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To think £300 a month is a lot?

133 replies

Goldenyellowhibiscus · 04/04/2015 22:34

DP has moved in. They have offered to contribute £300 a month to house and bills.

That seems a lot to me especially considering they often buy the food shopping/pay for treats.

They are adamant it's not enough!

Who is right me me

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Catnap26 · 04/04/2015 22:45

Why not save some of the money if you think it's too much and then use it for something for the both of you,a new TV,a holiday etc

Fluffyears · 04/04/2015 22:45

Me and dp pay £800 a month each to cover all outgoings including food so £300 seems cheap.

CycleChic · 04/04/2015 22:45

The only way to know is to do the math. What's your rent? What bills go out of your account each month? If £300 is somewhere close to half that, it's fine :) exactly half that when DP is paying for other things and yeah ,it's maybe too much. Save the extra above what you think is fair to treat DP with a holiday perhaps?

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Goldenyellowhibiscus · 04/04/2015 22:46

Yes, I suppose I could do that catnap - thanks :)

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FuckingLiability · 04/04/2015 22:46

Sigh.

How much is your rent/mortgage?

Do you live alone or with parents?

What are your usual monthly costs?

Do you mean parents or partner?

Christ alive, read your posts again and realise why people are questioning it because you have been extremely vague.

HTH

ColdCottage · 04/04/2015 22:46

That doesn't seem enough. When I first moved in with DH we both paid £650 a month into a join account for rent and bills. Shopping was usually on top of that.

I'd say split the rent and the bills (monthly standing order into a join account) then maybe take turns doing the food shop.

mynewpassion · 04/04/2015 22:47

He might not be paying the mortgage because she might not want him to get part of the house

So, its 300 on top of the food shopping? Is it just the two of you?

FuckingLiability · 04/04/2015 22:47

Sorry. X post

brittabot · 04/04/2015 22:47

Do all your outgoings relating to your home/bills/food amount to less than £600 a month? If so please let me know where you live!

peacefuleasyfeeling · 04/04/2015 22:47

Half of everything? Kitty for grocery shop?

MrsWembley · 04/04/2015 22:48

So, hang on here... Are you complaining that your DP is offering too much?

Shock
mynewpassion · 04/04/2015 22:48

Well, if you think its too much, then tell him how much you want him to pay. Problem solved.

99pokerface · 04/04/2015 22:49

Ask dp to pay half of yu don't have a child then he or she needs to pay half end of

SwingingBalls · 04/04/2015 22:49

Without knowing more, it's hard to say.

How much do your bills add up to (including mortgage/rent)?

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Goldenyellowhibiscus · 04/04/2015 22:49

No, there are 2 children too (mine.)

FL - I didn't imagine anyone would think I meant my parents, to be totally honest with you: in my neck of the woods people don't tend to talk about their parents moving in! But I did clarify matters.

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madmother1 · 04/04/2015 22:50

Blimey my DS pays £200 towards his keep!! £300 is nothing when it's your DP. I'd say split all the bills in half.

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Goldenyellowhibiscus · 04/04/2015 22:50

No, I'm not complaining! It's really very sweet but my first thought was just that it was a lot given they do the food shop, pay for treats (drinks, ice creams, theatre tickets and so on?)

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Eggynuff · 04/04/2015 22:51

Why does gender of partner matter? Confused

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Goldenyellowhibiscus · 04/04/2015 22:54

It doesn't. Why? :)

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Joyfulleastersquad · 04/04/2015 22:54

it depends on how well off you are AND dp.

If your rolling in cash and don't need it then fine go with the token amount. BUT if your not, then you need a frank discussion about splitting the bills fairly and it may even go on your incomes.

If your on £100,000 a year it's not really fair to make some one earning £18,000 pay half the bills. If your both earning roughly the same then split them.

Don't rush in and take a token amount when you could actually be short changed. Your Bulls will go up do £300 extra a month me get not be that month. Plus you may end up going shed loads of extra washing, cleaning and cooking - so £300 isn't really a lot.

If you feel embarrassed asking for more this is the wrong time to move in.

textfan · 04/04/2015 22:54

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DianeLockhart · 04/04/2015 22:55

Surely it depends how much the rent, bills and outgoings are.

300 a month seems very cheap but maybe you are in and cheaper area? You should work out the amount and split in half - that's the fair amount for your dp to pay.

MyOneandYoni · 04/04/2015 22:57

Ask him to double it.

anothernumberone · 04/04/2015 22:58

I genuinely do not think there are many places in the UK an adult could live for £300 plus food. I remember struggling to live on £1400 as a very young graduate 20 years ago. I think I would struggle in s relationship if another adult was not paying theor fair share of household expenses. That may mean you need to protect tenancy or mortgage rights for yourself and your children but that can be done.

AyeAmarok · 04/04/2015 22:58

What is your rent/mortgage, council tax, bills total each month?

We really need this information to tell you if it's too much or too little.