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Advice re my naked neighbour.

134 replies

Weathergames · 04/05/2015 21:02

Neighbour's bathroom overlooks my garden and is directly opposite our dining room table.

The are in the street behind my house and I think its a couple in late 20s/30s and a few young kids. I don't know them.

They do not have a blind over their bathroom window and the shower appears to be directly in front of the window.

My issue is that we (our youngest child is 8) do not really want to watch them in the shower, wanking, having sex (frequently) while we eat our dinner or sit in our garden (houses are quite close together).You can plainly see through the glass even though it is frosted.

WWYD - put up with it and live and let live or stick a blind catalogue through the door with a photo of what we can see?!

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Anotheronesoon · 04/05/2015 21:58

I have a uneasy feeling that we have a similar setup but the frosted window is over the bath not shower so I have to almost roll out the bath onto my hands and knees, put my towel around me and then nip out the room! Ha ha! The thing is our bathroom is tiled from floor to ceiling so we haven't got around to putting blinds up as it's such a palava! Will be getting on to that tomorrow after this thread! Also must mention life is far too mundane here to witness anything like wanking or sex!Grin

BadgersArse · 04/05/2015 21:58

yup

neigbours over the road have frosted glass. Can see a lot
nothing graphic

HarrietSchulenberg · 04/05/2015 21:58

OMG I have exactly the same problem! Bathroom window looks over our garden and they won't have a blind up. I can see every inch of them when they shower and when they stand up from the toilet.
I've even been round and told them I can see them. Twice. Second time was when their adult daughter came out of the shower and straight to the windowledge mirror to squeeze her blackheads, giving my entire family a full on view of her ample norks.
They think that because they have obscured glass they're invisible, which they are not.
I posted on here about it once and someone suggested giving the kids airhorns to blow every time we saw them naked. Then holding up scores out of ten for them to see when they looked out to see what the racket was.
She is a school dinner lady, usually in charge of mashed potatoes according to ds2. All 3 dcs were glad they had packed lunches Grin .
At least their neighbours, who used to shag up against their curtainless windows every Saturday teatime, have now moved on.

BadgersArse · 04/05/2015 21:59

or why not just believe the OP rather than making her out to be some pervert going LOOKING for neighbours in their bathrooms then pretending to be upset and post about it?

Hmm
Pollyswall · 04/05/2015 21:59

Doesn't have to be an anonymous note, just say your garden backs onto their bathroom window and your family would rather not watch their private activities thank you.

itsnothingoriginal · 04/05/2015 21:59

Tall bamboo in pots?

Sadly I don't think you can assume they'll get blinds. It may be easier (and less embarrassing!) to deal with the view from your side.

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Weathergames · 04/05/2015 22:00

Anotherinesoon I either hope you are my neighbour or I have done your own neighbours a massive favour Grin

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WorraLiberty · 04/05/2015 22:01

YY I bet that's exactly it.

She'll be prowling the streets looking for random bathroom windows to peer though... Grin

Preminstreltension · 04/05/2015 22:03

Yes worra. That clear! The glass is not properly frosted - more wavy. It's not just a vague shape moving around. Like I said, they might as well be standing naked in my garden. Plus they are 20 feet away so one is hardly having to struggle to focus - it's right there. You would know if they'd recently had a Brazilian, let's put it that way. I'd love to take a photo for you - give us all a bit of a lift Grin

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Weathergames · 04/05/2015 22:04

Worrel I just do not have the time Grin

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rootypig · 04/05/2015 22:05

Another, get some of this

NCTimeAgain · 04/05/2015 22:05

Get all the kids and everyone you can find to go out in the garden next time any nonsense starts up.
When they've finished, shout 'Seven!!!' and give a polite round of applause.

WorraLiberty · 04/05/2015 22:08

Well I never! Grin

I'm going to take a lot more notice when I take the dog for a walk around the block Grin

Lunastarfish · 04/05/2015 22:10

They might not realise, especially if the glass is frosted. When I was at uni I had a bedsit on the fourth floor and assumed no one could see in and walked around starkers all the time. One night, about a year after I moved in I noticed 3 kids in a house opposite in the attic room. If I could see into their room they must have been able to see into mine! Safe to say I always closed my curtains after that.

I think you have no choice but to knock and tell them or write a letter if it is too embarrassing

Bakeoffcake · 04/05/2015 22:13

I'm trying to visualise how you can see him wankingGrin

It must be a very low window to get an eye full of that!

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Weathergames · 04/05/2015 22:16

It is!! We are sometimes saved by well placed shampoo bottles on the windowsill!!

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Weathergames · 04/05/2015 22:17

Think massive Victorian windows ...

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blushingbooty · 04/05/2015 22:17

I wouldn't have a clue that you can see through frosted glass, I certainly can't see out of ours at all. Now I'm worried my neighbours would have got a view, thought thankfully the window is at shoulder level!

flora717 · 04/05/2015 22:19

We have frosted glass in our bathroom. I often left the blind up. The winter after we moved in my DH lost his wedding ring clearing snow from his van. The next morning the snow had melted. I was idly looking out of the shower and realised I could see a gold glint clear as day through our shower cubicle and window. I retrieved the ring and the blind has been down ever since. If I can see out that easily ....
If you're not sure get someone to stand in your bathroom (with a light on in the evening) and go and look in. It's alarming.

Bakeoffcake · 04/05/2015 22:19

How silly to design a bathroom like that. Anyway I'd definitely be having a gentle word about it and if he carried on I would phone the police. Seeing someone having a shower is ok but not all that extra curricular stuff.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 04/05/2015 22:19

When they've finished, shout 'Seven!!!' and give a polite round of applause

Would be more effective if you shout 3

CelibacyCakeAndFuckThePO · 04/05/2015 22:20

OP you are being so unreasonable.

Poor wanky-man.

I think the entire situation can be sorted by you and your family clawing your eyes out.

No embarrassing notes or conversations needed and you can all go about your day happily.

blushingbooty · 04/05/2015 22:23

Put a note through the door, make it clear you can obviously see. If they still do nothing then they are ignoring and not caring rather then ignorant to their exhibitions.

ElectricalBanana · 04/05/2015 22:23

My neighbour walks round her conservatory in nothing but a thong... She has no blinds up.

We can see her from the kitchen window and dining room window...

My eyes my eyes!

TSSDNCOP · 04/05/2015 22:27

We had similar. Our very own ugly naked guy! Not the shower, but you could see him come in the bathroom, strip to his red pants and them have a crap.

We had a few friends round one evening and when the light went on we all stood in the garden and sang the Stripper. Problem solved Grin

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