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If we had our time again

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Songlark · 19/04/2015 21:27

I wouldn't have let my best friend down when I met my DH. I devoted too much time to him and eventually my friend and I drifted apart. All my fault and I still feel guilt and regret. If I had my time again I wouldn't do that.
What would you all do different if you had your time again?

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RusticBlush · 19/04/2015 21:43

I couldn't go to a friends wedding 'do' as I'd put my back out - wish I'd just reaped the pain and went anyways - felt shit afterwards as I hate letting anyone down.

PeachyPants · 19/04/2015 22:12

That's so sad Songlark have you ever told her that? It would be a shame to live with that guilt and regret if there's a chance the friendship could be rekindled.

Dowser · 19/04/2015 22:15

I would have followed my heart and been a hairdresser. Then I would have take a beauty course. Then I would have worked on a cruise ship and seen the world at someone else's expense.

ponybark · 19/04/2015 22:17

talked about my problems sooner than I have. only just opening up on very old wounds and wish I hadn't kept them so holed up for so long.

flyingspaghettimonster · 19/04/2015 22:20

Id have studied and done homework. I wasted my whole future by slacking off and in regret it.

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Songlark · 19/04/2015 22:22

Peachypants yes, I met up with her last year after years of not seeing her and she told me how it had upset her so much at the time. I apologized and told her if I could have my time again I would never have done it. I'd love to have her back as my friend, there's so much I'd love to talk about and reminice about. Unfortunately I don't think she feels the same.

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holymackrel · 19/04/2015 22:23

I wish I hadn't told my friend of 30 yrs she had upset me back in January , she's always put me down in front of others and ive always ignored her but this time I spoke up and I still haven't heard the end of it Confused

Oreocrumbs · 19/04/2015 22:25

Let him kiss me not pulled away.

Was head over heels in love with a boy I travelled with for a while when back packing. Thought it was plutonic. He went to kiss me one night outside a 7/11. I pulled away ShockConfused no idea why, just think he took me by surprise. He never tried again. And I was far too timid back then to make my own move. Still regret it now. And oh if that had been the path of true love how different my life would have been. He is a very wealthy New Yorker. Meh.

GlitteringJasper · 19/04/2015 22:27

Joined a very strict church with extremely rigid rules and regulations which included not allowing me to have an engagement ring.

GlitteringJasper · 19/04/2015 22:28

Should read NOT joined...

BackforGood · 19/04/2015 22:29

I'd have done my piano practice.

I'd love to be able to play now - big regrets

Loletta · 19/04/2015 22:52

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CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 19/04/2015 23:08

I put family before friends and missed a dear friend's wedding (date clash). I drove home in tears knowing I should have been at the other one - our friendship has never been the same since Sad

hodgepodgepanda · 19/04/2015 23:13

I would not of gone ice skating on a specific day 4 years ago as the events that followed nearly ruined my life and I almost lost my Dp because of my idiocy .

Notover13 · 19/04/2015 23:26

Not invested too much time in a particular forum...

Not stayed with my DH...

Had help with my health earlier, I'm 45 with two hip replacements - would have liked them sooner...

ShadowsCollideCantLogInToMN · 19/04/2015 23:36

I'd have put much more effort into studying for my Leaving Certificate (Irish version of A Levels) and studied Medicine at Uni. That is my single greatest regret. I'm honestly cross at myself every single day for not doing it.

I'd have taken my Granda on a certain trip that he had really wanted to bring my sisters and I on as children, and then I wanted to bring him on as an adult. I genuinely planned to. It just always seemed like we had so much time, until we didn't.

pillowaddict · 19/04/2015 23:39

I would have stayed active and not put on all the weight I did at uni that I've never lost! And I would have spent more time with my dad and recorded him singing to dd so that we could play it to her now he's gone.

Momagain1 · 19/04/2015 23:46

If I could do over I would have...

Used birth control in 1983. No, never slept with him at all. Never spoke to him even. This never happening would automatically erase many years of things I had to do.

Gone for that impossible part time (additional) job in 1996. It was in a field I longed to enter, at a start up that ended up doing very very well, so could have been a life changing leap of faith.

winewolfhowls · 19/04/2015 23:52

Not gone into teaching. I love the teaching aspect but hate all the other shit. Plus its not well paid really. I should have been a lawyer like on 'this life.' (Know its not like that really but i can dream)

catgirl1976 · 19/04/2015 23:53

I would never have left him.

HowDoesThatWork · 19/04/2015 23:54

I wish I had gone to more than three lectures in my final year of a physics degree.

OrangeVase · 20/04/2015 00:00

Not made a "friend" because I was too open and a new mum in a new place. She turned out to be horrible and has done me a significant amount of damage.

Moved five or six years ago. Am pretty much trapped now.

But then who knows really where it would have gone. (I might have been run over by the removal van - you just never know)

Tootsiepops · 20/04/2015 00:00

I'd have hit send on a message I wanted to send my brother asking him to get help, and telling him I loved him. He was dead a month later just a few weeks short of his 30th birthday.

OrangeVase · 20/04/2015 00:03

Oh Tootsie - that is sad. You probably couldn't have saved him though but I can't imagine how you feel. Sorry. Flowers

LunacyPays · 20/04/2015 00:03

I should have viewed my Dad's body in the mortuary after he died. He died suddenly from a heart attack - one minute he was alive, and then he was gone. Seeing it would have made it real. 16 years on and I still haven't dealt with it properly.