My dd is 9 years old she has a friend who tbh is a bit difficult. Whenever the friend comes over they often end up having an argument and the friend is often naughty and difficult to control. Recently I've not been initiating contact between them outside of school and discouraging dd if she asks. However her friends mum is a single mum who works full time and she'll text me asking if I can have her daughter on a day during the holidays. I know she struggles so I will say yes unless there's a genuine reason why not.
I've just had her daughter for the day, I took them out lunch and cinema. I thought if I kept them both occupied it would help the day go faster. I paid I don't mind I've done it before the mum knows. I had to tell her to sit still she wanted to climb over and under the seats!
So she has $6 to spend with her. She tells my dd that she wants to buy some scratch cards and give her half of them. I think ok that's nice, we do that and get home she gives my dd 3 cards. My dd wins $7 on her cards she wins nothing. Ok a bit later that day I hear an argument taking place, dd's friend want her to give the winning scratch card back and it's getting pretty heated. I decide to let the dirt it out between them and my dd keeps the card. Fair enough I think her friend did say it was for her.
Dd's friend goes home and later on the evening I get a text from mum saying that she believes I have a scratch card belonging to her dd and can I keep it safe for her dd. I speak to my dd, she is adamantly opposed to returning the card. I do feel peeved with the mum as I feel it's quite petty I've had her dd all day spent money on her etc. what shall I do force dd to give up scratch card? Say I've lost card and give $7 on top of everything else I've spent on dds friend? Or just say no? I'm in a mind to refuse any future requests, as I'm feeling fed up, AIBU?