To ask what your best comeback for being wolf-whistled at is?

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I've recently realised that I walk past groups of rowdy men very sheepishly if they have started doing the whole wolf-whistle thing as I approach.

I'm not attractive so I imagine they are doing out of sarcasm but I've got to the point where I want to be able to walk down the street without worrying that someone is going to comment or whistle. Sometimes I have the children with me and they still do it?!

I want to be one of those strong women who challenges this kind of behaviour - give me some comebacks!

I quite like being wolf whistled gives me a bit of a spring I my step.

What I detest however, is being called a 'Lezzer' when I walk down the road, holding hands with my beautiful daughter.

Interesting name there wind as your name seems to tie in with your behaviour on this thread

When I was catcalled by a drunk bloke, at midday, in the centre of the seaside town I live near, with my two sons, I completely ignored it (as people have advocated on here). This wasn't good enough. I had a mouthful of foul abuse shouted after me. My older son (who was 9) was scared and upset.

Why the fuck should I smile and say 'thankyou' (Jesus wept) to someone who behaves in a manner that frightens my children? It was intimidation, pure and simple.

Again, decent men don't wolf whistle/catcall. Sexist, woman-hating scumbags do.

How would you view your DP if he behaved like this towards strange women on the street.

i dont think it is a woman, whisk tbh

I always blank them completely.

However, I am noticing that they are more and more frequently getting angry when I blank them and resorting to shouting insults.

:(

Again whisk that is a different situation, I'm talking about the OP walking past and some daft builder for example wolf whistling.

I am a woman thanks, my name is from a song

In my experience, part of the problem is that you never know when it will be 'just' a whistle, or when it will be a whistle, plus following you down the street; or a whistle followed by a mouthful of abuse and insults if you choose to ignore them; or a whistle, plus trying to block my path with their car (all these have happened to me).

I don't see why I should waste precious mental energy trying to work out if the guy who has just whistled at me will actually go on to do something far more threatening, or whether he is one of the 'nice' guys who 'just wants to pay me a compliment'. If a man choses to behave like an abusive twat, then I will treat him as such. I really don't care if his intent is benign. It's up to him to demonstrate that, not for me to work out. It is blatant male privilege to behave like an abusive arsehole, but to claim he has no intent to carry through, so women and society should treat him like a 'decent bloke'.

No way. If it quacks like a duck, I'm not going to bother working out if it has wings and a beak, or whether it's a man with a decoy whistle. I'll have my shotgun and dinner plate ready for both.

Whisk I'm sure at some point he probably has, as in my younger single days I've done the equivalent (as I said, I can't whistle!)

"I'll have my shotgun and dinner plate ready"
lol - sauce with that?

Yon haven't answered my question, windmeup
When is it ok to start wolf whistling a girl/woman, if it's not ok to do it to a child?
Because 16, 17, 18 year olds often wear school uniform too, and children don't wear school uniform all the time so what age is it appropriate and starts to become a 'compliment'?

Well, gosh, you and your DP sound like a real pair of classy peaches .

For the record, I've never wolf-whistled a stranger (who the fuck actually does that?) as I have something called self respect. I'll also be teaching my children that a) they can report unwanted sexual harrassment and b) that it's not ok to wolf whistle/catcall strangers on the street.

Cook there isn't a straightforward answer to your question, it would depend on the circumstances. A 35 year old man to a 16 year old is wrong, but if their age is similar there isn't the same issue.

No matter what answer I give, to you it will be wrong

Whisk I'm sure once you climb down off your pedestal, you will remember that maybe you've not always been so uptight and judgemental.

Enjoy your evenings.

Say THANK YOU? Jeez, how low is your self esteem!!

You know they're not doing it because you look good, right?? I mean, I've been whistled at while wearing trackpants, no make up etc. And I'm not one a natural beauty. It was intimidation, pure and simple. Lots of men laughing and whistling at a lone woman walking by.

You love trotting out that 'pedestal' line don't you? Having read some of the garbage you've contributed on here I'd much rather be uptight and judgemental than ignorant and under-informed. My 13 year old DD has more empathy and self-awareness than you!

It's nothing to do with my age, it's to do with growing up with strong role models in both of my parents who taught me that I'm worth more than some sexist arse catcalling me on the street.

Pity you don't have the same self-respect.

I hate it. It is not a compliment as the ones who do it do it to everyone. I don't know why they think I would care about their opinion of me. For those who get a kick out of it? Sorry to piss on your chips but the chances are they do it to everyone; attractive or not.

I do not go around whistling and commenting to ransom men and I want women to be shown the same respect. It's vulgar, disrespectful and often intimadating.

Random not ransom men!

And anyone who needs compliments from random strangers in the form of 'nice tits' really needs to have a good hard look at their self esteem!

I've struggled with severe depression and at no point has anyone tried to cheer me up by conplimenting tits. Not the GP, not my counsellor, not my HV, not my then partner.

Weird that, because apparently men shouting these things are only trying cheer you up!

Windmeup says upthread she doesn't have daughters but if here DCs were with her they would probably have a giggle. So presumably she has sons.

Hope her DCs are not getting a lesson there is how to grow up to be obnoxious twats.

Having seen her other posts ('MN is a trashy forum', 'I thought hating men was a pre-requisite here' ) around the site I think she's just living up to her name.

windmeup maybe there isn't a straightforward answer to my question because maybe it's not really ok to do this to women of any age. A 16 year old boy doing this to a 16 year old is not ok, it's still harassment.

I can say for sure I have never wolf whistled at a man, and funnily enough, I've never seen it happen either.

And also, the next time you execute your right to vote, your right to own property, your right to wear trousers, your right to be a working mother, your right to take the pill, remember it's the 'bag of shit' that is feminism that has enabled you to have those rights.