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To wear white to a wedding?

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umbongoumbongo · 22/04/2015 23:30

Am on a budget and have seen a broderie anglaise knee length dress that is understated and not 'wedding dressy' at all that would be wearable for other things as a summer dress. I could add a belt or sash to break up the colour along with bright accessories. Is it still considered a massive faux pas to wear white?

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NoisyOyster · 22/04/2015 23:31

Yes it's still a faux pas.

Don't

squoosh · 22/04/2015 23:32

Don't do it. People will tut and whisper.

VelvetRose · 22/04/2015 23:35

I wouldn't. It's still quite a thing.

ImNameyChangey · 22/04/2015 23:36

No don't wear white.

MangoJuggler · 22/04/2015 23:39

Wearing white to a wedding where you ain't the bride or wee flower girl is a humunguous faux pas.

AGirlCalledBoB · 22/04/2015 23:41

Nope don't do it. It's still a faux pas and people will look and whisper because of it.

VelvetRose · 22/04/2015 23:42

It's pretty much the only colour to avoid though so that gives you some scope!!

TheCunnyFunt · 22/04/2015 23:44

My mum had no idea that it's bad form! I'm getting married in a few months and mum asked me if there was a colour she shouldn't wear, I said no, as long as you don't wear white! And she was genuinely baffled as to why this is a huge no no.

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umbongoumbongo · 23/04/2015 00:03

Shame; the only colour they have it in… might hit the charity shops instead as seems a bit pointless forking out for a posh frock that I will probably not use again!

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Fatmomma99 · 23/04/2015 00:07

and don't wear black either... People would consider that a message.

Sorry, I'm sure your dress is lovely, but the bride has to be the one who shines!

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umbongoumbongo · 23/04/2015 00:11

Ha ha, I certainly wouldn't be shining in it; it's very country style and understated (think milkmaid!) but if it's not allowed it's not allowed!

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umbongoumbongo · 23/04/2015 00:15

P.S. having been a bridesmaid 5 times I think the old adage goes that I won't be wearing white myself any time soon!

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selsigfach · 23/04/2015 00:18

The bride might not want to be a meringue and for all you know could be set to wear a simple broderie anglaise dress.... Yabu to even consider this!

GoddessErrata · 23/04/2015 00:19

Is possibly to perhaps die the dress another colour? A pale shade of something that you could wear with bright belt / sash?

VanitasVanitatum · 23/04/2015 00:19

Buy it and dye it, cheap and easy and I've always had good results.

GraysAnalogy · 23/04/2015 00:19

Thank god for the wisdom of mumsnet Grin I'd be an unhappy bride if someone turned up at my wedding in a white dress.

esiotrot2015 · 23/04/2015 00:21

I would take it to your local non chain alteration shop ( curtains dry cleaners etc ) & ask them to dye it pink

GoddessErrata · 23/04/2015 00:30

My SIL came to my wedding in white.... Luckily, I guessed she'd pull a stunt like that and wore red! But people still commented on the fact that she wore white. My side of the family have never forgiven her... 13 yrs later. Happy families!! Grin

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umbongoumbongo · 23/04/2015 00:31

Don't want to risk dyeing it really at the cost it is. Would rather buy something else 2nd hand/borrow if I'm unlikely to use it again. Have 2 weddings to attend 3 days apart so hence didn't want to spend a fortune as will be blindingly obvious if I wear one dress to both. I'm not one for worrying about wearing things multiple times but too close together. I have seen people at weddings in white but with bright shoes/belt/bag etc hence my question and thought it looked ok but clearly not. Thanks all.

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Maryz · 23/04/2015 00:36

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ItsNotTrueThough · 23/04/2015 00:49

Why don't you just phone the bride and ask. It wouldn't have bothered me in the slightest if someone had worn white to my wedding. I don't understand how people think it detracts from the bride - isnt it always obvious who the bride is?

Despite the fact I don't think it matters i know from Mumsnet that it does matter to other people so I'd always check.

SilverBlur · 23/04/2015 00:52

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umbongoumbongo · 23/04/2015 00:52

It was similar to this but have decided no anyway on feedback here as suspected. The only other nice one I have that fits features in lots of photos with my ex so don't really want to wear that either with new DP and one of the weddings he is an usher so I need to 'match' him to some extent! www.houseandgarden.co.uk/fashion/shopping/summer-dresses/next-broderie

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gordonpym · 23/04/2015 00:52

My SIL was in black at my weeding, and I didn't give a shit!
Who cares!

GraysAnalogy · 23/04/2015 00:54

Black isn't the colour of the bride though