AIBU to believe there is no baby on earth who is "too heavy to carry" at six months?

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AIBU to believe there is no baby on earth who is "too heavy to carry" at six months?

Too heavy for a crappy carrier with no waist support and marketable but unergonomic design, definitely.

Too heavy to carry full stop - absolutely not.

Full disclosure - I still carry my 3yo on occasion, much easier to sling than piggy back when her legs get tired.

If a baby is too heavy for the mother god help her when it gets older! I have just carried my six year old piggy back for 2 miles on a country walk as he got too tired.

ketura really?

A child asleep or a young baby is a dead weight, a toddler supporting its own head and holding itself straight is far far easier. That's holding them with no sling etc.

Too heavy for me because I prefer not to carry 12 kilos unnecessarily.

Possibly most PA nonsense thread topic ever.

YABU. How do you know what it's like for anyone else?! I had to give up carrying 16 lb DS when he was 3 months, as my back was knackered. My osteopath strongly advised me to switch from sling to stroller.

I stopped carrying my son around at 5 months old and he wasn't (and isn't) a big child. Surely it depends how big the baby is and how strong you are? A sling is more convenient than a buggy, but it's much harder work.

I was diagnosed with an anterior and posterior prolapse at 6 weeks. Try carrying a 6 month old whose extra weight pushes your bladder and bowel out of your fanny to rub between your legs and then say that again.

Yawn.

But to answer your question, I think it's perfectly fine for a parent to decide that they consider a six month old baby too heavy to carry. I don't understand why it's any of your business. So yes, YABU.

One - I thought you were talking about carrying in a sling, not just in arms.

Why is how people transport their baby so worrying to you
Fa sling is no better than front carrier buggy car seat wtc in that they all serve their purposes?

I thought the baby wearers were all attachment parenting hippy dippy hessian sporting tofu lovers.

1&2 were massive and in buggies all the way/DC3-got an ergobaby sling on impulse on a city break. Ditched the pushchair then and there. Also weigt bearing exercise means can eat more. I am at myself for having carried 1 year old dc3 for 5 hrs yesterday and 5 hrs today. Am making light work of steps/cobbles/historic sights where we are visiting. She is not restless, heavy and sleeps well in sling. I still can't believe it. I'll be eating lentils next. Each to their own - different people - different babies.

Why do you care?

I find it very weird how judgey the baby wearing/co sleeping/car seat obsessive people are.

Yabu

It's your parenting choice to use a sling ... It was mine not to!

It doesn't make you a better parent or person.

My babies were very heavy and I've had spinal surgery, therefore a pram works for me. If someone told me that I should try more slings to find one to suit, I might want to slap them!

People who are judgy and smug about things like this make me smile benevolently and shake my head in a yet more judgy and smug way right back at them. Firstly for being so utterly boring and tedious. Secondly for actually believing in their own superiority to such a worrying degree. Pride very often does come before a fall. Your children might grow up to hate you, they might grow up to love you. Or they might be quite indifferent. But one thing's for certain, they won't give a flying fuck whether you 'wore' them or not.

'You' being the collective you, not the OP...

I carried ds around in a sling because I wanted too and ds loved it

Others do not for various reasons why others get angry or even care is baffling

It's another tick on the list for some parents to be smug about

Baby wearing definitely odd expression. As though they are a jaunty jumper or some such accessory

Agree Fitz

Awful

BertieBotts how is tongue tie a thing you 'do' or not and how is it connected to bf/baby wearing/cloth nappies? (none of which I knew were connected till a year after my ds was born so I am obviously missing something on tongue tie too!)

Op yanbu re a 6 month old actually being too heavy to lift for most people ie with no back problems.

Yabu if you think everyone should use a slibg just because of that.

I used a baby bjorn now and then last time and it was a magical settle for ds but it wasn't a particular philosophy I had chosen-wasn't even aware of the 'babywearjng' movement!

Why on earth would you care? I tried a million slings, went to sling libraries, got lots of help. My dd hated them all and they exacerbated my existing back problems, so I stuck to the pram. I have no idea why anyone would give a flying f* about any of that.

I carried dd2 around until she was over 2. DS on the other hand used to do this mad thing of trying to get out of the sling from 6 mths, he hated it and slings, and I tried loads of them, became more hassle than they were worth at this point.

milkado - tongue tie can affect breastfeeding (and bottle feeding, but is more of an issue with breast) so you might decide to get it treated to continue breastfeeding or you might prefer to switch to bottles.

I carried tiny DD a lot in the first 6 months and quite often for a year after that. Then she mostly walked herself, she didn't like being back carried. Easy peasy.

DS is much much bigger, 6 months now and over 20 lbs. I am 5 years older, breastfeeding and feeling physically tired most of the time. I am petite and not physically fit at the moment.

I find it hard carrying him around the house, the idea of slinging him to the shops just does not occur. I think the last time I used my ergo he was 4 months. I might get it out for back carry when he's a bit older if a buggy would be really inconvenient but I can't see it happening tbh.