Is it suddenly ok to smoke in these circumstances?

[BeanCalledPickle]

Restaurant at lunch. Extremely busy place with no chance of sitting anywhere other than booked table. They pack them in and we were at a small table with our elbows virtually touching the couple next door. They had a packet of fags on the table but I didn't think much of it. I used to smoke a lot but wouldn't have done while in such close proximity to people eating and also to someone three weeks off her due date which is my current state!

Ordered and food quickly turns up. Two mins after we start eating they light up. They are inches away and so I politely ask if they would mind not smoking. They react with 'oh that's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. We are outside!!' To which I just politely say that I'm sorry to inconvenience them but I would like to eat without being in a cloud of smoke especially as I'm pregnant.

They huff and puff ( but do put their fags out) while we eat and because they are sat so close we are acutely aware of the comments and the moaning. They ask for the bill same time as us but then send it back and ask for more wine when they realise we are leaving. Many more comments about how they can now enjoy themselves.

I thought I had been reasonable in asking them politely not to smoke but when I mentioned this to friends later they said I should have sucked it up as we were outside and so its ok. Is it ok now? I wouldn't have done that in my smoking days. Not in such close proximity to anyone, especially not a massive pregnant woman! Am I just being over sensitive at the moment??

Yanbu. Yuk. Smoke covered food. Sounds like the design of the restaurant is at fault here.

I get a genuine cough if I feel smoke. It itches in my throat.
So, I'd have been excused if I coughed in the couple's direction without covering my mouth, after all they were not taking precautions with people next to them. I bet they would be pleased. :)

Where do you want them to go and smoke? YANBU to want to eat e
Without smoke in your face but YABU to have inconvenienced them.

Where do you want them to go and smoke?

Nowhere or outside the restaurant.
Smoking is not a physiological need.

If I want to pee I go to the toilet. I don't inconvenience other people with it.

I smoke, only one in the morning and again in the evening when dd goes to bed (outside obv) and I would NEVER DREAM of smoking next to a pregnant woman, in fact I don't light up outside coffee shops if there's a non smoker sat on the table next to me. It's just so unfair and yanbu to have asked them so nicely as you are pregnant.

Agree with Lweji I would always move away from tables to smoke.

I wouldn't have asked them to put it out. Smokers can't really smoke anywhere these days. I'm not a smoker btw.

I'd have (quite literally) sucked it up

I'm a smoker and I move away from children and people who are eating. I wasn't aware I couldn't smoke on a train platform because I don't use trains, so when I lit up a cig on a platform (there were no signs other than in the ticket office) I moved away from everyone else.

If my friend's baby comes round, we don't smoke in the house for 4 hours beforehand. always at the door/outside. but i don't see why I shouldn't be allowed to smoke outside/in my own home/in my car.

Nanny state, swear to god.

but i don't see why I shouldn't be allowed to smoke outside/in my own home/in my car.
Has anyone said you couldn't?

"outside" is not exactly the same as in a crowded outside area in a restaurant.

The places we can smoke reduce dramatically by the month.
Few bars/restaurants/etc have pleasant smoking areas now.
If non-smokers want to go out for a meal or drink on a nice day, may I kindly suggest they go to one of the plethora of places that don't accommodate smokers?
Thank you :)

A know lots of smokers who wouldn't eat when they were eating themselves. So why would other people want to eat when someone else is smoking?

Non smokers shouldn't have to plan their meals around smokers (when they eat out)

If restaurants can properly accommodate both smokers and non smokers then that's good. If they can't then non smokers should be prioritised.