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not to let DD have a tv in her bedroom?

137 replies

sashangel · 23/04/2015 11:48

My DD is 6. She has started the going to friends for tea. Her friend came to our house for tea yesterday and asked if they could put the tv on in her room. She said that she didn't have one and her friend looked gobsmacked. She told her that she had always had one and watches in bed on a night to go to sleep. She has now asked for a tv in her room.
AIBU not to let her have one with very strict limits on times she can watch?

OP posts:
Tryingtocoverthegrey · 23/04/2015 11:52

I don't think your bu my dcs have one in their room (nanny bought it) and they are only allowed to watch it on the weekend kids watch to much TV these days.

squoosh · 23/04/2015 11:52

She's 6. If you don't want her having a TV in her bedroom she doesn't get one.

YANBU.

WhiffleSqueak · 23/04/2015 11:52

the blue light emitted from screens is a stimulant. why would anyone put a tv in a room your child is meant to SLEEP in?

PGTip · 23/04/2015 11:53

YANBU my DC have asked and I've told them when the can afford to buy one they can have one they are 11 & 6.

LateNightFury · 23/04/2015 11:54

I won't allowmy children tvs in their bedrooms as I prefer to keep an eye on what they watch and also think it isolates them somewhat from the family. Even if they are dossing in front of it in the lounge at least they are dossing about with people around and can interact with the goings on in the house. I may revisit this decision when they are much older teens, but certainly not at the age your dd is.

I know everyone is differnt though and what works for some might not work for others. No judgement, just my opinion as to what set up we have.

tumbletumble · 23/04/2015 11:56

YANBU. In our house watching TV is a family activity. Fighting with your siblings over the remote is part of growing up IMO!

Fudgeface123 · 23/04/2015 11:56

YANBU. I won't let DP have a TV in our room. Bedrooms are for sleeping and shagging, obviously not for your little one.

Like PGTip's comment.

ouryve · 23/04/2015 11:56

Of course YANBU. She's only 6, ffs.

namechangeafternamechange · 23/04/2015 11:57

YANBU, my dsd is 6 and keeps asking for a tv in her room as she has one at mummy's house and all her friends have one. NO way, sorry, bedrooms are for playing in during the day and sleeping in at night. Our ds won't be having one either, until he's old enough to buy his own tv when he reaches his 40's Grin

merrygoround51 · 23/04/2015 11:57

We have a no TV in any bedroom rule.

DoraGora · 23/04/2015 11:58

Ordinarily, I don't think anybody should have a TV in their bedroom. But, I'd consider one for a bedridden grandparent.

namechangeafternamechange · 23/04/2015 11:58

x posted with PGTips

KoalaDownUnder · 23/04/2015 11:59

YANBU. Nothing good about tvs in kids' rooms.

Micah · 23/04/2015 11:59

No, mine don't have them either (10 and 8). I agree with pp that screens don't help sleep. Plus I don't know what they're watching, and how late.

I don't even let Dh have a tv in our room :). He'd have it on late at night and I need half an hour quiet reading. He does admit it's much better without.

These days though they don't need a tv really. If one of the DC wants to go to bed and watch a bit of tv, or wants to watch something different (we only have one tv), they can take the iPad or use the computer. I have parental controls all over those so at least I know they're not watching anything inappropriate.

sweetfluffybunnies · 23/04/2015 11:59

My twins are now 17 and have never had TV's in their bedrooms. I hated the thought of them sitting upstairs watching tv instead of spending time with the family.

Having said that, they both bought themselves PC's when they were 15, and can access the internet, and therefore TV, in that way. But as they are teenagers it is up to them now. Actually, they do both still choose to spend some time with their Mum and Dad of their own free will!

IMO 6 is far too young to have a TV in your bedroom, so YANBU.

SunnyBaudelaire · 23/04/2015 12:00

I never let mine have TVs in their rooms - their dad used to have a TV on at the end of the bed all night; what worried me is that they would wake up at eg 4 am and see goodness knows what.
Their dad thought I was ridiculous with my views on this.
meh.

BingBong36 · 23/04/2015 12:01

Exact same thing happened to me.

My child is 6 and went to a friends, came home asking for a TV in his ro, I said no!

Too young i felt.

spiderlight · 23/04/2015 12:01

YANBU at all. We're facing a similar battle - DS's friend (aged 7) has a TV, laptop, Playstation and XBox One in his room! It seems to be the norm for his friends to fall asleep watching a DVD. DS has no tech at all in his room, except that when I go to bed on Friday and saturday nights I put his Hudl in there so he can play on it in the morning if he wakes up before us so we get a bit of a lie-in.

namechangeafternamechange · 23/04/2015 12:02

And I would also like to point out that my OH was allowed a tv in his bedroom from a very young age and we now have one in our bedroom. I hate it, wish it would blow up, I have to wear a blindfold and not in a 50 shades type of way and am constantly asking telling him to turn it down.

Having a tv in your bedroom at a young age definitely impacts adult life!!

FadedRed123 · 23/04/2015 12:02

My Dd only had a TV in her bedroom in mid teens and even then not connected to aerial so used only for DVD's.
At 6 yo the answer would have been 'no' and as Mum says 'no' then that would have been that. End of.

DragonWithAGirlTattoo · 23/04/2015 12:02

we have one in our bedroom, but dont tend to watch it during the week (DH watches football sometimes)

DS10/13 no TVs/Electronics in their rooms (we have a family room where the PCs are) no restrictions on TV time, so they're kind of relaxed

no tvs in DS bedrooms

MedusaIsHavingaBadHairday · 23/04/2015 12:04

No TVs in any bedrooms here either.. no need and I don't think it helps anyone's sleep or social behaviour!

DoraGora · 23/04/2015 12:05

One of the pp's children sleeps in an activity centre!

stargirl1701 · 23/04/2015 12:06

No one should have a TV in their bedroom. It's detrimental to good sleep.

Gamache · 23/04/2015 12:06

I agree, no tvs in bedrooms, a strict rule in our house.

I would use this as an example to teach dd that all parents have different rules and things they regard as important. This is just one of many things her friends will have that she won't and vice versa, a valuable life lesson!