"all" he wants me to do is cook him dinner, which apparently I should do as his wife
Why ? .... was that in your marriage vows ?
I explained that this is not my sole duty in life and that dinner time clashes putting the baby to bed. If he could do this then I could make a start on dinner and have it ready for when he comes down. He said no (as it can be time consuming)
Is his time more valuable than yours then ?
Needless to say it escalated, he doesn't see what I do around the house anyway
And you don't see what he does around the house either, largely because it appears he does the grand total of almost fuck all.
I don't do a very good job cleaning
Then bloody well do it yourself if your standards are so high.
He has a very stressful job and the last thing he wants to do is chores (or anything) when he gets in
Along with most people but stuff needs to be done - who died and made him Emperor ?
He even went as far as to suggest I had mental problems for complaining
Complete nasty bastard
So.... I told him the attributes he was looking for in a wife he would actually find in his mother where he is going to be staying from now on
Brilliant ...... was on tenterhooks reading your post until I got to ^ this bit. Bloody good on you OP !!!
He doesn't respect my feelings or care that I feel unappreciated (basically it turns out that he feels there is nothing to appreciate) and there is no future in this relationship
What an arrogant shite he is ..... am so sorry you're having to face up to the reality of what he's really like because no doubt, and not unreasonably, you'd have started your discussion in the hope you could get through to him - and his childish, pathetic, entitled and sexist response has shattered any last vestige of hope that deep down he's a decent man who actually does care for you. That's a hard blow .... especially when you're recently married and he'd have presumably made all the right noises about commitment, love and respect at that time.
But, although it's a cliché, it's better you find out what he's like (though obviously you had a pretty good idea) sooner rather than later, so you can make a start on the rest of your life. Which, however hard it might be as a single mum, will be so much better than remaining with him and having the life blood sucked out of you by someone so selfish.
Stay strong and good luck!