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AIBU? "Any danger of a cup of tea is there?"

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Meandyou150 · 15/04/2015 18:01

Does your partner/ husband asking for a cup of tea in the above sarcastic way get on anyone else's tits?! ... Or is it just me?!.....
What's wrong with "would you mind putting the kettle on?!!!"....

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MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 17/04/2015 13:36

my husband would be dead or divorced with all the sexist twattery men seem to do here

Grin I agree.

KittyLovesPaintingOhYes · 17/04/2015 14:31

Ah, ffs it's the banter that adds spice - mine might try it on stick his hand out and bellow TEAAA but if I don't want to make it he don't get it Smile and all the combinations of ways he uses to indicate his terrible ennervating thirst are a damn sight more entertaining than politely asking for a cuppa.

Of course, the DCs are now copying their role model (Miiiiilllk...) but they can get told to do one as well

SylvaniansKeepGettingHoovered · 17/04/2015 14:34

This reminds me of the 'welcoming' way my MIL 'offers' me a cup of tea when we get to her house after our journey, when I'm desperate for a drink:

'Hello, come in. You don't want tea, do you?'

Always makes me feel I'm supposed to say 'No, I'm fine'. I find it kind of akward to say 'Oh well actually, yes, I do want tea please'.

limitedperiodonly · 17/04/2015 14:56

BIL always does this.

It's hilarious. Especially when you've heard it for a good 30 years.

2rebecca · 17/04/2015 15:11

I don't want to be politely asked for a cuppa either Kitty. If my husband wants a cup of tea there is no need to involve me at all other than to ask me if I want one too. It sounds as though you find being your husband's maid entertaining, I wouldn't.

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 17/04/2015 15:56

The only acceptable response to the op's question must be:

No, none at all. You're perfectly safe.

Stillyummy · 17/04/2015 16:10

I have perfected the art of looking at the kettle till he makes me one. Closest I am going to get to being a Jedi ;)

Seff · 17/04/2015 16:44

"Hmm, you might have a point. Yes dear, it probably is safer if you do it. Thanks!"

Two sugars in mine ta!

GlitzAndGigglesx · 17/04/2015 16:58

When I was in my teens living at home I had a friend round and my dad thought it'd be hilarious to throw himself on the floor in front of me and the friend he had just met with his hands around his throat making the sounds of a dehydrated whale saying "t....t...need...tea..tea...now". It was so embarrassing but he thought he was a comedy genius. Somehow I'm still friends with the girl

GlitzAndGigglesx · 17/04/2015 17:00

It was worse if he had man flu and put on the ott act that men do when they have a cold and make out I'm the devils spawn if I didn't make him a cuppa

Bambambini · 17/04/2015 19:02

Tudorproof "My father in law drives me INSANE by wanting a cup of tea the minute he walks through the door.

Everytime, he walks in the house and then, in fake surprise, says "ooh, do you mind if I try a cup of tea!" and puts the kettle on and asks where the mugs are.

angry angry angry angry angry

I realise I may have got this out of perspective!"

Tudorproof, I can't imagine not offering a guest a drink of tea or whatever they prefer when they arrive. Growing up it was seen as important hospitality. My mum always kept a cake of some kind that kept and a can of salmon for visitors, any person who crossed her threshold would have gotten offered tea straight away and she would appear wth cake and sandwiches.

Then I moved to England and was grateful to get offered a cup of tea at all and impressed if they out a digestive on a plate for me.

tutorproof · 17/04/2015 19:06

Bamba - mine too.

I think that's what drives me so mad because I don't get the chance. He doesn't wait for us to answer the door.

Knocks, walks in, as he's walking to the kitchen he says 'can I try a cup of tea' and doesn't break step until he reaches the kettle.

It's my chuffing house and I would like to make guests tea !

Bambambini · 17/04/2015 19:19

Ha ha, fair enough then! Thought you begrudged him some tea, rather than you just don't get the chance to offer it! Don't think visitors to my mums would have asked at all, but they wouldn't need to. That's why the Mrs Doyle Tea cliche is so funny. My MIL is the same and will ask every few seconds if you just need a wee sandwich - again and again, especially after a few drinks.

Maybe it's our northern and irish heritage bursting out.

montymum · 18/04/2015 22:09

DH works from home and the days I am off work I usually take him a cup of tea mid morning as he is on a phone conference. I do get helpful messages like this though just in case I forget!

AIBU? "Any danger of a cup of tea is there?"
SoleSource · 18/04/2015 22:34

My Dad used to say that to me.

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