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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To feel that this is in extremely bad taste

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SundayBea · 25/04/2015 10:32

My son is two and a half. My cousin who we see on a weekly basis has just had a daughter, obviously I am over the moon for her. But she has just text everyone announcing the name and I am completely gobsmacked as it is the female version of my sons name and when pronounced sounds virtually indistinguishable from his name. Think Leo & Leah but even more similar (only one letter different in the spelling). Every time I say the babies name my son looks up at me thinking I am saying his name. AIBU? Obviously I'm not going to say anything, what would be the point. But I can't help but feel so annoyed, I wouldn't mind if it was distant family but they live 5 mins down the road, the children will probably be going to the same school and we see them all the time!

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Cabrinha · 25/04/2015 10:33

Oh good lord, it would BU if it was the same name.
You don't own it.
Prepare to get your arse handed back to you!

BabstheChicken · 25/04/2015 10:34

Congratulations to your cousin on her new baby.

Congratulations to you, you've won my first ever

306235388 · 25/04/2015 10:34

Meh I wouldn't be bothered tbh. Unless the names are very unusual in which case I might think it a bit odd but still wouldn't be bothered.

In our family we have several first cousins with the same name which is weird

PurpleSwift · 25/04/2015 10:36

Of course yabu.

Take it as a compliment

CtrlAltDelicious · 25/04/2015 10:36

How utterly pathetic.

Finola1step · 25/04/2015 10:36

Erm.. In the nicest possible way..

finnbarrcar · 25/04/2015 10:36

I just don't get the angst this causes. Grow up op

HelenF350 · 25/04/2015 10:36

Yabu, ridiculous.

WeirdCatLady · 25/04/2015 10:37

Oh Hun, thats awful. How horrible of her. I deffo think you should tell her.

(Head tilt)

Also, maybe ring up the daily mail and do a sad face story so that everyone local to you knows which name(s) are officially out of bounds.

Seriouslyffs · 25/04/2015 10:38

Not bad taste, but a bit strange!

wigglesrock · 25/04/2015 10:38

Why does it matter if the kids go the same school? Your son is two and a half years older than this baby girl. I think you're being precious, a little bit silly and if this is bothering you, how in Gods name are you going to cope with a child of the same name being in your child's class?

AGirlCalledBoB · 25/04/2015 10:38

Why are people so fussed about this? You see threads on it all the time.

It's a name, it's not even the same name and it does not change how much you love your son's name. You don't own it and if your son ever questions it, you say his cousin loved him that much, she wanted to be named like him.

What's the big deal, they obviously love the name they chose. Good on them.

Original poster

SundayBea · 25/04/2015 10:39

Well that's part of the purpose of this board isn't it, sometimes our feelings are unreasonable and it's good to get outside opinions to help us realise we are overreacting. Your responses are very helpful to me, thank you

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FirstWeTakeManhattan · 25/04/2015 10:39

Sorry OP, YABU.

Even if it's very similar, it's one of those things.

I'm sure at school there will be others with the same or similar name. Is it very, very unusual? If so, I could get your point possibly.

Others will disagree, but my view is that no-one owns names, and everyone is free to choose the name they love.

ovumahead · 25/04/2015 10:39

I just want to know what the actual names are! It's the kind of thing that would / might make me feel a bit miffed but I don't think I'd be that bothered tbh. Names are funny - we kind of feel like we 'own' our children's names, but they are in the public domain and other people may use them as they wish.

TeenAndTween · 25/04/2015 10:40

Same surname - slightly strange imo
Different surname - no issue

FirstWeTakeManhattan · 25/04/2015 10:40

Well taken OP

SavoyCabbage · 25/04/2015 10:40

Yabu as there are lots and lots of people with the same name - and it's not even the same.

I've the same name as my actual cousin and she's only a few months younger than me. Our mothers were pregnant at the same time. It has never ever been an issue for us. We pretty much knew who was being referred to in conversations etc. and if we didn't it was soon sorted out.

WelcomeToMNMadness · 25/04/2015 10:41

YANBU. You poor thing. That was your name and now your darn spiteful cousin has gone and spoiled it all for you. I suppose there's nothing you can do about it now but would you like to issue a list of names which are out of bounds in case you decide on having more children? If you get it written up fast enough you can get it in the Mail On Sunday for publication tomorrow morning.

Aridane · 25/04/2015 10:41

YABU - I think it's sweet

CitronVert · 25/04/2015 10:42

I don't understand why this is an issue. When I was 8 my aunt called her dd the same name as me. I was really chuffed to have a cousin with my name. We were and still are pretty close and it's never been an issue.

WelcomeToMNMadness · 25/04/2015 10:43

OK, I was too harsh. I typed too slowly and missed the OP's second post. Sorry. Well taken, SundayBea.

Seriouslyffs · 25/04/2015 10:44

Sunday
Well taken! If they do go to school together it'll be cute.

MrsTedCrilly · 25/04/2015 10:44

YABU, but you have accepted this gracefully.

arethereanyleftatall · 25/04/2015 10:45

Yabu I'm afraid. This wouldn't bother me.

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