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Come around for dinner they said…

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itosh · 02/04/2015 17:25

So we have friends that live forever away (well not that far maybe an hour ). It has been a long day but our friends were very keen we came around for dinner as wanted to cook for us etc etc. Have just received a text saying "so looking forward to you coming! Can you eat beforehand as we can't be arsed to cook! See you in an hour x x "

This gives us no time to get food and comes across pretty rude. When they have come to ours for dinner we have given them dinner…

AIBU to be really late as we now have to eat without having been given any prior warning?

OP posts:
StripeyTulip · 02/04/2015 17:27

Tell them you can't be arsed to come! Or to let you know when they can be bothered to cook....
That's really rude, would put a damper on the evening for me Easter Angry

WilburIsSomePig · 02/04/2015 17:27

I wouldn't go.

sneepy · 02/04/2015 17:27

I'd cancel on them right back. Can they not even be bothered to suggest a takeaway?

OhNoNotMyBaby · 02/04/2015 17:28

Sorry, I've got a really bad migraine - I can't drive and need to go to bed immediately!.

WipsGlitter · 02/04/2015 17:28

I'd not go to be honest. Just St text back.

Righto. Pretty wrecked as well so let's take a rain check.

MrsFlannel · 02/04/2015 17:28

Text back and say "Oh what a pity as we're starving! We're going to start cooking something now so may not make it...."

monkeysaymoo · 02/04/2015 17:28

Very rude. Reminds me of when friends invited us for dinner and when we arrived was told "oh we want to watch the football and can't arsed to cook so have ordered take away you share is £20."

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 02/04/2015 17:28

Oh God, don't go, they've broken the agreement.

Rearrange the date, lazy arses indeed!

catsoup · 02/04/2015 17:29

Just reply "Sorry can't be arsed to come. See ya!"

They're bloody rude and I wouldn't be impressed.

Jinglebells99 · 02/04/2015 17:29

i wouldn't go either. text them and say you will come another day when they can be bothered to cook.

beginnerrunner · 02/04/2015 17:29

Can't you just get take away when you're there?

TheTravellingLemon · 02/04/2015 17:29

I think that's ridiculous. Either way it means you have to eat really early. Why don't you say 'ok, we're going to stop at [place half way] for a bite, why don't you join us for dunner or drinks after?'

FenellaFellorick · 02/04/2015 17:30

What are they going to be eating?

How about suggesting a takeaway or something?

I'd be tempted to cancel. If they can't be arsed to even knock up a sandwich, I would probably assume they didn't really want me there and were hoping I'd cancel.

PunkrockerGirl · 02/04/2015 17:30

That's really rude. They could have at least suggested you get a takeaway together. I wouldn't go, I'd be too annoyed and it would spoil the evening.

KeturahLee · 02/04/2015 17:31

I'd text back and say you'll go home and cook now and will let them know later if you're still going to come over.

Gileswithachainsaw · 02/04/2015 17:31

I probably wouldnt go tbh. not because of not being fed, that wouldn't be an issue had I known about it and could have had a big lunch and a quick sandwich tea and be raring to go. bit because by the time yku have cooked and eaten it's hardly worth travelling g an hour away o my to have to turn round and come back two hours later if your not a stay up half the night talking person.

If they were a short drive away fine but not an hour or more.

They could at least have got some pizzas in

MagelanicClouds · 02/04/2015 17:32

Either don't bother going or stop off for a honking great takeaway on your way, eat it in front of them and refuse to share.

Rhymerocket · 02/04/2015 17:32

I'd be mighty pissed too. But do u think there is a reason for it, like would they be short of money and can't afford to feed you. Surely no one would be this rude for no reason?

ThroughThickandThin · 02/04/2015 17:34

Cheeky buggers. I'd take a takeaway round - not enough for them - and lovingly tuck into it and make them jealous.

Or I'd text "too tired to eat first and then come over. Let's do it another time"

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 02/04/2015 17:36

"No problem had a better offer, see you another time!"

KatieKaye · 02/04/2015 17:36

Really rude!
And inconsiderate.
I'd reply "sorry, by the time we've gone food shopping and then coked it'll be too late. We've got nothing in as we were going to eat at yours. Let us know when you want to reschedule."

Which is PA but they deserve it!

Original poster
itosh · 02/04/2015 17:37

Thanks for all your answers. I would love to cancel but it seems I am too much of a wuss!! I replied saying if there is a pub near them that we can eat at… that way me and DP will still enjoy ourselves and maybe we will a little merry (going to get train) so that by the time we see them the anger will hopefully be faded.

Rhymerocket one of them has just got a big fancy new job so I don't think it is money.. but who knows.

xx

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PTAblues · 02/04/2015 17:37

They could get pizzas in if they couldn't be arsed. Cheeky feckers. No way would I go.

partialderivative · 02/04/2015 17:39

With my mates it would not be a problem. They are friends because I have known them for donkey's years and have shared thousands of experiences with them. I would never feel the need for them to explain.

Does it make a difference that I am a bloke and am talking about bloke mates I have known for 30+ years? They would feel they same.

seaoflove · 02/04/2015 17:41

So rude Grin I can't imagine inviting people over for dinner and then changing the plans because I couldn't be arsed to cook! That just shows a real lack of desire to be nice hosts and friends, doesn't it?

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