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AIBU?

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For a child though?!

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Janehillson · 07/04/2015 22:22

First Aibu despite lurking for ages. It's a trivial one.

My friend has an utterly beautiful 3 year old daughter, her only child. The kind of kid who is so pretty that she gets comments about her frequently. My friend is perfectly lovely, a wonderful person with her head firmly screwed on. You get the picture.

So, we meet for lunch and they walk in with matching Gucci bags, albeit her daughters is a miniature version of hers. She didn't buy it especially for her, it was hers from when she was a teen. I can't help but think its vulgar (obv didn't say this!). Friend is doing this in a v tongue in cheek way and thinks its quite comical but didn't mention it until I pointed it out. Surely this is off another planet behaviour. Admittedly I don't have kids so maybe ill change my mind when I do on this kind of thing?!!

OP posts:

Focusfocus · 08/04/2015 09:12

FFS.

you've come on a forum and created a thread about the fact that mummy handed down a miniature version of her bag from her childhood to her little girl.

Oh god.

What next. I think AIBU has really seen it all.

Eminybob · 08/04/2015 09:12

msgrinch I actually thought that op's 2nd post was a failed name change sock puppet.

OP you are so strange and sooooo U got staring this thread. You said yourself your friend is lovely and it was done tongue in cheek so how you can call it vulgar is beyond me. If anything it's cute. It's irrelevant to you. It's a non issue. You are odd.

DrWhooves · 08/04/2015 09:17

Me and 4 year old DD have matching Hello Kitty handbags that MIL brought us back from Thailand. I love them and DD is happy because she has a place to keep all her precious crap treasure.

Happyringo · 08/04/2015 09:24

glad you're not my friend op! Did you tell her how strange you found her daughter's handbag choices?

Gileswithachainsaw · 08/04/2015 09:27

Why is it in MN that any purchase that's not from a charity shop or was found lying on the street is deemed vulgar.

People are free to actually buy stuff for their kids. I personally wouldn't spend hundreds on something because I don't have it but if someone does then what's the problem.

Kids are treated on here as if they deserve nothing more than scraps and should be grateful

pictish · 08/04/2015 09:40

Gender neutral scraps at that.

Gileswithachainsaw · 08/04/2015 09:43

Gileswithachainsaw · 08/04/2015 10:05

And besides, and this only applies to those who can afford to. not those like myself who can't, what's the point?

Wtf is the point on shopping in aldi, on forgoing holidays, on using hand me downs for you babies and kids. what's the point in going through life watching what you spend if your not going to enjoy spending out on the odd thing.

kids in gap? hell no, charity shop primark all the way. John lewis? fuck that my kids get their school shoes out of skips, why buy a prom dress just wear the curtains. hey look we can afford a nice meal out but there's a burger van over there with a bogof deal. This competitive non spending on here is a joke. fir some this is their life and they wouldn't choose it so why are you. what's the point if your not ever going to treat you selves or the family.

A second hand gucci handbag. so what if it was new. so what. spending money on kids is not vulgar. of your the kind if parent who spoils their kid well you can do the damage just as easily with a 10p bag of haribo. be case it's about rewarding negative behaviour and giving in to demands. A kids not spoilt cos you bought one handbag. as if they know how much it was anyway.

Aridane · 08/04/2015 10:10

YABU, and a bit rude to point this out to her. Your friend and her daughter sound lovely.

flanjabelle · 08/04/2015 10:13

My toddler has a Jimmy choo clutch bag that she likes to take her toys out in. It came free with some perfume and she fell in love with it. Would I be judged too? Funny I thought I was being nice to my little girl.

MagentaOeuflon · 08/04/2015 10:14

I'd be a bit though I would probably say "Oh what a nice bag sweetheart" and ask her to show me it, just to make it fun for her.

But I'd be thinking that 3 is a bit young to be given an expensive bag to lug around and that it's teaching her some odd values – like that expensive designer bags are where it's at. But, if it's just for fun and the child is encouraged in other ways too – i.e. isn't just being told all that matters is being beautiful and having a nice bag – then no harm done.

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