AIBU to believe there is no baby on earth who is "too heavy to carry" at six months?

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AIBU to believe there is no baby on earth who is "too heavy to carry" at six months?

Too heavy for a crappy carrier with no waist support and marketable but unergonomic design, definitely.

Too heavy to carry full stop - absolutely not.

Full disclosure - I still carry my 3yo on occasion, much easier to sling than piggy back when her legs get tired.

It's a shame if they think a six-month-old is too heavy simply because they aren't aware of the range of slings that are available. I didn't find my children heavy to carry at six months, but I did find that I had to cart around a lot of paraphernalia with them (cloth nappies, food, water, change of clothes etc).

I rarely carry DD now because she's 2.3 and I think she's too heavy for more than about 20 minutes, but am fully aware than many people would still carry children of this age.

Yabu

I tried several and they all hurt my long neck. I also hated being permanently attached to my dc.So sue me.

Never forget as a twin mum being told to get a sling and twins were no excuse not to.MN keeps on giving even after all these years.

We have to feed our dc in a certain way,sleep with them in a certain way,respond to crying in a certain way and now hold them in a certain way.Kind of wondering who died and made MN posters boss of every mother.

Why on earth would anybody want to carry 2 year olds,mine used their legs.

Never forget as a twin mum being told to get a sling and twins were no excuse not to

Ds' childminder is a twin mother who carried twins for years. She even gave carrying ds a go but as I said he is not a man to be carried. She reverted to the buggy too.

My 2 year old didn't walk as far or as quickly as I wanted to unfortunately (and often not in the same direction...). And she napped!

My son (now adult height 6ft 4in) was well over 18lb at 6 months. He was too heavy for me, I'm only just over 5ft!

I effing HATE baby wearing.
Why anyone would want to carry a three yr old around is beyond me. Shouldn't they be learning road safety and other things about the world they inhabit by then?

In saying that I have two slings, because they can be useful sometimes. But for babies up to 12 months, no more.

Hellrunner maybe if you made your 6 year old walk more often and was not so soft on him and prepared to carry him he would have been able to cope with that walk.... hmmmmmmmm ??? [head tilt].

Seriously though..... it is just a little bit unbelievable that anyone is being judgy about this. Seriously?

I cannot take that seriously.

Pathetic.

Totally horses for courses and all that. As a sling user with a reluctant 3 year old walker who prefers a buggy carrying his 10 month old baby sister I have lost so much weight and have never been so strong. Bloody awesome for that reason!

I'm sure you're much better qualified to tell random strangers whether they are able to carry their child for long periods than e.g. the physiotherapist who is treating their SPD/childbirth injury/diastasis recti. So do carry on.

Corn chips - tilt your stupid head all you want. My children are not short of exercise in the slightest. I have not carried him in ages just after many active cycling walking etc he had already walked 5 miles on rough terrain - was tired. I call you more judgy but if you like the idea of mothers unable to carry a few pounds of baby around then welcome to unfit Britain.

8-9 years ago, I was fine with a baby in a carrier, though i couldn't carry him far without one.

These days, not so much.

Maybe you're disregarding the general health of the person concerned, OP.

It would be nice if there was a better range of carriers and slings on the mass market to give people a better and more comfortable choice about carrying their babies/ toddlers.

I carried Ds1 for much of his first year in a baby born type and found it useful in addition to the pram or for things like using a small trolley at the supermarket.

Before Ds2 I resolved to upgrade the carrier as I knew a bit more then. When it snowed at 7 months pregnant, I found it easier to back carry a 2 year old with walking poles. SPD made me stop pushing the buggy around then as the push motion aggravated it, whereas the carrier held my posture better.

I kept my single pram and buggy and have a few carriers/ slings and have alternated Ds1 / Ds2 according to their need, and still do at 2 and 4. I probably haven't saved money, but it's been very flexible. Ds2 is just under 2 st, and Ds1 just over. Ds1 is more comfortable as he moulds into me better and wriggles thrashes less. My strength has grown with them.

Now I need less stuff with me, it is handy having a sling as back up for tired legs, and easier than a buggy for back up.

People ask if they're heavy. My response is that the 3 of us combined weigh less than I did the week Ds1 was born!

I've made choices that suit me. Other people make choices that suit them. It would just be good to have that choice of product range more accessible in shops.

Oh, I got pissed off with people telling me to wear my buggy hating ten month old like it was the answer to all my problems. I could only wear her indoors. Damn right she was too bloody heavy, and I was still suffering from SPD so my back and pelvis were (and still are) shot to pieces.

And, y'know, the small matter of how I was supposed to wear a heavy baby AND carry a change bag AND carry groceries...

it's handy for things like the tube

Well, now you mention it, not only is there a woeful lack of sling libraries in my Northeastern pit village, but we're quite inadequately served by the tube, too.

The biggest sling enthusiast I've ever come across (ticked all the AP boxes obviously) used to regularly boast that she'd never owned a buggy, like it was something to be commended for.

Then I realised she drove everywhere.

Here's your medal OP.

In fact, make it a fucking halo, and then get over yourself!

Prams are the most popular option for transporting a baby in the UK. Most babies are very happy in a pram, especially if it's rear facing.

Artanco no - they were both heavy however they were carried (a combination of their and my low muscle tone) but carrying them from one place to another in the house wasn't all that arduous in my 2 up 2 down, without pushing all their stubborn protruding bits in between me and a bit of cloth for the sake of the 5 seconds it took. I did manage DS1 in a bjorn for an hour or so at a time, when he was about 6 months, as he liked nuzzling into my neck. We mostly used it in a computer chair for naps. As soon as he got too big for that, any sort of baby wearing ended.

I did try some different things (eg Maya wrap, worn various ways) with DS2, but between my boobs and his floppiness, it just did not work and he often ended up with his neck dangerously bent. We persevered, but never got out of the house with anything but a buggy or the old Bjorn, which bent him over less than anything else, probably on account of the natural pillows I had plenty of, at the time.

And yes, I walked a lot, hence the buggy love. Rearfacing buggies were a rare breed around a decade ago. Not that DS1 would have cared because he was a nosy bugger.

Oh Lord now it's about unfit Britain, is it?

It must be so boring to have the kind of mind that can get all tied up in knots over someone else's perfectly valid baby transportation choices. I wouldn't even call it a parenting choice because it's not.

Buggies are the best- you can data chocolate bar without them seeing you...!

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