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AIBU? "Any danger of a cup of tea is there?"

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Meandyou150 · 15/04/2015 18:01

Does your partner/ husband asking for a cup of tea in the above sarcastic way get on anyone else's tits?! ... Or is it just me?!.....
What's wrong with "would you mind putting the kettle on?!!!"....

OP posts:
marceline · 16/04/2015 21:45

Ooo, I hate that. If anyone asked me my response would be 'No, you're perfectly safe!' Smile I'd mean that quite literally as I don't drink the stuff and for all I know it might be ghastly if I tried to make it!

TickyTacky · 16/04/2015 22:14

My Gran and mum always say, dry old house this one... Until they get their point across Grin
I'm forever getting Dh to fetch me drinks (juice, I don't drink tea) that's the point of a partner though, isn't it? To be helpful when you can't be bothered to move Grin

splodgeses · 16/04/2015 22:18

Thanks for the belly-laughs everyone!

I'm not remotely peeved that I have to make ALL of my own coffees!

AyeAmarok · 16/04/2015 22:34

I get "who's that guy, head of the U.N.?"

Me: Kofi Annan?

Him: No, not coffee but I'll have a tea please.

Angry
AyeAmarok · 16/04/2015 22:34

I get "who's that guy, head of the U.N.?"

Me: Kofi Annan?

Him: No, not coffee but I'll have a tea please.

Angry
FiveHoursSleep · 17/04/2015 07:30

We used to have a guy come into work and ask us to 'drown a teabag' for him.
Hmm

splodgeses · 17/04/2015 08:34

I quite like the idea of drowning a teabag. It probably sums up my tea making skills, but I am great at coffee.

The one thing that used to annoy me, was a friend who would say "Blimey, had the tide gone out or what?" because I wouldn't fill her mug to the top after repeated coffee spills on my lovely carpets

Dowser · 17/04/2015 08:37

Just asked OH what letter comes after S

Oh...M
Me..that's right Mug of tea

Yes please!

BikketBikketBikket · 17/04/2015 12:03

The one thing that used to annoy me, was a friend who would say "Blimey, had the tide gone out or what?" because I wouldn't fill her mug to the top after repeated coffee spills on my lovely carpets

My (lovely) late FIL always used to look at a cup that wasn't filled to the brim and say, 'I'll tell you how you could sell more tea - FILL THE FLIPPIN' CUPS' - daft, but it's gone into our family sayings... Smile

slippermaiden · 17/04/2015 12:08

My DH has gone one step further, when he comes in from the gym he says " why isn't he making tea for me?" , pretending to be me!

glittertits · 17/04/2015 12:14

My reply to requests like that is 'you know where the kitchen is.'

glittertits · 17/04/2015 12:16

AyeAmarok

Head of the UN is now Ban Ki Moon - that will throw him Grin

2rebecca · 17/04/2015 12:20

If my husband wanted a drink I'd expect him to make it and usually ask me if I want one. The person who wants the drink makes it. If I found I was always the one making drinks and my husband always said yes to the offer but never suggested making one himself I'd either stop asking him if he wants one or say "your turn to make it then" but he's not a selfish idle toad.

bruffin · 17/04/2015 12:24

DS has programmed his phone to automatically text us when he gets within a certain radius of home between the hours of 4 and 6 to say

"we are nearly home can you make a cup of tea please and feed the cat"

2rebecca · 17/04/2015 12:31

I really couldn't do this housewife crap, my husband would be dead or divorced with all the sexist twattery men seem to do here. If you want a drink you make one. I really don't see why you'd expect someone else to do it for you.

StellaAlpina · 17/04/2015 12:36

I'm safe :)

DH doesn't really drink hot drinks, and my parents both think I make cups of tea wrong.

When we go to PILs literally they first thing they say is to offer you tea or coffee, same with DH when we have guests.

IcecreamSkoda · 17/04/2015 12:42

There is a massive difference between asking your DP to make you a cup of tea and to 'demanding' it. Confused. It's a silly thing that we joke about. After thirty years we still put effort into thinking of creative reasons why we couldn't possibly make our own tea or coffee.

MrsDoylesCupOfTea · 17/04/2015 12:46

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AIBU? "Any danger of a cup of tea is there?"
ShelaghTurner · 17/04/2015 12:50

I'm amazed that people are being so snippy about this. Are you seriously telling me that in however many years of living together that you've never been flaked out on the sofa and said 'milk no sugar please" or whatever else to your partner to prompt them to make the tea? I find that far more odd than a bit of banter over who puts the kettle on.

2rebecca · 17/04/2015 12:50

Why would you ask your partner to make you a drink rather than do it yourself though? Understandable if you're mending a car with oily hands but otherwise I really don't get why any adult wouldn't just put the kettle on if they fancied a drink.
It sounds like this is a game some couples enjoy playing with each other but it just seems weird to me.

tutorproof · 17/04/2015 12:53

My father in law drives me INSANE by wanting a cup of tea the minute he walks through the door.

Everytime, he walks in the house and then, in fake surprise, says "ooh, do you mind if I try a cup of tea!" and puts the kettle on and asks where the mugs are.

Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry

I realise I may have got this out of perspective!

2rebecca · 17/04/2015 13:00

I can understand that if you've been travelling. When i visit my dad he usually asks me if I want a drink but if not I'll go and make one and ask him if he wants one. I've usually spent several hours getting there though, different if your FIL lives round the corner then I'd wonder why he didn't have one before he left if he was that thirsty, but it could be he was worried about his bladder if he's old.

disneymum3 · 17/04/2015 13:13

My answer to that question would be: why yes I could put some poison in it.

nbcj · 17/04/2015 13:29

Can I just say that as an American new to "your country" these quite passive ways to ask for things are fascinating and fun to me! Really good insight... I love the builder one about Mr T. No one at my house has ever asked for tea... passive or otherwise. I drink it, but I hardly need a clever thing to say to myself, now do I?

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 17/04/2015 13:34

Me: dh, do you fancy a cup of tea?
dh: What sort of tea would you like?

This ^^ is what you need. "Any danger of a cup of tea" indeed! Pfffffffft.