DP WASTING FOOD

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I'm a SAHM so usually make DP's dinner ready for when he comes home.

Sometimes he'll buy food and eat it on the way home then tell me that he's not hungry cos he's eaten so the food I've cooked goes in the bin wasted.
All I ask is for him to give me a text and tell me not to cook if he's eaten to save me wasting my time preparing and cooking it for it then to be thrown away. He's self employed and works alone so has no excuse about not being able to text at work.

If I haven't cooked and he gets home and there's nothing prepared he moans and groans that he's starving!

He thinks I'm being unreasonable for wanting him to give me 1 text to let me know either way when he's "so busy at work and hasn't got time to be texting" (even though he checks in on FB etc....)
We haven't got much money as it is so to have food wasted constantly is really starting to irritate me!

AIBU?

My stepdad has been married to my mum for over 25 years and has only just admitted he does not like it when she puts milk and butter and anything else in his mashed potato. He likes it plain apparently (and this was confirmed by his mum!

My DH can't cook but he wouldn't dare criticise my cooking.

sorry forgot to add I agree with PPs. Let him make his own dinners and any takeaways have to come from his own money.

Tell him to text you if he DOES want you to cook, I bet he'd manage to find time for that.

Notso, dad was honesly very appreciative of the time and effort she put into producing meals for us all. She was a very good cook, as was her own mother (both born and bred in France), so even if there were a food he wasn't fond of, it was still more than edible. He was at boarding school from a very young age and then in the RAF, so I imagine home-cooked stuff was always an improvement, even if much of it featured tomatoes! He was probably really sorry that even after 25 years he couldn't come to like them.

Mum was a bit sad that he'd not told her before, but also appreciated the courtesy he had displayed over all that time by eating his meals without complaint; it was a testament to his manners, which were courtly. Dad was a typical old English gentleman, and she was a well-bred young woman, so they were very well paired.

Has this man got food issues, or 'I like to keep my wife on the back foot' issues?

No prizes for guessing which applies.

They sound like lovely parents Jux it's a really sweet story.

I wouldn't mind catering for someone who was pretty fussy, or fit round someone's schedule, as long as they didn't make life too difficult. I am happy to cook different meals sometimes as long as it can all be done together easily and not create too much extra washing up. But it is the total lack of appreciation and selfishness of not being willing to let you know so you don't waste your time and money cooking an unnecessary meal.

leaving all the responsibility for organising food to someone else then it not being good enough

My EA ex did that too! I hope he treats you well otherwise OP?