has always been done in the loo (or was done in there the vast majority of the time, at least), so it has become aligned in people's minds with other toilet functions, Bogeyface.

Lara2 · 05/05/2015 21:19

Truly gross!!!
Mind you, when the DS's were small we were at our local paddling pool at the beach. A young woman with a couple of children was sitting on the edge of the pool and gradually we noticed that her tampon was hanging out ( she didn't have a bikini/cossie on, but a bra and french knickers, so loose around the crotch area). Someone (kind and brave) nipped over and whispered in her ear - she reached down and shoved it back up in full view of everyone! This was a hot day and the place was heaving! It was unbelievably disgusting!

Skylander1 · 05/05/2015 21:21

Pm me to please Dame

Bogeyface · 05/05/2015 21:21

Lara would you prefer that she stood up to go to the loo and risk it dropping into the paddling pool full of kids?!

ThatBloodyWoman · 05/05/2015 21:22

Bogey I suppose the way I look at it is why it wouldn't be different to pooing in the bin.
We mainly seem to think that'd be wrong!

dementedma · 05/05/2015 21:22

Gross!

Jessica2point0 · 05/05/2015 21:23

bogey, I think it's because it's something normally done in private. We're so conditioned to think of it as something which should be hidden, very few people are comfortable with it. There was a thread about it on FWR recently.

I wouldn't do it, and I'd probably be shocked, even though I know logically that it's no worse than changing a plaster. But then again I'm not brave enough to openly take tampons into the staff toilets at work!

Bogeyface · 05/05/2015 21:23

I guess you are right about it being considered private and "toilety" which saddens me. Its a natural process that all women (barring very very few) go through at some point in their lives and yet we are all disgusted by someone dealing with it in a no nonsense way that was just a little less private than we are used to.

She was in a womans changing room, not in the middle of The Ivy at 9pm!

AspieAndNT · 05/05/2015 21:24

PM me please!! dame

NoisyOyster · 05/05/2015 21:25

Oh dame, please please PM me!!!

Bogeyface · 05/05/2015 21:25

I am not trying to be argumentative, just trying to work out why I would be shocked when logic tells me I shouldnt be!

And no, I dont believe it is in any way comparable to pooing in a bin Hmm

poorbuthappy · 05/05/2015 21:26

OK so how does period blood compare to pee and poo?
Seriously - everytime there is a thread like this someone always posts - why is it so disgusting, its natural etc etc.
Well so is peeing and pooing, yet on the whole we use the toilet for that.
What is the difference?

Haffdonga · 05/05/2015 21:26

Dame Was the actress in a period drama?

ellenjames · 05/05/2015 21:27

Pm me pleaseGrin

SaucyJack · 05/05/2015 21:28

Well done Haffdonga. Ten points to Gryffindor.

Molotov · 05/05/2015 21:30

Agree that menstruation is a perfectly natural, female bodily function and it is unfortunate that it carries negative connotations on a par with going to the toilet (where the ritual of changing sanitary wear is usually performed).

But I just wouldn't want to be faced with seeing another woman (particularly one I didn't know) perform that ritual in front of me in a public space. I wouldn't want to see it and I wouldn't do that in front of strangers, either.