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AIBU?

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AIBU? "Any danger of a cup of tea is there?"

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Meandyou150 · 15/04/2015 18:01

Does your partner/ husband asking for a cup of tea in the above sarcastic way get on anyone else's tits?! ... Or is it just me?!.....
What's wrong with "would you mind putting the kettle on?!!!"....

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PissedAS · 15/04/2015 19:15

I probably wind DH up no end with my tea requests.

ME: Do you want a cup of tea?
DH: Yes that would be nice.
ME: Make me one while you're doing yours then.

TendonQueen · 15/04/2015 19:23

My permanent reply would be 'No, no danger at all'

OldRoan · 15/04/2015 19:26

I got so fed up of this that DP and I have a new rule: one person boils the kettle and makes the tea, the other person pours it and brings it through. It means we are both inconvenienced, but saves the annoying hanging around waiting for it to brew.

Shockers · 15/04/2015 19:32

Stars, my DH strokes our kettle whilst breathing lustily, "Oh you like it like that, don't you kettle..."

It would be a darn sight quicker to get a cuppa round here if he didn't find himself so flippin funny .

Icimoi · 15/04/2015 19:33

Weekend mornings I tend to lie there trying to influence DH by the power of thought, beaming silent "Make tea" messages at him. Sadly it doesn't work, though if he's up first he will usually volunteer anyway.

AnnPerkins · 15/04/2015 19:34

On Sunday mornings DH doesn't beat about the bush, he just wails plaintively from the bedroom 'Teeeeeeaaa!!'

He's even trained DS to do it.

Minshu · 15/04/2015 19:38

We compete to get the cat to settle on us then say to the other, "well, I would get you beer/wine, but..." while pointing to dribbly feline

AmateurSeamstress · 15/04/2015 19:40

YANBU OP. What are you, a psychic skivvy?

pasbeaucoupdegendarme · 15/04/2015 19:42

My grandmother used to say, without a shadow of irony, "Is that the kettle I hear you putting on?" Usually as I was going upstairs or something else far far removed from putting the kettle on. It has become the stock "make me a cup of tea" phrase in my household

BathshebaDarkstone · 15/04/2015 19:43

Mine would ask "could I have a coffee if you're making one please?" The way yours asks would get on my tits. I'd say "no, make it yourself or ask me properly."

manchestermummy · 15/04/2015 19:45

When we moved, we used a packing service. We therfore had no idea where anything was beyond the ludicrous labelling the movers had used ("kitchen box 2) and other unhelpful labels.

We had been at the new house for about 10 seconds when one of them asked for a brew. I told him when he found the kettle that he had packed in a box with a meaningless label on it then I would consider making him a brew.

That went down well. In my defense, one of them took six sugars.

manchestermummy · 15/04/2015 19:46

Minshu my dh does that!

Nevercallmehun · 15/04/2015 20:02

Dh does the Mr T one too. It never fails to irritate me. My usual answer is BA or Murdoch.

BathtimeFunkster · 15/04/2015 20:06

I was laughing at DaddyGuy even before I knew he was the man dying of thirst.

I hate tea, but I like the sound of him.

MagelanicClouds · 15/04/2015 20:07

Me - can you put the kettle on?
Him - no, it wouldn't fit and I'd look silly.

ASorcererIsAWizardSquared · 15/04/2015 20:07

my family ask this, i usually look at them ,dead in the eye and say "nope, none whatsoever" then carry on doing whatever i was doing.

crazykat · 15/04/2015 20:13

That would piss me off no end. I hate when people ask for something in a roundabout way. If you want me to get/make/do something for you then bloody well ask properly.

More annoying was when my mum used to say "do you want to get me and you a drink?" instead of just asking me to get her a drink. I love my mum but it drove me potty and I used to hate it.

The only time dh asks for a cuppa is first thing on a weekend morning if I get up before him. Any other time he just makes it himself or I ask if he wants one.

CleverPlansAndSecretTricks · 15/04/2015 20:19

I have the opposite problem when my parents are staying. I drink maybe 2 or 3 coffees and sometimes one tea in a day. They drink it constantly! And every time they make one they have to offer 4 or 5 times and then get offended that I don't want one. "Oh yes I forgot you don't like the way I make it" (because why else would anyone say no??). 10 times a day every day for the week they are staying. Does my head in! (But it is sort of sweet that they never give up)

starsandunicorns · 15/04/2015 21:24

Shockers glad its not just my other half

AmateurSeamstress · 15/04/2015 22:06

MagelanicClouds:
Me - can you put the kettle on?
Him - no, it wouldn't fit and I'd look silly.

Genius. Utter genius.

Morloth · 15/04/2015 22:11

Doesn't whoever feels like a cuppa get one started and then ask whoever else is around if they want one?

Beverages are offered here, not requested.

Except for Saturday morning tea. I exchange sex for Saturday morning tea in bed.

Morelikeguidelines · 15/04/2015 22:35

My favourite way is to ask a question to which the answer is "T", to which I then reply "yes please"

For instance DH's name begins with T so I say "DH what letter does your name begin with?". He then says "T", and I can say "yes please". Another one that never wears thin

grumpasaur · 15/04/2015 22:50

I just said to DH "hey, you never make me tea".

He pointed out that I don't even like tea, as if it mattered!

KittyLovesPaintingOhYes · 15/04/2015 23:10

Tea, in the hand now, it's urgent...

Or he sends the kids through, one of tiny dd's first whole phrases was 'Daddy wants tea'

(that and 'mummy's cooking' when the smoke alarm goes off...)

Or sometimes he'll text his request in

Thinking of changing my name to Polly

BackOnPlanetEarth · 15/04/2015 23:27

Day used to ask if it was my turn to make the tea Fortunately, he has now realised that it was not well received and he now just asks if I mind making him a cup of tea.

On Saturday and Sunday he brings me a cup of tea in bed. I love those cups of tea.

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