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AIBU? "Any danger of a cup of tea is there?"

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Meandyou150 · 15/04/2015 18:01

Does your partner/ husband asking for a cup of tea in the above sarcastic way get on anyone else's tits?! ... Or is it just me?!.....
What's wrong with "would you mind putting the kettle on?!!!"....

OP posts:
SolidGoldBrass · 16/04/2015 00:10

I am simultaneously laughing and utterly fucking bewildered by this thread. WTF stops an adult, in his/her own home, who wants a drink, just going and getting one? I mean, I remember those dim and distant days when I worked in offices it was generally considered polite to ask your closest colleagues if they wanted a drink if you were going to make one (well, in the offices where drinks were obtained by boiling a kettle rather than sticking a few pennies in the vending machine) but none of this fucking around implying that anyone else had an obligation to doit for you.

DamnBamboo · 16/04/2015 12:24

Of course there is nothing stopping an adult from going and getting their own drink and I'm not sure there is an implication that anyone has to do it for you either Hmm

My husband makes great tea - he really does! So much better than. He even prefers to drink his own so can understand that I do too!

Lucky me eh?

SoonToBeMrsB · 16/04/2015 12:28

Luckily I drink coffee and DP's not a fan so I only ever make for myself. We don't even have tea bags in the house so god help anyone who pops round to our flat!

FenellaFellorick · 16/04/2015 12:46

You'd kill me, chop me up and stamp on the bits.

I say "my coconut is empty"

10 points to anyone who knows where that's from Grin

Actually, you'd do me and my husband together - he says "I don't deserve a coffee, do I?" which is from something our eldest used to say years ago and which we've both used ever since.

Idontseeanydragons · 16/04/2015 12:52

DH's Gran used to fix her eyes on one of us and say 'I'm old and I want a coffee'.
Now that's rude Wink
Fortunately being partially deaf is a bit of a bonus in these situations because quite frankly I used to purposely go a bit more deaf to her and say 'pardon?' Until she asked properly Grin
It made everyone else laugh because she was quite spectacularly rude.

MrsCs · 16/04/2015 12:54

Solid, wow overreaction much?? I've found the 'any danger of a cup of tea?' thing and all the other things like 'what comes after s?' to just be daft sayings. We could look for hidden meanings, implications of expecting to be waited on, etc or just remove the stick from up your arse and relax lol.

Sometimes a cup of tea is really just that

momb · 16/04/2015 12:56

FenellaFellorick Is it the Leslie Caron line from father Goose? I love that film!

Stealthpolarbear · 16/04/2015 12:58

h and I recently re watched game on so we hold our hand up in a mug holding position and bellow TEEEEAAAA
dh's reply to me is "milk and three sugars?"
my reply to Dh is "weak and white, like my men?"

Idocrazythings · 16/04/2015 13:01

I ring my mum when I'm almost at her house and say "put the kettle on, muvver". She likes it Grin

And my 7year old DD makes a great cuppa- much better than the non existant onesi get from DH

FenellaFellorick · 16/04/2015 13:01

Yes, momb. Great film, isn't it?

Getting up to put the kettle on is one of those fake fun battles that are a joke between people, isn't it? Like who can pretend to be asleep the best cos the looser has to get up and see why the kids are yelling at each other Grin

FenellaFellorick · 16/04/2015 13:01

looser? loser I mean.

itsnotmeitsyou1 · 16/04/2015 13:05

I'm really lazy in the morning, after spending all night listening to partner snore, and do a one man Mexican wave in his sleep. So he gets guilted into making my only coffee of the day. I'm awful at that 'whilst you're up', line as well Blush.

However, his parents are blooming awful for passively asking for tea. Or food. Or full rights to the television......

IHavemyownLighthouseyouknow · 16/04/2015 13:11

See, I managed to get out of tea making duties because (according to DH) my tea is "fucking rotten". So he does it all the time now. Grin

OP, YANBU, that phrase would drive me mad though. LTB Grin

CrabbyTheCrabster · 16/04/2015 13:13

Q: "Any danger of a cup of tea is there?"

A: "No don't worry, you're quite safe."

The Mr T ruse made me Grin

Bambambini · 16/04/2015 13:56

Just realise it's been years and years since me and the husband played our T game. If you could get the other to say "T" - you would then go, "yes please" and they'd have to make it.

As in, "you know that rapper that's now and actor Ice P?" Husband would laught at me and say, " you plonker - it's T!" Me, "oh, yes please!" Can't believe how many times we caught each other out.

KittyLovesPaintingOhYes · 16/04/2015 15:43

Stealth my DH gets his teaspiration from that too Smile

I make shit tea, everyone says so, I even overheard the plumber gagging after I left the room Grin Don'y know why they keep coming back for more really. I love coffee, me.

BackOnPlanetEarth · 16/04/2015 16:11

If my DH asks if there is any chance of a cup of tea I get my calculator out, do the maths and show him the answer. It's usually about 0.00000002
Wink

HollyJollyDillydolly · 16/04/2015 16:37

That sounds like something my dad would say, or 'you'd die of thirst in this house'.
He likes a cuppa and a fag every 15 mins though whereas I'm happy just having 3/4 a day.

moonbells · 16/04/2015 21:09

We have a variant of MagelanicClouds' response. I'll ask my DH if he can put the kettle on and he will say no it won't suit me. He's not a tea drinker but he does make a very good cup how I like it. Grin

MyOtherNameIsFunnier · 16/04/2015 21:13

I say 'ding ding' which has evolved from me tapping my empty wine glass mug.

Or I just say, ooh I'd LOVE one, thanks for the offer.

He's pretty well trained.

I did text him from bed one Sunday morning to ask if the kettle had broken...

PrincessUnicorn · 16/04/2015 21:16

Him/me - What's that thing you use in golf to put the ball on?
Him/me - A tee?
Him/me - Aye go on then Grin

Moomintroll85 · 16/04/2015 21:20

My way of asking for a cuppa is pretty annoying. I sometimes just say "ooh yes thanks I'd love a cup of tea" as if DP has asked me when in fact he's said nothing. Once I think I even managed to convince him he HAD asked because he looked a bit confused then just got up to put the kettle on. Grin

I was slightly extremely pissed at my dad when I was one day out of hospital post csection and could barely get up or walk, when he asked me to make him a cup of tea Angry

ShelaghTurner · 16/04/2015 21:24

A feeble cough followed by"it's like a desert in here" generally gets good results. I never make the tea!

fakenamefornow · 16/04/2015 21:26

Been married 20 years, we drink loads of tea/coffee, never once have either of us asked the other to make it. We always make it ourselves asking if they want one as well. I feel like I'm missing something.

MagelanicClouds · 16/04/2015 21:30

My mum came over today. Three cups of tea were made. Three more than half full cups of cold tea have been tipped down the sink. She makes a lot of tea, but only drinks about a thimbleful.

When DH and I first got together he didn't tell me he didn't like how I made coffee, it was too weak. He would sneak back into the kitchen to add more. It was months before I noticed.