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Original poster

To make her sleep in the spare room?

94 replies

BumblingBoris · 14/04/2015 20:44

DS,17 is pestering me to let his 15 year old girlfriend to stay over as she lives a 20 minute drive away. Im quite happy to drive her home and often do, but ive now said she can sleep in the spare room once a week (only spare if DD is away)
DS is saying im tight? AIBU?

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BarbarianMum · 14/04/2015 20:46

Um no, very sensible. Actually, in your position, I'd be driving her home.

ahbollocks · 14/04/2015 20:46

at 16 yes, 15 nope.

Silvercatowner · 14/04/2015 20:47

'Tight'? Charming.....

WindMeUpAndLetMeGo · 14/04/2015 20:47

No your not, your house your rules. He can take it or leave it.

Dr0pThePirate · 14/04/2015 20:47

He's 17 and she's 15?

Not a good idea.

base9 · 14/04/2015 20:47

I would drive her home.

Icimoi · 14/04/2015 20:47

Yes, I'd drive her home. There's no need for her to stay over if she lives that close.

EeyoresTail · 14/04/2015 20:47

I'd be driving her home too.

WhataMistakeaToMakea · 14/04/2015 20:47

No way I would let her stay over. What does DD think of her using her room when she's not there?

LaurieFairyCake · 14/04/2015 20:48

A terrible idea, she's underage. What do her parents think about it? Do they pick her up?

Penfold007 · 14/04/2015 20:48

Where does he think she should sleep?

londonrach · 14/04/2015 20:49

Spare room...under age. I slept in spare room at now dh pil house for 1 year when visiting. At least they think i did. Grin. I was in my early 20s but their house, their rules.... I remember dh saying to his mum that he wanted me in his room and she looked worried. I said very happy in spare room and not to worry.

babygiraffe86 · 14/04/2015 20:50

I used to stay over at my 17 year old boyfriends when I was 15, in the spare room and his mum bought me some slippers and a dressing gown for when I was there too, we were allowed to share a room in the end but not for a long time (we were together 4 years in total- I think the room sharing was after about 18 months) we both worked in the same pub and I would stay over after work and then all go out for Sunday lunch. Even now, 9 years after breaking up we are still good friends and I still get on really well with his family (small town doesn't allow nasty fall outs haah)

Penguito · 14/04/2015 20:51

I would be driving her home. It's not that far!

Koalafications · 14/04/2015 20:53

I would drive her home.

Have you asked him why he doesn't want her to be driven home or to stay in the spare room? Presumably he wants her to sleep in his room? Bed even?

expatinscotland · 14/04/2015 20:55

Drive her home.

PeachyPants · 14/04/2015 21:00

She's under the age of consent, I would be taking her home.

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BumblingBoris · 14/04/2015 21:07

She will be 16 in June. DS says they arnt going to have sex yet and says gf is sensible. GF mum is happy if we are happy. She is only allowed to see him at weekends until her exams are over so DS's thinking is that if she stays on a Fri night they will have more of a weekend together.
Im still undecided.
DD is 26 & lives mostly at her BF flat so shes not worried.

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viva100 · 14/04/2015 21:08

My parents made my boyfriend sleep in the spare room the first time we stayed over....I was 24 and he was 22... and we still didn't object bc we understood that it was their house, their rules. There's no way I would let two teenagers sleep in the same room. No way.

viva100 · 14/04/2015 21:10

I can remember being a teenager quite vividly. No way they won't be having sex (or at least try I guess).

browneyedgirl86 · 14/04/2015 21:10

Not a chance. Drive her home. Yanbu

Mitzi50 · 14/04/2015 21:15

Presumably she should be studying for her GCSEs and does he have AS levels or BTEC coming up? I would say no til June and the exams are over (and she is 16 years). I'd also have a chat about his responsibilities regarding contraception?

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BumblingBoris · 14/04/2015 21:15

But ive already said she can stay in the other room but no more than once a week. She is a nice girl who is the youngest of 5 so quite 'babied' iyswim.
I guess we will have to see how it goes.

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