To feel that this is in extremely bad taste

[SundayBea]

My son is two and a half. My cousin who we see on a weekly basis has just had a daughter, obviously I am over the moon for her. But she has just text everyone announcing the name and I am completely gobsmacked as it is the female version of my sons name and when pronounced sounds virtually indistinguishable from his name. Think Leo & Leah but even more similar (only one letter different in the spelling). Every time I say the babies name my son looks up at me thinking I am saying his name. AIBU? Obviously I'm not going to say anything, what would be the point. But I can't help but feel so annoyed, I wouldn't mind if it was distant family but they live 5 mins down the road, the children will probably be going to the same school and we see them all the time!

i think it is bad form of your cousin but i wouldn't say anything.

Bad taste? Bit irritating at worst.

If. You think that's bad try having 3 SIL with the same name as you all living within 500 meters s I do!

My friends little boy has the exact same name as my now adult daughter, it doesn't bother me at all. It causes the odd bit of confusion when we are all together.....when it looks like my friend is suggesting my 22 year old daughter doesn't have another glass of coke, when actually she is talking to her 5 year old

They're not the male and female version of the same name. They have totally different origins.

Actually OP I can understand why you are a bit pissed off and I actually don't blame you

Of all the names out there it must be a bit annoying that they chose one so similar.

We discounted some names as relatives had used them, but I guess we're just a bit more thoughtful??? I also wouldn't use the girls name my sister has her heart set on despite not being pregnant... it was the girls name she had for all 3 of her DS.

It's not about having ownership to a name, it's about not having the same name as your nearest and dearest?

Whathaveilost what, surname too? Four women within 500 yards of each other, all SILs, all called (for eg) Miranda Carmen?

Well, I don't think YABU. (I would have been annoyed/mystified too.)

It seems very odd to me for your cousin to have chosen the same name as your DS, (albeit in female form), when there are so many other names to choose from, and when you live so near and see each other all the time. If it had happened without her knowing you had picked the same name, then fine. (Eg if you hadnt seen or heard from that cousin for years.) But she picked it knowing the situation!

It's not a crime and it shows your cousin must really like that name, but annoying, yes! (Very!) Feel for you. But like others have said, nothing you can do about it now.

I am impressed how well you have accepted the majority view. (Well done.)

Now, what about some cute nicknames for both of them?

Lol!

Honestly, people get so ridiculously proprietorial about names. It's hilarious.

Be flattered, she likes your style!

I know two cousins called Emily and emilia. Both get called Em for short. It can be confusing but it's not like they're siblings.

Totality I disagree. Plenty of children are named after their parents or grandparents, for example. My father is named after his father, one of my DC is named after my grandma. Another of my DC shares the same name as my cousin. So my aunt got there first? And? It's a lovely name, it's shared by probably millions around the world. I had my reasons for choosing it, my aunt had hers and the two cousins get on just fine with it.

Having the same name as your nearest and dearest can be a compliment or it can be a coincidence but there's no reason not to choose a name just because someone else has it. The OP's cousin hasn't even chosen the same name. She (and maybe the cousin's husband/partner too don't forget!!) have chosen a girls' name which is similar to the name of the OP's boy!

I think it's a bit odd. I would also feel a bit miffed about it.

welcome. Yeah, that right! ( unfortunately)

My DHs sister, I suppose you could say was the original 'Mary Smith'
SIL1 was Mary Brown was divorced and married DH B so became Mary Smith.

I married and became Mary Smith the 2nd
Another Bride to be came along and gotmarried , hey guess what.....!

Another wife came long, has since divorced but never changed her name back.
We all get on and dispute living within 0.5km of each other hardly ever bump into each other duets different social circle and different stages of our lives ( my kids are grown up, one hasn't got any etc.

The three SIL thING isn't the same given that the men didn't purposely all choose women based on their names!

I feel another name change coming on! I have so outed myself.

just who said it was?

My mother has four cousins with the same name as her. They were all named after the same grandmother. They have reunions every few years :o

Possibly a bit unusual these days but really not a big deal.

OP YABVU to ask AIBU and accept it when told you are. Correct form is

AIBU?
Yes
No I'm not + drip feed
Still BU
No I'm not you're all bitches

When i was with Exp his previous girlfriend had a baby girl and called her the same name as his with and "a" on the end. Say his name was carl, her baby was carla. I found that a bit odd.

If it's Louis and Louise, just call the cousin "baby Louise" if you think your DS will get confused.

Me and SIL were pregnant at the same time. Her and BIL gave us a long list of names we couldn't use, even though my baby was due first.

Whathaveilost

Bad taste????

I am just remembering that in 1975 my mother passed up on naming me Margaret nn Meg because my cousin IN AUSTRALIA had just been named Megan

What - your initial comment made it sound like you thought itnwas comparable.