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AIBU?

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Original poster

For a child though?!

86 replies

Janehillson · 07/04/2015 22:22

First Aibu despite lurking for ages. It's a trivial one.

My friend has an utterly beautiful 3 year old daughter, her only child. The kind of kid who is so pretty that she gets comments about her frequently. My friend is perfectly lovely, a wonderful person with her head firmly screwed on. You get the picture.

So, we meet for lunch and they walk in with matching Gucci bags, albeit her daughters is a miniature version of hers. She didn't buy it especially for her, it was hers from when she was a teen. I can't help but think its vulgar (obv didn't say this!). Friend is doing this in a v tongue in cheek way and thinks its quite comical but didn't mention it until I pointed it out. Surely this is off another planet behaviour. Admittedly I don't have kids so maybe ill change my mind when I do on this kind of thing?!!

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Cabbagesaregreen · 07/04/2015 22:25

Yabu. No harm done surely.

abigboydidit · 07/04/2015 22:25

Am afraid I think YABU. If she had spent ££ on a bag then I may have hoiked my judgey pants but that sounds sweet. Am not sure why you object?

ChipDip · 07/04/2015 22:26

Yabu and should wind your neck in. Why did you need to point it outConfused

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Janehillson · 07/04/2015 22:27

I get what you mean. Just seems a bit vulgar.

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WorraLiberty · 07/04/2015 22:27

I think it's quite sweet.

The child probably wanted a handbag like her Mum's, so her Mum gave it to her.

I have no idea what her pretty looks have to do with it though?

MrsFlannel · 07/04/2015 22:28

I wouldn't know a Gucci bag if you smacked me in the face with one. Now THAT'S classy! Grin Not even knowing what one is...pure class.

Judging someone for allowing their toddler to carry one...that's vulgar.

I am half joking OP but really...judging is not classy.

ilovesooty · 07/04/2015 22:29

Not quite sure where vulgarity comes into it.

SanityClause · 07/04/2015 22:29

What's the issue? She let her 3yo carry a handbag, that she got out of the back of the wardrobe. Confused

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Janehillson · 07/04/2015 22:29

Worraliberty I just mean that because she is so pretty you notice her anyway, then it's like "holy shit that adorable 3 year old has a designer bag"

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VanitasVanitatum · 07/04/2015 22:29

Vulgar?!? Passing on something she had as a child to her daughter is not vulgar.

Why is the child's appearance relevant?

EatShitDerek · 07/04/2015 22:30

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Philoslothy · 07/04/2015 22:31

I would do something like that, I am quite vulgar though.

coppertop · 07/04/2015 22:31

So a toddler was given one of her mum's old bags?

I really don't see what the big deal is.

WorraLiberty · 07/04/2015 22:32

Oh come off it.

I wouldn't know a designer bag if you blew it up and burst it in my ear and I know there are 1000s of other people like me too.

"3yr old wants to copy Mum. Mum gives 3yr old secondhand handbag".

It's hardly a 'stop the press' moment.

In this case it's no more or less 'vulgar' than if it was a Primark handbag, or would you object to that too?

msgrinch · 07/04/2015 22:32

yabu. My mum got dsis and I mini bags (25 and 18 years ago). My parents could afford it. It didn't hur anyone and I actually think it's quite sweet.

AtSea1979 · 07/04/2015 22:32

Huh I don't get what the problem is or why being pretty is relevant. Am I missing something? My DD (6) loves having bags and putting random toys in them, we have lots of vulgar pink, frozen, my little pony ones. If I could afford a nice Gucci one I'd get one, anything is better than bright pink!

BabyDubsEverywhere · 07/04/2015 22:34

My DD1 (6) naffs most of my bags at some point, admittedly not 'designer' but still expensive. I've had most of them a good while and really don't mind her taking one to the shops or wherever, its not vulgar, its perfectly normal young dc like to emulate their parents... or I thought so anyway!

pictish · 07/04/2015 22:35

Would it have been ok if her little girl was plain?

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Janehillson · 07/04/2015 22:35

It might get lost though, it's worth a few hundred quid surely? That's why I probably wouldn't think it vulgar if it was a primark one. Possibly.

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GloGirl · 07/04/2015 22:36

Yabu

nilbyname · 07/04/2015 22:36

Um..... I think you sound a bit bonkers and in a really weird way begrudging of the dds attractiveness. It's like you're rhibking this mummy and her ds are getting above thier station or something.

Odd. Very odd. Confused

WorraLiberty · 07/04/2015 22:36

You're worried that it might get lost?

How does that make it 'vulgar'?

What does it have to do with her pretty looks (ugly kids lose stuff too).

Would they bill you for the cost if it did get lost?

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Janehillson · 07/04/2015 22:37

Pictish - that's not what I meant at all! You're twisting my words. But naturally beautiful children do attract attention. People like kids, ESP when they are v cute, if you see what I mean. I accept this is a vv trivial issue! I'm not losing sleep over it Wink

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butterfly2015 · 07/04/2015 22:37

My 9 year old has more bags and purses than me. She has an asda card with money on it (originally a refund for something we returned as faulty) so she likes putting money on it she she can pay with her card if she buys something.

BabyDubsEverywhere · 07/04/2015 22:38

Why would it get lost? She probably didn't take it into a soft play, was close to her mom, her mom would check she had it when they leave where ever they are... like you do with the rest of the stuff dc carry about. Its really not a big deal!